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My Mexican girlfriend vs. American college girls

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Postby jldajio71 » Fri Jun 15, 2012 11:14 am

[quote="Falcon"] If you don't have at least some of the following, you're simply not going to "click" with the other girls on campus, EVEN if you're very good-looking or have a great personality.

- Valley girl accent
- Social networking addiction, especially Facebook
- Use "like" in many of your sentences
- The typical SoCal suburban wear, such as Abercrombie & Fitch, American Eagle
- Own an iPhone, iPod, SmartPhone, BlackBerry, or at least some other related gadget so you won't appear "technologically behind"
- Be obsessed with American entertainment - e.g., pop songs, movies
- Participate in the college drinking and partying scene, and maybe also the notorious hookup scene
- Go to Las Vegas or San Francisco for vacation
- Know about California sports, such as basketball, baseball, football tournaments
- "Hang out" with a group of friends by going shopping or to the movies, and text them before you do. Take lots of pics with everyone so you can post them all on Facebook later.

... I just don't have any of the features listed above. No one will ever say it out loud, but you'll be "different" or perhaps even "weird" if you don't.[/quote]

This is absolutely true. Being a college girl student, I was googling this subject because I seemed to have a hard time holding a simple conversation with any girls on campus. I'm glad you put it out there because I thought it was just me thinking "why are all these girls so obsessed with partying and jersey whatever." They always seem to be up to date on shows that happen every week or something and just want to talk about what so and so did on the show ... I just don't find any of it interesting. I much rather watch "How the Universe Works" or "Through the Wormhole" on SCI. You can't just ask any southern college girl, "Did you watch that episode of 'Through the Wormhole' about quantum physics?" They'll simply laugh and make a joke about you. Girls think it's "cool" to be put on probabtion of financial aid. They simply are not grateful for the education and opportunities out there for them. It's just sad to think this is what they think life is about... drinking, facebook, drama and mtv. I wish more girls had your view of American girls (I know you're a guy) and disagreed with it but they simply think it's "normal." They have no idea what's going on in the world and where we will be in thirty years from now (economically, technology, and enviornmentally wise). Everything and anything that matters to them is what they see on T.V., Music Videos, Facebook, and on their texts. I also do not have a single thing on the list that pertains to me, except for the ipod thing. I got it as a gift and use it probably once a month to look up my grades in an emergency. If you are a girl like me that has nothing on this list that pertains to you, you are "different" and even "weird" like the author said. Just stick to your views and I bet in the end we will come out on top. Those "cool" and "in" girls will refer to you as "boss" in the future.
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Postby Falcon » Fri Jun 15, 2012 5:10 pm

Hey jldajio71, thanks for your reply. I really appreciate your views - glad we share a lot of them. :wink:

Sadly nowadays, among many young people even in college, genuine interest in knowledge is seen as nerdy or even freakish. If you're studying just for school so you can get a high-paying job one day, that would be "cool," but reading academic sources in your free time is really repulsive. To many non-American youths, however, doing so is highly respectable.

Do you also go to school in California, or another state?
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Postby jldajio71 » Sat Jun 16, 2012 4:54 am

Haha funny you mention reading academic sources on your free time because I actually work in the school's library and love to read journals, old text books, and encyclopedias while I'm supposed to be organizing the stacks. I do go to a school in Southern California. It's actually less than 20 minutes from Mexico. Glad to know there would be someone out there, even if their non-American, that would respect or appreciate the "nerdy" things I do for fun.
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Postby wineguy » Sun Jun 24, 2012 5:58 pm

Falcon, you've hit the nail right on the head. I go to Cal Poly and it's pretty much exactly as you've described it there. I tried to fit in my freshman year, and I did fit in more or less, but over time i couldn't live with myself acting like such a fool. I said f**k it and turned my back on the whole scene.
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Postby Adama » Thu Jul 12, 2012 8:24 pm

Falcon wrote:Great find. I don't think the sex ratio even matters. Most college campuses have more women than men. I can be surrounded entirely by women, but they would all have the same set of attitudes and habits. Many students either commute or go home on the weekends, leaving the campuses ghost towns during evenings, weekends, breaks, and summers. You should see UC Irvine on a weekend. It's so squeaky clean and devoid of people that it isn't even funny.

I went to Rutgers University in New Brunswick NJ. When I lived in the dorms, that is exactly what I experienced. They were all gone during the weekends. The only exception was if there was a really, really hot party scheduled, and that was probably only at the beginning of the semester.
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Postby Falcon » Fri Jul 13, 2012 7:47 pm

I can clearly recall during my informal high school dances, my friends and I would find it almost impossible to find a girl to dance with. They were all upper-middle class Asians and whites. They were incredibly mean and cliquish. It's absolutely no fun to be milling around for HOURS being completely ignored by them as you were simply trying to say hello. The high school girls would much choose to dance amongst themselves rather than with guys. Girls and guys are separated into separate circles, with the girls grinding among themselves and the guys showing off their breakdancing skills to each other.

It's completely different in rural Mexico. It's incredibly easy to find a girl to dance with in Mexican dances. Many will reject you, but they don't give you dirty looks and make you feel as if you've just committed a mortal sin. You simply move on to the next one and you'll most definitely find someone within half an hour. I usually find someone within minutes. Almost all the dancers are couples, rather than those same-sex circles in American dances where both genders are avoiding each other.
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Postby Jester » Fri Jul 13, 2012 10:30 pm

AmericanInMexico wrote:
After about a year of trying to "click" with the SoCal girls and realizing I was getting nowhere, I took a trip to Mexico on a whim, just like you did, and have never looked back. All people in Southern California or any of the other border states should consider Mexico. Your post is spot on Falcon.

Thanks, I can't say how much it helps to be reminded.
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Re: My Mexican girlfriend vs. American college girls

Postby Jester » Fri Jul 13, 2012 10:32 pm

Great OP, Falcon.

But you really got me with this:

Falcon wrote:MEXICAN GIRL: No computer. No Facebook. Not even an e-mail (we use text messaging instead). Just a simple cell phone. Listens to music on an old-fashioned boom box, since no one in her family has a fancy Apple gadget. We're back in the old days.
AMERICAN GIRLS: Many, though not all, have nasty social networking habits that cause horrible procrastination and irresponsibility. We'd be in the middle of a conversation, and they would have to pick up a phone call, text someone, or fiddle with their iWhatever. Plug on earbuds all the time so that no one can really talk to them.

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Postby Jester » Fri Jul 13, 2012 10:39 pm

The Arab wrote:There is definitely a peculiar dating dynamic in LA that makes it very hard not only to date interesting women, but also meet people in general.

It's interesting how one can be in a setting surrounded by thousands of students all doing the same thing, but there being no connection or interest in students in socializing for the most part. There's definitely some voluntary segregation going on and way too cliquey and non-inclusive.

The overall vibe comes off as antisocial, shallow, and vacuous; people with no real substance or thoughts.

Still like High School in university, seems students here are immature and don't grow up like their peers around the world.

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Postby Robert77 » Mon Jul 30, 2012 7:58 am

American women (not only the white ones, but also the many colored ones who are Americanized) are the bottom of the barrel.... it's a very funny pattern you see

*they're all angry with you because you're a man so somehow it's your fault that something has happened to them because you being a man makes you related to the issue they have.

*The worst mothers!!! I've never seen women more lazy, disgusting and disengaged with their children than American women, Is not uncommon to hear women saying (I cant wait til my son/daughter turns 18 so he can get the hell outta my house!!!) while mothers in Asia or latin america on the other hand are horrified by the prospect of their little one leaving the nest one day!!!

*Good luck finding an american woman that can cook, or that doesn't mind cleaning the house while you're working your ass off so you can provide for her!!! it's common to see the American male coming home from work exhausted and the children are dirty and crying, the house is a mess, there is no food anywhere because the bitch was busy shopping online!

*tendency to have serious mental issues!!!! I've travelled the world and never seen women more mentally unstable and full of baggage!!!

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