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Postby momopi » November 2nd, 2012, 9:20 pm

Winston wrote:You don't understand. We all want clean streets. But we don't like countries like Singapore where women are too picky, not as approachable, and not as open to strangers. That's no fun. So going there isn't a solution. You are forgetting why we are here. What's the point of having clean toilets if there's no romance, passion or special memories? Time just goes by and is wasted, like what I experience in Washington state and Taiwan.
What if you want clean streets, safe streets, first world comfort and friendly approachable women who like to flirt with you at the same time? Can you have both? Is there a compromise or middle ground? I think Eastern Europe or Central Europe may be a good middle ground. What do you think?


The short answer is, no, if you went to a country because you want to chase skirt, you should be looking at skirts and not the public toilets. The longer that you make your list (scope creep), the less likely that all conditions will be meet. i.e. one does not go to an inland city to look for ocean views and beach access.

The long answer:

1. If you want to know about Central Europe or Eastern Europe, you should ask someone who live there, or go there yourself. If you ask someone who has never lived or visited there, you will get hearsay. If you ask someone who lives there, you will get his or her experience, which may not be applicable to you. If you go there yourself, you will get first hand experience on how local women will receive you today. Also, people who are very successful socially are less likely to waste their time talking about it on internet forums. They "do it" instead of "talk about it".

2. Just because person A went to Country X and had a great time, does not mean that Person B will enjoy the same. And just because you enjoyed your visit 10 years ago, does not mean that a visit would be as enjoyable today -- times have changed, people have changed, etc. Sometimes a great experience can only occur at a specific junction where many factors converge to form a favorable environment. Once that period expires, it may not occur again in your lifetime.

3. I used to fly to Singapore for work. In my personal experience, women in Singapore, at least for me in late 1990s to mid 2000's period, was friendlier and easier to meet & date than women in California. Singapore is nice, clean, orderly, and the public toilets are in good working order. BUT, that's my experience, and I already had a social network from CSU Fullerton alumni, coworkers at local office, WoW guild members, etc. Thus, my experience is different from someone who goes there and doesn't know anyone. How "Person B" will be received there is dependent on his own junction. It's entirely possible that he may meet the love of his life at McDonalds in Singapore, or get ran over by a car and goes home wrapped in bandages.

4. This board's name is "Happier Abroad". Every person has different wants and ideas about what makes him/her happier. I have a HS friend who moved back to TW and currently works for US pharma company. He loves his business trips to India and describes the trash dump next door to his first class hotel in India in vivid detail. He thinks TW is "too clean" and he loves the developing world scene. I don't think I'd enjoy staying next to a trash heap and gawk at the trash pickers, but hey, if that makes someone else happy, by all means, go for it.

5. A negative person will eventually find something to be unhappy about. The streets can be cleaner and the women friendlier, and he will simply bitch and moan about the weather or whatever else that irradiates him at the moment. A normal person will simply mention his dislike and move on, versus a negative person will dwell on it over and over again, like bashing his head against a brick wall, knowing that he cannot break the wall with his head, but he keeps banging his head against it anyway as if he cannot just walk around it.
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Postby The_Adventurer » October 14th, 2015, 7:10 am

momopi wrote: It's entirely possible that he may meet the love of his life at McDonalds in Singapore, or get ran over by a car and goes home wrapped in bandages.


heheh I think this statement completely sums up HA.
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Postby pete98146 » October 15th, 2015, 10:08 pm

momopi wrote:
5. A negative person will eventually find something to be unhappy about. The streets can be cleaner and the women friendlier, and he will simply bitch and moan about the weather or whatever else that irradiates him at the moment. A normal person will simply mention his dislike and move on, versus a negative person will dwell on it over and over again, like bashing his head against a brick wall, knowing that he cannot break the wall with his head, but he keeps banging his head against it anyway as if he cannot just walk around it.


Momopi, brilliant point! You hit the nail right on the head here.

Really what you are describing here is the "Ugly American"...a guy who wants his cake and eats it too. There aren't a lot of countries that will offer clean streets, mild weather, good food, safety, inexpensive living and women dying to meet foreign guys.

Here's my question. Why do the two have to be the same? Why not go to a country where there are abundant woman, marry one and then bring her to a more palatable location?

There are so many options available to us Western guys!
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