Marrying a poor Filipina single mom

[Rock]

I have read many negative comments on single moms on this website, but I am definitely considering marrying a Filipina single mom and bringing her to the United States. Here is my reasoning, and I welcome your comments.

First, I have to tell you that I need a very open-minded and understanding woman, because my sexual needs and fantasies are things that most women will not want to do. Thus, the basic rationale for looking for a single mom is to find someone who will be completely devoted to me and be willing to indulge my every fantasy.

I think that many girls end up in a situation where they have children because they made youth mistakes. Once, they sleep with the wrong man, or they do not use protection because it is too expensive, and they end up pregnant. Then the men, acting like cowards, leave the girls once they learn that she is pregnant. Say that the woman had her baby at 20. By the time she is 25, she will realize that it is almost impossible to remarry, because single moms are viewed very negatively by Filipinos (and also by most foreigners...) Say, in addition to all of this, that she has only primary school or high school education (and thus, very few job prospects).

Enter myself, a successful and somewhat wealthy businessman from the West Coast. I will offer this single mom, whom nobody else wants to marry, the possibility of becoming my wife and of giving her children a good life and a loving father, in return for her absolute and complete devotion to me. I will be very honest about what I will need her to do, long before I go meet her for the first time. And I will keep my word. I don't have any children right now but I don't mind raising children who are not mine as my own, and be a father to them. I will also give my wife a good and loving life, and in return, she will indulge my twisted fantasies that most women would refuse to even consider.

What do you think? Does it sound like a plan, or like my own foolishness?

JF

Maybe your own foolishness lol. Here's why. I think you are basing your plan on the erroneous assumption that you are some white knight saving a desperate girl who will be eternally grateful to you and show it through loyal and devoted behavior. There's a high chance that it won't play-out like that And your built-in expectations may cause a major rift between you two. She may not go into the deal with those assumptions and when she discovers that's how you see the relationship, may become resentful. Moreover, i you bring her to the States, she can eventually prove to you that you are the desperate one, not her lol.

What you should instead aim for is a girl with the correct strong character and set of values. It doesn't matter so much whether or not she has kids already or is ugly or beautiful. However, you would lower your risk by choosing a gal who is at least 24 or so cus people's brains settle around mid-20s. Before that time, her brain is still developing and changing so what you see at 19 might not be what she is by say 25.

On your side, you need to become capable of learning how the girl things and what makes her tick. There's a lot of subtle tests you can employ over the weeks and months to see what she's made of. Good thing is, Phils. still seems to have a decent percentage of quality girls.

Good luck and be careful out there.

[davewe]

I have read many negative comments on single moms on this website, but I am definitely considering marrying a Filipina single mom and bringing her to the United States. Here is my reasoning, and I welcome your comments.

First, I have to tell you that I need a very open-minded and understanding woman, because my sexual needs and fantasies are things that most women will not want to do. Thus, the basic rationale for looking for a single mom is to find someone who will be completely devoted to me and be willing to indulge my every fantasy.

What do you think? Does it sound like a plan, or like my own foolishness?

As most posters have said or implied - it sounds like foolishness. Of course we don't know what your sexual needs and fantasies are (and I don't think I want to know) but your reasoning is skewed. Yes, the fact that you can provide a safe and secure home to a woman and her children is an attractive thing but not so that she will "be completely devoted to me and be willing to indulge my every fantasy." In short, she might be devoted to you as a wife, but not as a sex slave.

[Rock]

I have read many negative comments on single moms on this website, but I am definitely considering marrying a Filipina single mom and bringing her to the United States. Here is my reasoning, and I welcome your comments.

First, I have to tell you that I need a very open-minded and understanding woman, because my sexual needs and fantasies are things that most women will not want to do. Thus, the basic rationale for looking for a single mom is to find someone who will be completely devoted to me and be willing to indulge my every fantasy.

I think that many girls end up in a situation where they have children because they made youth mistakes. Once, they sleep with the wrong man, or they do not use protection because it is too expensive, and they end up pregnant. Then the men, acting like cowards, leave the girls once they learn that she is pregnant. Say that the woman had her baby at 20. By the time she is 25, she will realize that it is almost impossible to remarry, because single moms are viewed very negatively by Filipinos (and also by most foreigners...) Say, in addition to all of this, that she has only primary school or high school education (and thus, very few job prospects).

Enter myself, a successful and somewhat wealthy businessman from the West Coast. I will offer this single mom, whom nobody else wants to marry, the possibility of becoming my wife and of giving her children a good life and a loving father, in return for her absolute and complete devotion to me. I will be very honest about what I will need her to do, long before I go meet her for the first time. And I will keep my word. I don't have any children right now but I don't mind raising children who are not mine as my own, and be a father to them. I will also give my wife a good and loving life, and in return, she will indulge my twisted fantasies that most women would refuse to even consider.

What do you think? Does it sound like a plan, or like my own foolishness?

JF

One more thing I forgot to mention. Sexual compatibility can best be determined once you spend time with her in person. You might get some hints online but will never know for sure till you have a few 'dates' with her. And a sexual fit is really what you should seek in that department - a natural, not an actress, someone who is just working hard to please you. Do you want a slave or a mate?

[newlifeinphilippines]

Reminds me of the arrangement i had with my bargirl in phil (who also was a single mother) for all that time LOL

and even she accused me (of all people) of using her for sex (yet the irony was she was taking my money and i did a lot for her and all the other guys pumped and dumped her as a prostitute).


But in the end all you really have is an actress. She was a great actress but there was no love from her at all and never will be.

Better to find a girl that is genuinely enthusiastic about pleasing you as a serious girlfriend and lover though. It doesn't have to be a single mother though. Im personally avoiding single mothers now cause as someone said they view you as a sucker/provider for their kids, everything is about exploiting you for their kids, there is no love. Trying to find a genuine girl eager to please.

[newlifeinphilippines]

I doubt most of them will ever go beyond standard oral and v****al sex.

That's good enough for me First time I had a Filipina GF, I couldn't believe how much she loved giving me BJ's.

and some claim they dont give blow jobs in their life until they met foreigners or suddenly become shy for foreigners LOL

[Hero]

and some claim they dont give blow jobs in their life until they met foreigners or suddenly become shy for foreigners LOL

You mean, when they give a foreigner a BJ, they tell him that he's the first BJ they ever gave?
And when you say they "become" shy, do you mean that they're not really shy at all about giving BJ's, but they're putting on a shy act so they don't look like sluts?

[Hero]

and even she accused me (of all people) of using her for sex (yet the irony was she was taking my money and i did a lot for her and all the other guys pumped and dumped her as a hoe).

Wow, I had a Filipina GF like that. She was the biggest slut in the universe, yet she accused me of just using her for sex. If you act like a hoe, then that's how you're gonna get treated.

[xiongmao]

I met a lot of single moms in Thailand. On the whole they were nice ladies, but man, did they have problems/issues.

Falcon met my lady who was a bit too fond of Beer Chang .

[Banano]

Plus you never know how many foreign cocks she sucked so far and it would be naive to think you are her first one. I know these mommies in PH and TH can be quite loose its not even funny

When it comes to single mums use pump and dump strategy and you wont be too wrong otherwise she will see you as desperate sucker who cant do any better. Normal guy should not even be contemplating to have a relationship with single mother.

[targetguy]

I have been through 2 of these single mom type fiancés and there main concern is their kids and guess who gets to pay for them? That's right
you, the fiancé. When I got back to the usa the first one didn't want to get married just support the second one keeps saying I love you but cant seem to make it to the embassy but keep the support comeing and don't forget all the relatives and their health problems. And as soon as you do you the fiancé is not to good at all..................

[Taco]

Do not marry single mum.Period.

These are some HA golden rules that must be followed to avoid pain in the future

I agree, all the research shows that a man getting involved with a single mother is a recipe for disaster!

She will always put her kids first AND since your not their father, you cannot discipline her kids (even raising your voice will not be allowed!)

She will only see you as a provider and nothing more (actually she will view you as a schmuck who lowered his standards and married a woman who already had kids with another man).

Personally, I wouldn't touch a single mother with a ten foot pole!

In western countries what your saying is true. However, single Filipina moms are socially marginalized much the same way that western men are so when they get together they become good friends rather quickly. Of all the women I've met in the Philippines single women without kids are the most immature and the most likely to scam you.

[Hero]

Plus you never know how many foreign cocks she sucked so far and it would be naive to think you are her first one. I know these mommies in PH and TH can be quite loose its not even funny

Well, maybe just a little bit funny It's incredibly hard to make a Filipina give up her virginity, but once she does lose her virginity she loses all restraint. There just isn't any woman easier than a non-virgin Filipina.

[newlifeinphilippines]

and some claim they dont give blow jobs in their life until they met foreigners or suddenly become shy for foreigners LOL

You mean, when they give a foreigner a BJ, they tell him that he's the first BJ they ever gave?
And when you say they "become" shy, do you mean that they're not really shy at all about giving BJ's, but they're putting on a shy act so they don't look like sluts?

Well one girl i asked about blowjob (she wasn't a bargirl) cause she was laying down and she goes i gave filipino before but not foreigner (she had been with foreigner before). My bargirl used to claim filipino guys weren't into blowjobs also and only white guys were lol whatever. A lot of the bar girls have said that. I think many times its just crap they say so they dont have to give them. I bet they tell everyone to say that.

[The Professor]

Do not marry single mum.Period.

These are some HA golden rules that must be followed to avoid pain in the future

I agree, all the research shows that a man getting involved with a single mother is a recipe for disaster!

She will always put her kids first AND since your not their father, you cannot discipline her kids (even raising your voice will not be allowed!)

She will only see you as a provider and nothing more (actually she will view you as a schmuck who lowered his standards and married a woman who already had kids with another man).

Personally, I wouldn't touch a single mother with a ten foot pole!

In western countries what your saying is true. However, single Filipina moms are socially marginalized much the same way that western men are so when they get together they become good friends rather quickly. Of all the women I've met in the Philippines single women without kids are the most immature and the most likely to scam you.

Sour grapes. You're just disappointed that you couldn't marry a woman with no kids, ideally a virgin. Now you're just trying to rationalize it all. Single mothers are pretty much all scammers in the sense that they're just looking for a beta sucker to raise her kids. A woman got you to raise two kids that you did not make! You might as well just marry a gold digger without kids if you are going to go down that path. That way you at least won't have to be responsible for taking care of another man's kids everyday and a gold digger will love you just as much as a single mom will, which is not at all.

[newlifeinphilippines]

Do not marry single mum.Period.

These are some HA golden rules that must be followed to avoid pain in the future

I agree, all the research shows that a man getting involved with a single mother is a recipe for disaster!

She will always put her kids first AND since your not their father, you cannot discipline her kids (even raising your voice will not be allowed!)

She will only see you as a provider and nothing more (actually she will view you as a schmuck who lowered his standards and married a woman who already had kids with another man).

Personally, I wouldn't touch a single mother with a ten foot pole!

In western countries what your saying is true. However, single Filipina moms are socially marginalized much the same way that western men are so when they get together they become good friends rather quickly. Of all the women I've met in the Philippines single women without kids are the most immature and the most likely to scam you.

Almost 100 percent of the women in the bar have kids (the rest are lying lol). If women without kids got such big kicks out of using men for money they would be in the bar not single mothers. So that proves that single mothers have the highest chance of scamming you.

The only thing a woman with kids will do is be a better ACTRESS cause she is that much more desperate.

A single woman will show her cards easier and let you know she is a scammer cause she isn't as desperate.

It doesn't mean single women are often more scammers it just means that aren't as motivated to play the long term con game as someone who has kids at home. But the single mothers are definitely on the long term game. And some like my bargirl are VERY GOOD at playing the actress role sex 5 times a day like a porn star day in and day out. She has kids to feed after all.......