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A few years ago I decided that I was sick and tired of the "American" dating game, and started looking at other avenues to find love and romance. It seemed that "American" women weren't interested in anything meaningful, just shallow sex and meaningless pop culture references. I'm a deep person, so such "relationships" left me starving and cold. I wondered if there was anything else out there.
I started looking at Russian pen-pals sites because I had read that Russian women were smart, feminine and beautiful in comparison to American women. The first women I corresponded with turned out to be a "Visa" scammer. It's seemed odd that she wouldn't answer any of my questions; instead professing her "undying" love to somebody she even met. At the end, I got a request for "Visa" money and "airfare tickets". They even had some fake travel agency logo to convince me they were legit. Needless to say, I never sent any money.
I was disheartened, but not ready to give up. I did some more research and stumbled across Winston Wu's site while researching Russian scams. I agreed with what Winston said about American culture and American women in particular. I got excited because it seemed that other people felt the same way I did. I wasn't alone.
I read all of Winston's e-books and looked at his photojournals. I won't go into my views on his "work" because I have stated the aforementioned views on the "flame" board, but I got disillusioned. I continued my research and finally hooked up with a genuine Russian pen-pal, and have had a lot of interesting conversations with her. Unfortunately, she is too young but it's interesting having a friend in a foreign country.
Meanwhile, I continued to date American women but each relationship seemed to be worse than the last. I still had a dream of traveling and dating foreign women so I decided to look into the Philippines. I researched all the islands, and taught myself a little Tagalog. I started looking for dating sites and found two good one that are free. One is jadeandrune.com and the other is called "Melinda's Pen-Pals". Steve and Mel, the couple who run the Melinda's pen-pals, are wonderful people who are a American-Filipina couple themselves. The people there are supportive, and are willing to share their knowledge about the P.I. and East/West relationships. "Bar Girls" and such are not really talked about much. I met a few people there, but got busy with life and kind of dropped off the board. Highly recommended though. I looked at pay sites, but they seemed a rip-off compared to the two aforementioned websites.
About four months ago, I started researching Thailand. I found an interesting site called "stickmanbangkok.com". This site has hundreds of user submitted stories about Thailand. They are mostly about "Bar Girls" and the "whoremonger" lifestyle, but very interesting reading nonetheless. I was most interested in the "Girlfriend" experience. A lot of men stated that these "Bar Girls" gave them more sex, love and affection than any "Western" girlfriend had ever done. I found this intriguing. I was thinking of traveling there in the near future, but I heard it has changed drastically in the past few years.
Recently, I have met a American women who I adore, and am looking to hopefully settle down with her. I have never met anyone who is more like me than her, and I am hopeful about having a future with her. Honestly, if she and I don't work out I definitely traveling abroad, however, be that as it may, I would like to share a few observations about the subject of foreign romances.
1.) Before you even start looking, decide WHAT YOU ARE REALLY LOOKING FOR! If you just want lots of young, cute pieces of ass, don't bother learning the culture, history, or the language. Just head to the nearest bar or hotel, and purchase your fun. Be honest, nice, and don't haggle!
2.) Understand that CULTURAL DIFFERENCES MATTER! Not everyone has grown up in a "Western" environment, and it pays to learn exactly what is similar and what is not. For instance, it is considered very rude to shake a man's hand in Thailand. When in Rome, do as the Romans do.
3.) Start out corresponding with handwritten letters if you can. Ladies love that fact that a man took the time to write them a letter. Handwritten letters are more personal and intimate. Taking the time to get to know someone through correspondence takes time but can really allow two people to bond much better than impersonal emails.
4.) NEVER SEND MONEY TO ANYONE YOU HAVE NEVER MET FACE TO FACE! Scammers love to play on the sympathy of people.
5.) TREAT FOREIGN WOMEN WITH RESPECT! Just because you have more education or money then they does do not make them "inferior" If you want a dog, buy a dog.
6.) Getting a foreign bride into a "western" country is tough and expensive. Besides, a foreign women will probably eventually adopt all those "cultural" ticks you hate so much. It might be better to live there.
In closing, I wish all you "serious" men good luck with your hunt. Remember that any relationship is tough, but a relationship with someone from a different culture and speaking a different language is much tougher. Throw in a huge age gap, and you have your work cut out for you. But the rewards, I feel, can be worth it.
The only online dating site I've actually ever signed up for is Melinda's Penpals.
I got banned from Melinda's Penpals after a few days, with no explanation at all. I asked the admins to unban me, but got no response. I signed up again and got banned right away again. Nearly all of the guys on there are middle-aged and elderly Americans, whereas I'm a very young Asian guy (same age or younger than most of those Filipinas) who can pass for Filipino. Perhaps they feel like I'm a threat? I was quite irritated by this.
I prefer meeting ladies in person anyways.