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Winston has raised some good points recently upon his return from vacation. Sadly, I have to echo his sentiments. I am finding too many Filipina girls lately that I've talked to (inclulding the ones I've narrowed it down to) are at times, the biggest dunces on the planet. It's all about eat, f**k and loaf around. Rinse and repeat. I will not be anyone's sugar daddy either. I am a dirt poor artist trying to make ends meet. I will admit -- I do value some intellectual connection. I don't expect Einstein II, just someone who can relate to me, and vice versa. Truth is, I will be treated differently there in the Philippines strictly because i am a foreigner. (the Santa Claus effect) If i were to assimilate as a regular citizen, I would probably be treated like crap because I'm not a Filipino to begin with. I'm a very open, candid, honest, and at times, blunt person. That's a very incompatible personality temperament for the culture it seems.
My 2 top girls have flaked on me too. One I haven't seen her on skype for almost 3 weeks now. According to her CB profile, she hasn't been on for 2. The other is ridiculously petty. I was logged onto Skype one night, tired and back home from a gig. My best friend engaged me in a conversation, and she was on at the same time. She logged off within 5 minutes because I didn't video call her, and I haven't seen her on since then. (that was last week). Mind you, I'm very consistent about my login times to that which we both agreed was a good time to talk with each other.
So, if its one that that I have gotten out of all of this is: if you aren't going to travel to the Philippines in the IMMEDIATE future (I'm talking within several months at max), they stray, and don't keep their word. I flat out told all of them UPFRONT, that I could not make it down for 6 months to a year due to my musical commitments/gigs. Let's be real folks -- the hottest CB girls are getting hit up all the time by other guys, and the local men are probably chasing after them as well.
All of this has caused a change of heart about even going now. If I go abroad permanently, it will not be in the Philippines. Winston's recent trip report about his scuff with locals sealed the deal for me. The biggest turn off by far is that I DO NOT care for anyone that sympathizes with "their own", even when they are perpetuating fraud or other criminal acts. And on top of that, you are expected to shut up about it, and not rock the boat. WHAT THE f**k IS THAT? I have too much of a conscience, and sense of justice and right and wrong to just let things be swept under the carpet. The Philippines might end up being like water and oil with me. It's just not going to mix. I've realized also that I am more attracted to the Northern/mainland Asians (Taiwan, Japan, Korea, China, etc.) At least they are educated well. I really like Latinas too, but haven't dated or tried one yet. Time to re-think my options.
Perhaps this should be going into the rants and raves section. I'll leave that up to Winston.
Last edited by jcris7 on October 5th, 2011, 1:11 am, edited 4 times in total.
"Women age like milk; Men age like wine." - Tom Leykis
Yes sir me too. Too childish its like being around a kid all the time. Like i said in my other post my main gripe with my ex among many was the expectation that i talk to her 2 times a day for 2 hours a day. She would whine like a child when i told her that would be impossible. Now for strictly f**k and flee i still want to visit Cebu.
I think there is something to be said about the strategy of going onto CB just a few weeks before you are planning to travel to the Philippines (or anywhere else) and setting up dates for when you arrive and determining then who you do or don't like. Its tough to develop and maintain a long term online relationship, though I know it happens.
While in some ways my experience has been similar to yours, in some ways its been different. I have chatted with a ridiculously large amount of girls! Yes, they sometimes come and go, but I think that is more the nature of online relationships and not unique to Filipinas. Girls who I thought there was a connection with sometimes disappeared, though sometimes returned a week or two later. Since many do not have stable financial lives, some have actually apologized to me that they were out of money for the Internet cafe or busy with their families or other reasons, whether true or not I don't know. For me (and perhaps this comes with old age) I just assume this is the norm.
I have also read a lot of comments about the dumb Filipina girls. Perhaps I have been lucky. I am chatting with several girls who are very bright, sharp and mature, as well as a number of others who while they may not be Einstein, are not dumb. The ones that I have encountered that were dumb, I immediately eliminated from consideration. Since there are so many attractive girls on CB, finding ones that stimulate me conversationally has not been a problem.
Of course I will admit that I am sucker for sweet, kind and pretty and when a girl has those qualities and likes me as well - it automatically raises her IQ 20 points.
Anyway, jcris, good luck wherever you decide to look or visit.
Sorry it didn't work out for you jcris. I haven't had that problem with filipinas generally. The few Chinese ladies I have spoken with, now they flake out very fast. One was suggesting I visit her for National Day a few weeks ago, and I explained that such a trip wasn't feasible that quickly and she was gone. I was her wo de bao bei and she was my shao xin gan. Oh well.
I can't recall the name of the member on here offhand, but he met his wife on cb and was meticulous about his search and I took that to heart. Unlike him though, I kept myself open to whoever emailed me and found several members I clicked with. What's funny is my initial top picks flaked out quickly too. One was a bit of a scammer and the other one disappeared. The ones I just felt a tenuous connection with grew stronger over time. Now I'm heading over in a few weeks to see several members that I really clicked with over time. My recommendation would be to keep it low key if you're not going to be getting there any time soon. And don't feel too badly if somebody flakes on you, since you've got such a number of women to choose from. Just keep it friendly since you really can't do anything more than chat for now. I've been profoundly impressed by how much these women respond to you when you express an interest in them even though you get nothing tangible out of it. You might be the only person in their lives that gives a shit about what they are going through, even if you are just a guy on a screen.
I also don't think filipinas are any dumber than the average American women. The difference is the average American girl got a degree studying something like the post-impressionist movement and can sound intelligent when she discusses it. Otherwise, she's a total bimbo. One of my ex's, God love her, managed to melt a plastic pot in the oven. I'd much rather have someone who can whip up a meal from a potato, a couple rocks and a pot, over someone who can discuss Toulouse-Lautrec, but doesn't know a damn thing about a kitchen.
Anyway, I'm still championing the Filipina cause. I appreciate you looking elsewhere though. There are some stunning Korean, Japanese, Chinese and South American women. Good luck to you.
I believe you are referring to Pete. I know who he is. Great guy! Yes, his efforts paid off. He found a gem of a Filipina -- beautiful, smart, dedicated, hard working. I know they are out there, but I sometimes get clouded with the cynicism of "too good to be true". That's kinda what happened with me. I was excited and hopeful with my girls, thought everything was going great, and then it gets pulled out from under me.
At this point, with my limited financial situation in the present, I am going to begin looking south of the border to Mexico. I'm here in Southern California.
"Women age like milk; Men age like wine." - Tom Leykis