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Hi everyone. I just want to say this is a great site that I just accidentally came across yesterday.
I am 30 years old male living in the US (my family immigrated from MiddleEast when I was a teenager so I have an accent). In my younger years, I have had some of the same experiences with women in America as most of the members here.
I have been wanting to take an extensive vacation (6months to a year in Latin America, Asia or E. Europe) for some time. After finding this site, I am glad I am not the only one who thinks that way.
I don't know why it took me so long to figure out my life. I had my first girlfriend when I was a Junior in College (almost 21 years old ) and that did not last very long. Very soon I was her "smartest friend". After that I have not had any better results. One positive thing that I see about my lack of significant dating life is that I have no drama in my life going on. I know a few people from college who were apparently successful in terms of dating at that time but now they are either divorced with child support or they are miserable in their marriages. Some of them have told me that they wish they had my current life.
I read many of the post on this site and I mostly agree with Winston about his observation about American Women (that includes foreign-born women who have spent significant time in the US). Currently I work in a company where about 70% of the employee are women. Most of them are American-born, there are a few who immigrated to the US when they were adults. I can see a big difference in their femininity. The other day I was having a bad day at work and I was stressed. I was walking and I saw one of the Foreign (Hispanic )woman kind of running (She is married and ok looking, no that hot). I shouted "Are you running away from me?" (I was joking). She turned around stopped and waited for me and then explained the reason she was in a rush. She then asked me a few question about how my day was going etc. Even though I am not romantically interested in her, I can't help but notice that she and other foreign women are so feminine. My stress had gone to zero after that conversation. Events like these keeps reminding me that I can not connect with AW.
Somehow, I am getting more attention from AW now compare to my younger years. But most of those womens are not that great looking +/- divorced in their later 20s to early 30s. Most of those women are at my job and I am their supervisor so I dont think it is worth the trouble. The most important thing is that they are not that feminine.
Some coworkers have been asking me about my marital status and they want to set me up with other co-workers. I have been telling them that I am not in favor of dating other co-workers. I haven't told them about my plans to date women from overseas. Do you guys think I should tell them?
Anyway, after taking care of some personal stuff, I am going to take an extensive vacation overseas (latin America vs E. Europe vs Asia, I havent decided on exact spot yet).
Looking forward to share my thoughts/experiences with like minded people. By the way Winston, sorry about the muslim guys who were about to beat you in Fremont for your religious beliefs at that time. I am really ashamed of those kind of people.
Well I definitely would not tell your coworkers that you want to date overseas. That makes you look like a nonconformist and might invite hostile thoughts from them. Nothing to gain from that anyway.
And if you go abroad, don't tell them why either. Just say you are going for a vacation at the beach.
Why don't you let them set you up with coworkers and see what kind of women they come up with and tell us about it? That would be interesting.
What type of company is this? Is it an office? Office women tend to be unattractive.
The nicest lady at the last office I worked at was a Mexican woman.
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The greater feminine presence of foreign women was something I noticed at work even before encountering happierabroad or mgtow websites. The voice, smile and touch of a truly feminine women has a calming and cleansing effect which can't really be explained until you've actually experienced it.
The AWs at my job are far more difficult to deal with in general. My desire to move abroad isn't just about dating, it's also about maintaining my sanity around bitchy, controlling people, lol. Even when the foreign women who have more authority ask me to do something, it doesn't usually have that same snide element of bitchiness and self-righteous superiority as when it comes out of the mouth of an AW
The women in question, I already asked one of those women out and went on a few dates with her. She was nice but I saw that it caused some problems at work. She couldn't keep work and personal life separate. So I broke it off. I am an outgoing guy and I have asked pretty much every woman at work wether they were single or not (either directly or indirectly). I asked those women those questions partly to practice, so I can apply the skills overseas. So I pretty much know what kind of women my coworkers are going to set me up with.
I wasnt really going to clubs/bars in my younger years due to conservative upbringing. Only recently I have started going to bars. I want to give the bars a try, before trying to hook up with women at work.
I agree with Enishi that dating is not the only reason I want to go overseas. Despite being average/above average outgoing and having a good job with no criminal records, I have like 2 real friends in the place that I live (Granted I just moved to this city a year ago). But the people are Cliquish. I dont think I can make more real friends by staying here longer. My 2 friends are planning on moving soon.