Marrying a poor Filipina single mom

[jf94]

I have read many negative comments on single moms on this website, but I am definitely considering marrying a Filipina single mom and bringing her to the United States. Here is my reasoning, and I welcome your comments.

First, I have to tell you that I need a very open-minded and understanding woman, because my sexual needs and fantasies are things that most women will not want to do. Thus, the basic rationale for looking for a single mom is to find someone who will be completely devoted to me and be willing to indulge my every fantasy.

I think that many girls end up in a situation where they have children because they made youth mistakes. Once, they sleep with the wrong man, or they do not use protection because it is too expensive, and they end up pregnant. Then the men, acting like cowards, leave the girls once they learn that she is pregnant. Say that the woman had her baby at 20. By the time she is 25, she will realize that it is almost impossible to remarry, because single moms are viewed very negatively by Filipinos (and also by most foreigners...) Say, in addition to all of this, that she has only primary school or high school education (and thus, very few job prospects).

Enter myself, a successful and somewhat wealthy businessman from the West Coast. I will offer this single mom, whom nobody else wants to marry, the possibility of becoming my wife and of giving her children a good life and a loving father, in return for her absolute and complete devotion to me. I will be very honest about what I will need her to do, long before I go meet her for the first time. And I will keep my word. I don't have any children right now but I don't mind raising children who are not mine as my own, and be a father to them. I will also give my wife a good and loving life, and in return, she will indulge my twisted fantasies that most women would refuse to even consider.

What do you think? Does it sound like a plan, or like my own foolishness?

JF

[OutWest]

I have read many negative comments on single moms on this website, but I am definitely considering marrying a Filipina single mom and bringing her to the United States. Here is my reasoning, and I welcome your comments.

First, I have to tell you that I need a very open-minded and understanding woman, because my sexual needs and fantasies are things that most women will not want to do. Thus, the basic rationale for looking for a single mom is to find someone who will be completely devoted to me and be willing to indulge my every fantasy.

I think that many girls end up in a situation where they have children because they made youth mistakes. Once, they sleep with the wrong man, or they do not use protection because it is too expensive, and they end up pregnant. Then the men, acting like cowards, leave the girls once they learn that she is pregnant. Say that the woman had her baby at 20. By the time she is 25, she will realize that it is almost impossible to remarry, because single moms are viewed very negatively by Filipinos (and also by most foreigners...) Say, in addition to all of this, that she has only primary school or high school education (and thus, very few job prospects).

Enter myself, a successful and somewhat wealthy businessman from the West Coast. I will offer this single mom, whom nobody else wants to marry, the possibility of becoming my wife and of giving her children a good life and a loving father, in return for her absolute and complete devotion to me. I will be very honest about what I will need her to do, long before I go meet her for the first time. And I will keep my word. I don't have any children right now but I don't mind raising children who are not mine as my own, and be a father to them. I will also give my wife a good and loving life, and in return, she will indulge my twisted fantasies that most women would refuse to even consider.

What do you think? Does it sound like a plan, or like my own foolishness?

JF

It sounds more like some Filipina will be very lucky if you never make it to the Philippines.
Hmmm...find some Filipina who is so trapped and desperate that she will put up with your twisted self. I usually advise Filipinas against any desperate deals...the are almost NEVER worth it. Increasingly the US is filling with twisted degenerates.

[Pinaylover]

Yeah... if you have twisted fantasies find another pervert and don't try to make a sex slave out of a decent pinay single mom.

I like ladyboys, that alone may cause some to call me a sick twisted perv but reading your post made me cringe..

[Halwick]

I have read many negative comments on single moms on this website, but I am definitely considering marrying a Filipina single mom and bringing her to the United States. Here is my reasoning, and I welcome your comments.

First, I have to tell you that I need a very open-minded and understanding woman, because my sexual needs and fantasies are things that most women will not want to do. Thus, the basic rationale for looking for a single mom is to find someone who will be completely devoted to me and be willing to indulge my every fantasy.

I think that many girls end up in a situation where they have children because they made youth mistakes. Once, they sleep with the wrong man, or they do not use protection because it is too expensive, and they end up pregnant. Then the men, acting like cowards, leave the girls once they learn that she is pregnant. Say that the woman had her baby at 20. By the time she is 25, she will realize that it is almost impossible to remarry, because single moms are viewed very negatively by Filipinos (and also by most foreigners...) Say, in addition to all of this, that she has only primary school or high school education (and thus, very few job prospects).

Enter myself, a successful and somewhat wealthy businessman from the West Coast. I will offer this single mom, whom nobody else wants to marry, the possibility of becoming my wife and of giving her children a good life and a loving father, in return for her absolute and complete devotion to me. I will be very honest about what I will need her to do, long before I go meet her for the first time. And I will keep my word. I don't have any children right now but I don't mind raising children who are not mine as my own, and be a father to them. I will also give my wife a good and loving life, and in return, she will indulge my twisted fantasies that most women would refuse to even consider.

What do you think? Does it sound like a plan, or like my own foolishness?

JF

Regarding your "sexual needs and fantasies": The Filipinas are conservative through their Catholic upbringing and will most certainly not be willing to indulge in your needs....unless she is a bargirl or a whore.

I think you're better off not marrying the Filipina and instead take periodic vacations in Thailand to satisfy your needs. You'll find the Thai women more open minded and willing to cater to your needs and "twisted fantasies."

[The Professor]

OP seems to have the fantasy of getting married to a "desperate" woman whom nobody else wants. He wants woman with no other options so he can win by default without having to compete.

That doesn't exist in though. Even an older Filipina with kids can get remarried. They get remarried all the time, both to foreigners and to other Filipinos. Even if she was ugly in addition to old and with several kids, there will be plenty of beta males more than willing to take her. They won't get to marry a handsome alpha male but that's a far cry from no man wanting them. Studies have shown that both love and sex are far less important to women than they are to men, and Filipina women are no exception as this study shows. For this reason and many others, women have way more options than men and control the dating scene and marriage.

[tre]

I have to wonder just how twisted are we talking about here? Filipinas can be horny and willing to try new things in bed. However, doing something that is completely disrespectful of her that effects her in a negative way and which makes her disrespect you as well as herself can't be recommended.

There are some freaks out there and many are women. I recommend you try to find those instead of making an innocent girl submit to something that she finds terrible out of desperation to care for her child...

[Taco]

I married a poor Filipina, single mom with two kids last year and I don't regret it. I was good friends with my wife for two years before we got married and I can safely say sex was not the reason I married her. As a result, I have a good marriage and we enjoy doing many things together. That said, Filipinas rarely have "headaches" if they love you.

I can tell you Filipinas don't like being treated like sex slaves or enjoy rough sex like you see in porn movies and do not like being cheated on. If this what your interested in your better off staying single, your marriage to a Filipina won't last.

[publicduende]

I agree with posters above. Filipinas are some of the most traditional women around. Many young ones can turn quite horny, especially once they feel settled and safe in the nest of a happy marriage. I doubt most of them will ever go beyond standard oral and vaginal sex. In fact I heard a few Filipinas from all sorts of background cringe in disgust at the mere mention of anal sex.

I think you guys should give the OP the benefit of the doubt. Maybe his "twisted fantasies" are of the kind that any "specialised" pro in Japan or Germany could cater for, maybe for a premium. If he really is a "successful businessman" as he says, he should have no problem affording the odd encounter.

[***JP***]

I have read many negative comments on single moms on this website, but I am definitely considering marrying a Filipina single mom and bringing her to the United States. Here is my reasoning, and I welcome your comments.

First, I have to tell you that I need a very open-minded and understanding woman, because my sexual needs and fantasies are things that most women will not want to do. Thus, the basic rationale for looking for a single mom is to find someone who will be completely devoted to me and be willing to indulge my every fantasy.

I think that many girls end up in a situation where they have children because they made youth mistakes. Once, they sleep with the wrong man, or they do not use protection because it is too expensive, and they end up pregnant. Then the men, acting like cowards, leave the girls once they learn that she is pregnant. Say that the woman had her baby at 20. By the time she is 25, she will realize that it is almost impossible to remarry, because single moms are viewed very negatively by Filipinos (and also by most foreigners...) Say, in addition to all of this, that she has only primary school or high school education (and thus, very few job prospects).

Enter myself, a successful and somewhat wealthy businessman from the West Coast. I will offer this single mom, whom nobody else wants to marry, the possibility of becoming my wife and of giving her children a good life and a loving father, in return for her absolute and complete devotion to me. I will be very honest about what I will need her to do, long before I go meet her for the first time. And I will keep my word. I don't have any children right now but I don't mind raising children who are not mine as my own, and be a father to them. I will also give my wife a good and loving life, and in return, she will indulge my twisted fantasies that most women would refuse to even consider.

What do you think? Does it sound like a plan, or like my own foolishness?

JF

We may say a lot here to avoid single mothers but it doesn't mean all guys avoid them. Besides we usually advice against american single mothers You marry who you love. Who are we to judge? If the two of you are really in love with each other then both of you do what is right for yourselves cause in the end we don't live each others lives we just post our experiences and people may or may not follow our advice but in the end you gotta do what makes you happy and for the most part take the experience we all had here with a grain of salt because not everyone experiences the same scenarios.

[Banano]

Do not marry single mum.Period.
Do not bring foreign woman to Anglosphere.

These are some HA golden rules that must be followed to avoid pain in the future

[jamesbond]

Do not marry single mum.Period.

These are some HA golden rules that must be followed to avoid pain in the future

I agree, all the research shows that a man getting involved with a single mother is a recipe for disaster!

She will always put her kids first AND since your not their father, you cannot discipline her kids (even raising your voice will not be allowed!)

She will only see you as a provider and nothing more (actually she will view you as a schmuck who lowered his standards and married a woman who already had kids with another man).

Personally, I wouldn't touch a single mother with a ten foot pole!

[HouseMD]

This is the kind of guy that ends up having the tables turned on him once he's got her in the States. One call toa Lauer and a claim of abuse and she gets permanent residency, while he ends up in jail then making alimony payments once freed. Few women are desperate enough to do really f***ed up shit nightly for the rest of their lives. You are, realistically, offering the the option of financial security in exchange for nightly sexual torture. Eventually they'll get desperate and put a call in to the police just to get out of it. Even if they are lying, in the USA, I guarantee the prosecutors will go to town on you. And she'll be able to describe the graphic sort of rape most people couldn't imagine care of what you did to her. Jurors will eat that shit up.

You're better off just trying to find a girl that is into whatever you are, I'm sure they are out there. Might take some searching, but you will be much better off.

[Hero]

I doubt most of them will ever go beyond standard oral and v****al sex.

That's good enough for me First time I had a Filipina GF, I couldn't believe how much she loved giving me BJ's.

[Hero]

actually she will view you as a schmuck who lowered his standards and married a woman who already had kids with another man

Agreed, she might be grateful to you but she'll never respect you.

[HouseMD]

actually she will view you as a schmuck who lowered his standards and married a woman who already had kids with another man

Agreed, she might be grateful to you but she'll never respect you.

Not always true. But often true. My mother remarried, and she definitely loves and respects my step father and views my father as a huge mistake. Plus she had two kids with him, so he's the father of the majority of her kids. I respect the him, he always treated me like his own son and he was the only father I ever knew. Still don't know if I could do it myself though.