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Re: How do you guys stay sane?

Post by MarcosZeitola » June 7th, 2016, 5:51 am

Evidently, most people here DON'T stay sane.

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Re: How do you guys stay sane?

Post by Eric » June 7th, 2016, 7:03 am

MarcosZeitola wrote:Evidently, most people here DON'T stay sane.

How are those ideas for a harem going? Mr. sane man.
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Re: How do you guys stay sane?

Post by retiredfrank » June 7th, 2016, 7:13 am

Wait a minute. I've been away from this forum for a while. You're saying Marcos is now talking about having mistresses in addition to his wife? Please point to those threads.

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Re: How do you guys stay sane?

Post by wanderlust » June 7th, 2016, 7:24 pm

To me it's a matter of balance, and here are some vital ingredients:

- financial solvency and future
- good health
- keeping stress low

Sometimes it seems the sane people in the world are under siege - bombarded by unsavory media and advertisements, obnoxious music, unrelenting stream of ominous changes making the news. At those times the best defense can be just withdrawing and tuning those influences out. A lot of people (men I think) have noted that online dating is a stress trigger (any surprise there? :roll: ).

Healthy relationships of any kind, romantic or not, are known to lower stress. Exercise, sleep and healthy diet are known to be more effective against mild depression than prescriptions. Spend time in the sunlight, go to a natural setting. Recently it made the news that seeing trees relieves stress, and the more trees, the greater the relief. Sounds strange but it was supported by a study (sorry, don't have a link to post).

A healthy diet can improve things. Cook your food from ingredients and you'll cut out the additives, dyes, preservatives and a fair amount of sugar.

Taking up a constructive hobby that involves actually using one's hands can be helpful - carpentry, auto repair, cooking. In other words, NOT facebook, video gaming, gore movies, reality TV.

Last idea I'll mention is using one's mind. Learning new things through reading for example. I recall reading that occupations such as science and engineering had lower rates of Alzheimers, so that can literally help you stay sane. Find a subject to study and read about that feel connected with.

Planning for the long term rather than searching for quick fixes tends to produce sustained improvement.

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Re: How do you guys stay sane?

Post by xiongmao » June 10th, 2016, 1:28 pm

+1 to Wanderlust's point about learning new things. My grandmother had Alzheimers, and it's a really distressing condition. It's been proven that nuns should have major problems with Alzheimers, but because they are constantly learning, they rarely show symptoms.

Learning a new language is a good project, especially one completely different to your native tongue. I just did my Chinese HSK2 test so that was good brain training, plus it's a huge talking point on my resume.
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