You are operating under a set of assumptions that men who bring wives back to their country do not all agree with.Winston wrote:Last night I talked to Monkro, Rock's former tenant in Taipei who has the same views as I do about America. He told me something interesting that makes a lot of sense. He said:
"If you can't get a woman in your country, then obviously there is something wrong with your country (assuming you are a decent guy of course). So why then would you want to bring a foreign woman to it?"
He is right if you think about it. Bringing a foreign woman or bride to America is in effect a LOGICAL SELF-CONTRADICTION. If something is so messed up in your country that you can't even find a good woman, then why would you want to bring a good woman from abroad to it? See what I mean? It's inherently SELF-CONTRADICTORY if you think about it.
A country that is toxic and turns women bad is definitely NOT a place you should bring a sweet, good, kind, caring, wholesome, feminine woman to. Right?
This is what the romance tour and marriage agencies don't consider or take into account.
A man may not be able to find a wife in his own country because he has a giant beaklike nose, bowed legs, and a very hairy back. He might be able to find a wife in a country where a 'pointy nose' is considered attractive, because he might be considered better looking there than in his home country. His unique, exotic looks may at least get him more positive attention than at home.
Not every man who finds a wife abroad accepts the idea that the United States has this awful culture that corrupts everyone who lives in it. And those who see cultural problems in the US with feminism and beliefs about marriage may not believe that living here later in life erases the cultural values the wife gained in her country-of-origin.
And if a man found a wife overseas, that doesn't meant that he was incapable of finding one in his home country. If I had never married and knew what I knew now or was widowed, I'd probably look for a wife in Indonesia. I don't think it would be impossible to find a good one in the US, but I appreciate Indonesian women's values regarding marriage and family. I also think that as an exotic white man who automatically gets some 'status' due to reverse positive discrimination in Indonesia, I'd attract prettier, younger girls than in the US. I wouldn't want some old divorcee if I were single at my age.
Some men marry women from abroad because they are attracted to the looks of women from a certain country, along with the accents and just the exotic and foreignness factor. I appreciate my wife's ability to make authentic Indonesian food, too.
If a Caucasian Asiaphile were wife-hunting in the US, the pool is limited in the US. He may not be able to find as many attractive Asians to choose from. And he'd have less a chance of meeting one that liked him back in the smaller pool of potential partners in the US than if he went to China or the Filippines or wherever.