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How do you subtly fend off single moms?

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How do you subtly fend off single moms?

Postby Teal Lantern » Tue Feb 03, 2015 3:06 pm

tl;dr -- Hopefully some of you guys have plausibly deniable methods to repel broke-ass single moms while keeping the door open for people worth having a conversation with.

So....
I missed the memo that past-prime slores consider any non blood-relative male fair game at any time or place, so, due to the wonders of modern blended families, at what was supposed to be a family get together, I was set upon by the proud owner of triple Ds (debt, dependents, and drama). 40s -- mentally going on 14. Divorced, heavily inked, "cool mom" type. Ugh.
Her first play -- sitting next to me, close, and asking if I had any kids. I lol'd.
She has 3, the youngest are teens, and at least one girl is a cutter.

I later learned she'd checked to see if I was unattached to anyone there and then announced she was "going to go talk to" me. This explains why a couple of the youngsters gathered to watch her in action.

After I didn't take much interest in the b.s. shows she watches and even less interest in taking "selfies" aka attention whoring (to make some other idiot jealous?), she decided I was "mean" and she "need(ed) a nice man".
Yeah, nice with his cash, no doubt.
You're saying I won't get that step-wallet job I wasn't applying for? :roll:

In this case, everyone (except me) knew in advance she was going to make a play, so no false "harassment" claim there (afaik). But, she's by no means the smartest shark in the tank.
My concern is the smarter ones I'll meet in the future. I can do aloof (and even a-hole, if need be) as well as the next guy, but I'm looking for a subtle way to keep these losers from talking to me in the first place. No, I don't even want to bang them.
Since there are sometimes enjoyable people to talk to at these shindigs, hobo-wear and halitosis are not tactics I want to go with.
I need something "unscented" or with an on/off switch. :mrgreen:
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Re: How do you subtly fend off single moms?

Postby droid » Tue Feb 03, 2015 3:44 pm

Think how the entitled troll would've reacted to YOU when she didn't have the kids and was in better shape.
Then you won't want to be 'subtle' anymore.
1)Too much of one thing defeats the purpose.
2)Everybody is full of it. What's your hypocrisy?
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Re: How do you subtly fend off single moms?

Postby Array9 » Tue Feb 03, 2015 5:12 pm

Why not buy a ring and put it on your ring finger? As soon as an undesirable female tries to talk to you, all you have to do is flash your ring and say "no thanks, I'm taken".

I don't have any children yet so why in the world would I want to date a female that has? Every time she looks at her child, she will be constantly reminded of the guy(s) who dumped her.
Men chase, women choose

As long as you have gold in your hand, you will ALWAYS have bread on your table.
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Re: How do you subtly fend off single moms?

Postby MrMan » Tue Feb 03, 2015 10:26 pm

I spent my 20's mostly overseas and got married in my late 20's, so I was never really the target of single moms, as far as I know. I remember getting hit on by a totally drunk middle aged woman at a restaurant I was eating at with my friends. She sat down next to me at the booth. Kids didn't come up. She'd realized what she'd done after a minute or two and got really embarrassed. That's about it for me and single moms.

I think you should just not ask the women out. You don't have to painfully shoot them down. If you do date someone, you can say, "I'm seeing someone." If you've got someone you are chatting with online, you can say, "I'm n a relationship." Buying a wedding ring is probably a bit extreme, especially considering the off chance that a girl you are interested in walks by and checks your hand out for a ring when you put it on.

I can understand a man going for a single mom in a Brady Bunch situation. A man with kids who need a mother and a mother with kids who need a father may be a good match. Their situation was 'clean' in that they were both widowed, so there was no baby daddy in the picture, and possibly no background of sexual immorality to form bad habits that carry over into marriage. Of course, shows back then didn't go into this aspect of a character's background.
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I'm looking for broke single-mom repellent

Postby Teal Lantern » Wed Feb 04, 2015 2:45 am

MrMan wrote:I think you should just not ask the women out.

Simply not asking didn't work in this case.
Where I live, so many thirsty dudes give fatties, baby-mommas, whatever so much attention, they feel free to try for any man they cross paths with. The worst ones have no problem invading your space, trying to see if you match some checklist and then preemptively "rejecting" you -- as if.


MrMan wrote:Buying a wedding ring is probably a bit extreme, especially considering the off chance that a girl you are interested in walks by and checks your hand out for a ring when you put it on.

I've heard of the wedding band tactic and, as you mentioned, it has its own downsides.

MrMan wrote:You don't have to painfully shoot them down.

That's why I was asking for something that needs no backstory, leaves no claim of rudeness (laughing in her face), or even better --- keeps these losers from talking to me in the first place.
I'm looking for broke single-mom repellent, in the unscented bottle. :mrgreen:
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Re: How do you subtly fend off single moms?

Postby Jester » Wed Feb 04, 2015 6:13 am

I dont have the answer, but I will follow this thread eagerly.

Ideas:
"Whoa! Three kids! THAT must really suck!!"
(i.e. youre an asshole who hates kids)

"So I'm planning to take my next vacation in Thailand. I hear it's a lot of fun."
(i.e. you have access to skinny SEA chicks)

And if you want to play the scoundrel just a bit:
"So your daughter's eighteen? Thats interesting, thats the age I like to date. Is she here tonight?"
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Re: How do you subtly fend off single moms?

Postby Cornfed » Wed Feb 04, 2015 6:21 am

Jester wrote:Ideas:
"Whoa! Three kids! THAT must really suck!!"
(i.e. youre an asshole who hates kids)

Then you find she has drowned them in the bathtub just to get with you.
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Re: How do you subtly fend off single moms?

Postby Teal Lantern » Wed Feb 04, 2015 11:37 pm

Jester wrote:Ideas:
"Whoa! Three kids! THAT must really suck!!"
(i.e. youre an asshole who hates kids)

:lol: :lol: :lol: Yeah, I'm sure that label has been applied to me already.
It makes the speaker seem more innocent than if she says "uncooperative wallet".
Just need a scalpel, so I don't have to rely on the chainsaw all the time.
Not to say I didn't get a bit of joy out of the chainsaw. :mrgreen:
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Re: How do you subtly fend off single moms?

Postby MarkDY » Thu Feb 05, 2015 2:05 am

If you are childless, just tell her you have no interest in being a parent or a stepparent. Or start to talk about Tom Cruise, bring up the movie "Jerry Maguire" and tell her you hated that movie. I tell them I have a girlfriend overseas (which is somewhat true)
I believe if men across the county would make a commitment not to date single moms (except widows) and fat chicks, female behavior would change.
I once had a friend hook me up with a woman at a party, five minutes into our conversation she stated she just FILED for divorce a week earlier. I told the woman I had no interest in dating a still married woman and having to deal with someone else's drama. She was quite understanding about it. Hell I once had a woman contact me on match.com, she had a one-month old baby! WTF!
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Re: How do you subtly fend off single moms?

Postby Jester » Thu Feb 05, 2015 8:48 am

Her: "So these are my three children, Hughie, Dewey and Louie!"
Him: "Gee that's swell!
That's just what I'd like to have, three fine kids!
....Do you happen to know any single women you could introduce me to?"
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Re: How do you subtly fend off single moms?

Postby Jester » Thu Feb 05, 2015 8:51 am

Her: "So these are my three children, Hughie, Dewey and Louie!"
Him: "Hey, congratulations!! Quite a family you have there!!
I'm looking to start a family too, just as soon as I find Miss Right!!"
"Pick a point and go to it."
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Re: How do you subtly fend off single moms?

Postby suprmon » Thu Feb 05, 2015 9:08 pm

The best single mom repellant any self respecting man can use has been around and under the radar since the beginning of time; simply tell them your broke and homless! Nothing makes a woman run away from a man screaming faster than a guy who's broke and homeless!
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Re: How do you subtly fend off single moms?

Postby suprmon » Thu Feb 05, 2015 9:10 pm

The best single mom repellant any self respecting man can use has been around and under the radar since the beginning of time; simply tell them your broke and homless! Nothing makes a woman run away from a man screaming faster than a guy who's broke and homeless!
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Re: How do you subtly fend off single moms?

Postby suprmon » Thu Feb 05, 2015 9:10 pm

The best single mom repellant any self respecting man can use has been around and under the radar since the beginning of time; simply tell them your broke and homless! Nothing makes a woman run away from a man screaming faster than a guy who's broke and homeless!
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Re: How do you subtly fend off single moms?

Postby newlifeinphilippines » Fri Feb 06, 2015 3:04 am

Jester wrote:Her: "So these are my three children, Hughie, Dewey and Louie!"
Him: "Hey, congratulations!! Quite a family you have there!!
I'm looking to start a family too, just as soon as I find Miss Right!!"


Shell just say that she is "miss right" :)
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