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Expat Stress In China

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Expat Stress In China

Post by Taco » January 31st, 2014, 6:38 am

Anyone who has spent time in China knows a handful of “burn-outâ€￾ expats who talk of little else but leaving.

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Post by zboy1 » January 31st, 2014, 7:34 am

Oh, give me a break! "laowai" is not even that bad of a term; all it means is "foreigner." That's better than to be called a nigger, spic, or chink by a racist White guy, or getting attacked for being a White male by a groups of feral Blacks, in the "knockout game."

I'm sorry, but the racism in America, Australia, Eastern Europe, Israel, Latin America, England and Russia--make the racism in China seem very tame, in comparison.

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Post by Ghost » January 31st, 2014, 3:22 pm

China is very hit or miss. It's pretty easy to figure out after a while. Once the names of cities quit sounding so strange, you'll hear many stories of where the good cities are. It's pretty easy: just head South. Small city China can be a nightmare.

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Post by xiongmao » January 31st, 2014, 4:18 pm

Big city China can be a nightmare as well. There's just no getting away from people in the big cities.

Bangkok was hectic as well but at least there I could jump on a bus and be in seaside Pattaya in a couple of hours.
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Re: Expat Stress In China

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Post by momopi » February 1st, 2014, 2:48 am

...back in the 1970s in rural Changhua (Taiwan), as kids we'd chase foreigners (usually a priest or missionary) and harass them unless if they gave us candy. If they didn't bribe us with candy, we'd throw rocks at them. When the parents found out, we'd get a royal spanking. ;p

During elections, the candidates were not allowed to give cash away (no bribes for votes!), but they were allowed to give inexpensive gifts such as small packets of salt, sugar, MSG, etc. As kids we'd chase after those election trucks with goodies and loot them. If they chased us away we'd fill small plastic bags with water and water bomb them. Good times.

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Post by Ghost » February 1st, 2014, 6:46 pm

xiongmao wrote:Big city China can be a nightmare as well. There's just no getting away from people in the big cities.

Bangkok was hectic as well but at least there I could jump on a bus and be in seaside Pattaya in a couple of hours.
True. I've just been to Beijing. I am just not a city guy. I hate riding the subway. A small city is fine, but small Chinese cities are crap...
But Beijing surprised me in many ways: the people did seem nice, for one. Having more English speakers and Western restaurants helped a lot. I don't like a lot of people around, and I need silence to accomplish anything in my life. So things depend more on the person than the place, I suppose.

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Post by Eorthisio » February 8th, 2014, 6:34 am

Chinese people are fairly good at pointing out the obvious, when they see you walking down the street they will tell their friends "Look! A laowai!" and then debate how where you come from and how fair or dark is your skin and such things.

Personally it does not disturb me at all, when a Chinese yells at me "Helloooooowwwwwwwwww~~~~~~~!!!!!!!" I just answer "'sup bro?" and keep walking.

When a Chinese point/stare at me while being "uhhhhh laowai" I do the same with a "uhhhhh zhonguoren", they become incredibly frustrated and I laugh my arse off.

If some Chinese dude tries to play "THE man" with me in front of his girlfriend, I first make sure that there is no camera around and kick his ass before walking away, I am 1.95 tall and weight 105kg and it's almost only muscles, usually this is enough to discourage Chinese dudes to try to mess with me, otherwise I can take any of them no efforts. I wouldn't want to be recorded and creating another anti-laowai scandal on CCTV.

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Post by magnum » February 8th, 2014, 9:33 am

When in Shenyang I didn't mind the random hellos.

My favorite moments were when girls would call me "hao kan" handsome while walking by.

Or if I was at a bar, some really hot girls would eyeball the hell out of me, but I never made a move, I figured a hot girl sitting alone at the bar..come girls must be street worker or paid to get your attention, or I could have just been projecting.

By far the best moment was when this 19 year old bar worker was poking at my right pec 3 or 4 times, she seemed to think it was fake hahaha

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Expat stress

Post by kiwibloke » February 16th, 2014, 3:24 am

Stress?? I had the opposite experience. I lived in a 3rd tier city (Nanchang, capital of Jiangxi, South East China) for a year. Although I heard "laowai" whispered a lot, and the odd idiot yelling "hello", this never bothered me. I generally found China very welcoming. In fact I miss it a lot, especially the buzz of street life and the many beautiful women.

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