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Postby drealm » Mon Oct 24, 2011 7:31 am

Is this option doable? Or will it kill your marriage with a foreign woman?

I live with my father and his health and income are declining. I feel it's my obligation to help him financially and otherwise in his declining years. Plus he doesn't have much companionship, so I know moving out would leave him lonely. The house we live in is 2500sf, which provides plenty of space for both of us. However, I want a wife and would eventually like to start a family of my own. Getting a wife is my first priority though, children would be later down the road. I'm considering Mexico as a place to meet women.

Will living at home ruin your marriage?

Would it be more tolerated by foreign women (Hispanic in particular)?

I'm not rich, but I can afford to move out. My main concern is just my father's health and needing to assist him financially.
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Postby Repatriate » Mon Oct 24, 2011 7:42 am

You're not really living with your parents, your parents are living with you. You're the financial and health care provider. If a woman doesn't understand that simple fact then she's a piece of trash that you don't need to be with. I'm sure native asian women and to a certain extent latin women won't have a problem with that.

Anglo women on the other hand..
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Postby Winston » Mon Oct 24, 2011 7:57 am

It depends on her culture. I think in most cultures, families take care of each other and are close, so living with parents is not seen as a taboo or sign of weakness. Western countries are more into the independence things, so as long as she's not from a Western country, it's probably ok, as long as you are financially capable.
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Postby philosophical_filipino » Mon Oct 24, 2011 12:01 pm

My ex-girl Anya went back to Colombia to take care of her dying father. She broke up with me and said she needed time to be with her father. I said I understand, but I still feel sad to see her go. That's the kind of woman I want as a wife. I don't even believe in marriage, yet this girl is changing my prior views on things. She is truly a diamond in the rough.
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Postby Ghost » Mon Oct 24, 2011 9:15 pm

If a woman isn't ok with it, she certainly isn't worth marrying. This whole idea that people (at any age) are "independent" is a modern thing as far as I can tell. Most of history has seen multiple generations of families in each household. Humans are tribal and value community (except worthless modern culture) so I think it's important to find a wife who agrees with that living style.
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