If a man is muscular, I can perceive that. I might think I would like to be more muscular like that. I just can't tell the difference between an average looking man and a good-looking man. Sometimes I'll ask my wife if she thinks an actor in a movie is good looking. It can actually help me follow the story line since the good-looking men usually get the girls at the end of the movie. Sometimes I guess wrong, and a man I'd think is not good-looking is supposed to be good-looking.droid wrote:That's like saying you can't tell whether a car or a vase is good looking. I can say one of those looks good and I would understand people buying them, without feeling sexual attraction for them. Perhaps like Krad suggested, when it comes to a chump you feel respect and perhaps wanting to emulate.
If I come here and start 'clarifying' that I can't tell whether a Ferrari is good looking/proportionate compared against a Nissan sentra, or even just on itself, people are going to question the nature of my discourse. Note the difference between having an opinion vs saying I can't produce an opinion.
I had a conversation once with a young man, a fellow co-worker back in the 1990's who said that someone told him he looked like Gérard Depardieu. He didn't think that was a complement because he thought Gérard Depardieu was not good looking. But some girl told him that that actor was good looking, so he considered the comparison a complement. He did look just a bit like Gérard Depardieu. I couldn't tell if that actor was good looking either, for looking at him. I suppose he must be because he played the leading man role in at least one movie.
No, I just wonder if the reason I can't tell if a man is good looking is because I didn't hear comments about whether men were good looking. My mom didn't comment on such things. She did occasionally comment on whether she found women to be attractive. I remember her saying she thought some Asian women were pretty, but didn't think Asian men looked attractive (sorry Asian guys if that hurts your feelings.) I also picked up on some negative attitudes about black people's looks when I was younger. I don't tend to perceive black women as pretty if they have typical subsaharan features. I'm wondering if the lack of input on male beauty caused me to have a lack of perception in this area. Biology probably drove me to perceive certain women as attractive. I wonder if perceiving male attractiveness is more a 'nurture' thing rather than 'nature' for most men, and I didn't get much input in my formative years on the topic of male beauty. I'm not a movie director, so it is not a skill that is particularly useful to me.You keep dancing about the thing, but won't admit it; You and yohan are just not being honest and saying "hey talking about a guy's looks is not masculine and proper, stay away from that, I'll stay away from that". That's why people started talking about this more than the article lol. I think frank went too far saying you were closeted, but people see something's off.
No, I can't tell if a man is good looking, and I posted that in a forum on a site where male and female attractiveness works its way into a lot of conversations, but a certain poster started making immature allegations."Men don't do such things, much"
I think this proves my point of you just trying to 'from-the-side' so to speak, emphasize that conservative notion. Nothing wrong with that and not trying to push a liberal thing on you here though, I actually agree once a guy starts making dude-looks assessments repeatedly then his masculinity comes into question.