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Here's an observation from an acquaintance of mine named John who also lives in Oklahoma City. I don't necessarily share his viewpoint on this, but I thought I'd post it to see what y'all think.
One of the statements that was made on the "Happier Abroad" website was that American women are not interested in men. My experience is that many women are interested in men. I would say that young women are looking for men -- that their fantasies very early on include men (prince, knight on white horse etc.) and possibly evern their fascination with such toys as "Rainbow Bright" and "My Little Pony" are based on interest in horses. Horses could be a pre-pubescent symbol for "large, powerful partner" which translates later into their attraction for men.
According to national health statistics, forty percent of all girls have tried oral sex by the time they are out of high school. Assuming that they have oral sex with boys, it shows that 40% of girls even prior to their graduation from high school are interested in high school aged boys.
According to the same source, 90 percent of girls have had sexual intercourse by age 24 and 97 percent by age 34. Assuming that "sexual intercourse" means intercourse with young men, it means that almost all women show interest in men to the point that they are having sexual intercourse with them by age 35.
There are magazines for women galore that are sold to millions of women in almost every store. For example, Cosmopolitan offers "how to please a man in bed" articles every month. And Cosmo is not alone. If women are not interested in men how can so many articles be appearing in successful commercial magazines.
Magazines, stores and other venues do a lot of advertising to brides. There are stores that specialize in wedding dresses. There are wedding cake makers. There are wedding caterers, wedding arrangers, photographers, musicians etc. Churchs are rented and used for weddings frequently. Who are all these weddings for? They are not for women marrying women but for women marrying men. Somewhere in the mix, women appear to be interested in men.
Clothing manufacturers continuously put out new lines of clothing for women to wear. While men have worn long pants for decades and the length of the pants has not changed appreciably, women's skirt hems go up and down almost every season. Women wear one kind of clothing at work and another kind to go shopping and another kind to go out to a club or dance. A great many impractical clothing items (e.g. high heels, short skirts in cold weather, low-cut blouses etc.) are only worn by women. Why? Some items are just fasion-of-the-moment and some are worn to impress their girlfriends. But many items women wear have no other use but to get the attention of men. Think also of women's underwear. There are whole stores -- like Victoria's Secret that is just about getting sexy underwear in effect to attract men.
A man will despair over loss of job or failure in his career. A woman does not. A woman will despair over the inability to keep a family together successfully. This includes keeping her man from going away. Women need men to complete their life plan fantasy.
That's enough. Please comment as you see fit.
Well, my observation is that young American women aren't interested in having a long-term relationship with a man. Certainly, they're interested in sex (as much as anyone is). So to fulfill their fantasies, they seek out only the top 20% of men in terms of social status, wealth, etc., primarily to have short-term gigs with.
Anyway, how would you explain the differences in temperament between the Chinese women I met, versus my three encounters with young Western women on my trip?
Last weekend, even another local young acquaintance told me that older American women (50 and up) sometimes tell him that he's good-looking, whereas young ones almost never do.
If American women weren't interested in men or having sex with men, or if they're only interested in sleeping with the top 20%, then our demographic data would look very different.
As I've mentioned previously, the only reliable data is from the US Census and you can all look up the marriage and child birth rates yourself. The fact is that the majority of American men are scoring with American women and popping babies. The minority % that isn't, some spend way too much time posting angry blog comments against American women.
It's like, dude, if it doesn't work out, so what? The world is a big place and you can find a better women elsewhere.
American women are very picky about who they date and guys are not as picky. In America, MOST MEN ARE RELATIONSHIPS BY DEFAULT! They do not date a lot of women before they get married, they pretty much have to settle and take who ever they can find! Women on the other hand, have a field day before they get married! I read a statistic they said, an attractive women in the US will get asked out 5,000 times before she gets married! Holy cow! No wonder why women in the US are so picky about who they go out with, they have lot's of guys asking them out so they have lot's of choices! Of course things are different overseas, the women are not asked out as much and in some countries the women far outnumber the men.