Tsar wrote: ↑December 5th, 2020, 11:43 am
No, in my break from Happier Abroad I learned to accept reality and human nature for what it truly is in 2020 at it's deepest level. All about money, follows, and status. It's not about genuineness or truth or love.
I am not jaded or cynical. I would love for romance and genuine love to actually exist but it is a fantasy for most. It died with feminism, social media, allowing woman to work, and the sexual revolution that allowed girls to be sluts.
Acknowleging reality is the same as acknowleging the myths of American opportunity, meritocracy, or freedom. American opportunity is a lie. Meritocracy vanished. Freedom is bought with money.
If I was jaded or cynical I would be an atheist but I believe in a higher power and an afterlife. I would also not believe in marrying a girl but I do believe in marrying a girl that deserves it (enough years of beauty remaining and whose virginity I was able to take).
When reality and ideality intersect it equals pragmatism.
The reality is that guys my age and older (like Doug Hutchinson) can get teen girls if they really want one. He did it in America which is almost impossible to do for even a billionaire and do it legally.
You never answered my question about Doug Hutchinson and why he could do it in America but I can't in societies abroad with more tolerance for age gaps. America is the most restrictive society when it comes to age gaps. Even 30 and 18 or 40 and 20 are disliked in America.
I may agree with you, that relationships are often based on convenience, money and status, opportunity, basically anything but genuine love and romance. Yet, good women do exist and it's silly, very silly, to give up without even trying.
So let me ask you: how many relationships have you actually had with girls, of any age? How many women, of any age, have you actually met and gotten to know intimately, even just a friends? I suspect the answer is: zero. If that is the case, what are you basing such a final and tragic judgment on? What you read on forums and blogs about neo-masculinity, MGTOW, "evil feminism" and the likes?
Whatever you had in the past is the past. You have now an opportunity to start fresh, in a country that at least will offer you the pleasure of discovery. Perhaps you will learn Bulgarian, perhaps you will find a stable job, perhaps you will meet new people. Whatever you will do, I think you need to drop the excessive pessimism about life and human relationships, including those with women.
Good women do exist, and they don't have to necessarily be 15 year old girls, or virgin. They don't have to necessarily have "such and such years of beauty left" because it's a human being we are talking about, not a carton of milk.
If you are not prepared to love a woman for all she is and all she can give you, you're simply not ready to enter a relationship. That's the reality, my friend. You probably need to grow into the idea that a relationship is far more than a sexy little thing in bed in exchange for some financial support. The sooner that happens, the sooner you will realise that there is, literally, an
ocean of young women worth your attention, or more.
About Doug Hutchison, it didn't ring any bell but I googled him and his marriage with a wannabe actress/musician, Courtney Stodden. Yes, that's right, he was 51 and 35 years older than her when he got married.
Virtually all articles I found about them, though, speak of a very miserable marriage, with several fights, separations and reconciliation until their divorce some time this year.
https://people.com/tv/courtney-stodden- ... antage-of/
Hardly an example of a successful "child bride" relationship, and one can only imagine why.
Plus, even her pics when she was 16 hardly looked like those of an innocent, virginal girl. She looked quite mature even at 16.
I don't know mate. I am sure you don't mean any harm but you do sound quite confused and you have a lot of growing up to do, in terms of understanding what relating to the opposite sex means. Once more, all I can say is:
- take your life step by step: stabilise yourself in Sofia, find a job, some friends who respect you and care for you, then you will be meeting all the girls you want
- learn to appreciate what people, including non-teenage women, can offer you, beyond physical beauty
- learn to give these people something of value, too: a few dollars are meaningless if you don't come across as a stable, confident man with a clear life plan.
