Why would anyone start a relationship with a bargirl?

jcris7 · Post by **jcris7** » November 1st, 2011, 1:03 am

Trying to have a relationship/marriage with a bar girl is akin to Kim Kardashians marriage to Kris Humphries -- it's going to last just as long and end in a trainwreck, like zboy1 said.

mac9 · Post by **mac9** » November 1st, 2011, 2:20 am

It can all be described in this one word: desperation

S_Parc · Post by **S_Parc** » November 1st, 2011, 6:56 am

jcris7 wrote:Trying to have a relationship/marriage with a bar girl is akin to Kim Kardashians marriage to Kris Humphries -- it's going to last just as long and end in a trainwreck, like zboy1 said.

I think you're giving KK do much credit here. In reality, Kim wasn't happy with anyone, or vice versa, regardless. KK is an LA/Hollywood primadonna c**t, a worthless silver spoon brat with little to offer anyone. I don't believe that many successful Hollywood producers would want to date her either so she's stuck with sports players, mostly douchebag ones.

On the flip side, the main problem with a bar girl is that of routine and habit. A bar fly uses herself to attract men. If this isn't really what a she's looking for, in life, than perhaps she can just adapt to being an ordinary gal, planting gardens and wiping up some home cooked meals. Granted, the probabilities are against you but I still believe that it's more likely than any kind of successful relationship with a primadonna AW socialite.

Repatriate · Post by **Repatriate** » November 1st, 2011, 7:14 am

There's a 20'ish something white guy in my condo building that has an obvious bargirl girlfriend. She has the back tattoos, the rough look, and the sense of dress is very bar-girlish. They seem happy together. She's not very attractive and looks a bit like a tomboy but they have been together for a long time. At the apt I used to live at there was another guy with an obvious bar girl wife that had a kid with her.

I think many men are just willing to settle with whatever is available at the moment. Some aren't willing to invest time or effort into the pursuit or they get immediately frustrated when their attempts are met with initial reserved attitudes. A lot of very good girls come across as being cold or reserved in the beginning which is very different from American-style bitchiness.

Bar girls and the like are prostitutes so they have few reservations. Men who don't understand how to interact with women will gravitate towards what is hassle free in their eyes.

djfourmoney · Post by **djfourmoney** » November 1st, 2011, 10:53 am

Doesn't this sort of belong in the Asia forum???

Why? Because outside of SEA things like "Bar Girls" are fairly rare. The closest thing you'll find is "Part-Timers" usually college students in large cities like Kiev.

In much of the rest of the planet P4P is setup for locals, but that's true in SEA.

Banano · Post by **Banano** » November 1st, 2011, 12:08 pm

Bar girl = prostitute

So the question is: Why would anyone start a relationship with a prostitute?

Dating scene in anglosphere caused irreparable damage to these men that they are willing to settle for anything with a heartbeat.

Beckingham · Post by **Beckingham** » November 1st, 2011, 5:18 pm

i totally agree with your point of view and i guess one must not get into such a relationship.

davewe · Post by **davewe** » November 1st, 2011, 6:52 pm

ladislav wrote:
lavezzi wrote:
ladislav wrote:
It doesn't seem like it would be too tough to meet a good girl on a short trip from my perspective. If I flew to Cebu for a 2-week vacation I'm confident that I could find a "pure" girl who was everything I'd want in a life partner, get in good with her family, and go from there.

But once you lay her and then do not continue with her, you will have ruined her life.

Ladislav - can you expound on this a bit. So if you choose not to continue with such a girl, her life is ruined?

jf1016 · Post by **jf1016** » November 2nd, 2011, 2:58 am

@ davewe

i think if you get her pregnant and then leave her it will be very difficult for her to intergrate back in philippine society, maybe even impossible. alot of wonen who work in the bars seem to be single mothers,maybe thats part of the reson they work there to get a foriegner husband so they can have a better life abroad, i dont think a filipino guy would marry a filipina with kids not by him.