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http://www.idreamedofthis.com/2014/02/1 ... ilippines/
I would say that what this guy is saying is exactly what is going on in Filipino culture nowadays, whether the average Filipino is willing to believe and acknowledge it or not. (see the posted comments of half for and against the article)
I would say that 90% of Filipinas I met would say I think too much, like its a bad thing, just like this guy mentions. Which eludes to one of the reasons why they can't hold a conversation most of the time unless they went to a high end private school or uni.
Filipinos: Think, Think, THINK!!
-By Nathan Allen
When I was in the Philippines, a friend of mine said "Nathan, you think too much". Actually, I heard this from a few Filipinos. Really? I mean, I know I tend to analyze things, but "thinking too much" is precisely I how I dreamed up a way to (modestly) travel the country for a year - then write an in-depth article on Filipino culture (an article that, guess what, Filipinos seem to LOVE).
Filipinos: I am asking you to think MORE.
Eleanor Roosevelt said "Great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, small minds discuss people." Sadly, perhaps due to colonization and other factors (I'll get to these later), the Philippines may have established itself as a country full of "small minds" - people that were discouraged from being ambitious, and kept from their potential. Those in power wanted to keep it that way, and to some extent I believe it's still the same today. The masses are encouraged to keep consuming products and stay focused on (and distracted by) trashy, mindless TV and gossip. I've seen it happen in the US. It's good for the economy, but bad for the culture (it makes things easier for a government to manipulate its people and keep them powerless).
CONSUMERS AND COPYCATS
The Philippines seems to be a country full of consumers and copycats. What do I mean by that? Media consumption - TV, radio, and Internet...and it's all designed to manipulate you one way or the other. Encouraged through the media is shopping - you've got to have the latest shoes, bags, and phones. Otherwise, your value in society isn't very high.
Just like in the US, it's a very shallow, endless cycle of consumption, but Filipinos, what are you producing? What are you contributing to the world?
You are widely known to be some of the best cover-artists in the world. You can recreate almost any song - sometimes even better than the original! Pinoy vocalist Arnel Pineda becoming the lead singer of the iconic American band "Journey" is a good example of this. You're such gifted musicians and vocalists, and aside for the US and UK, I'm pretty sure you can speak English better than any country in the world - so where are your own musical contributions? I know you have some classic Filipino songs, but I'm talking about international hits (and Fil-Am artists don't count).
Filipinos, perhaps hundreds of years of colonization have left you holding back your talent...and feeling like you don't have a voice - that your opinions don't matter, and have no value. That is understandable (given your country's repressive history), but we live in a different world now, and I hope you can begin to take the first few steps away from that oppressive past.
LIFT YOURSELVES UP, BUT DON'T FORGET WHO YOU ARE
Now, with your growing economy, you are heading in the same direction as many wealthy western countries. You are "modernizing", and that appears to be a good thing. Do you know what the irony is, though? In our countries, the "higher standard of living" is not what you might think. Most of you have plenty of "quality social time". The amount of time we have to reflect and enjoy life with friends and family is shockingly little. Unlike most of yours, our families are broken and very disconnected. In the "developed" world, we seem to be losing our humanity - we barely make eye contact when we're out in public! Your family-oriented culture and sense of connectedness is something that you REALLY have going for you in the Philippines.
In our countries we work too much, are completely stressed out, and have countless new diseases and psychological disorders that I believe are popping up because of life in our hectic modern world. A therapist is practically a requirement for life in any large American city. Filipinos, do you even know what a therapist is? No? Good. Haha:) These disorders (just like therapists) are rare in the Philippines. This seems to be the price we pay for being "advanced and developed" nations. The point is, I do hope you can break free from this "colonial" mentality, but aside from that...
Filipinos: Don't try to be more like us, try to be more like YOU. I believe what the the world needs now is more you, not more us.
In my last article about Filipino culture, I mentioned how a few people in Manila seemed to be ashamed to speak Filipino with me. I didn't like that; I hoped they would be proud of their culture. I got the impression that they admired me so much - just for being white! When I would go through security anywhere in Manila, I was the only one who wouldn't be searched. I seemed to get a free pass, again, because I was white. That was something I loved about Cebu and the Visayas...there, the security searched me just like everybody else. It was fair. In general, people down there weren't impressed with my white skin. If I was going to impress them, I would have to earn it. They were proud, and I loved that. I don't mean to promote regionalism here; I just would love to see all Filipinos develop that sense of cultural pride.
Truly the "Pearl Of The Orient Seas"
Filipinos (from north to south), please know that your culture and who you are is something unique and special in the world - something precious that's rapidly disappearing, in fact. Please don't be afraid to be proud - I know you prefer to be modest, but I don't believe pride and modesty have to be enemies. I believe you can be proud without thinking or acting like you are better than others. Be proud of your culture; your heritage.
Philippines, I hope soon you will become known for being more than just a friendly country with affordable opportunities for foreign-owned businesses. My hope is that you will gain a reputation as a nation of innovators and entrepreneurs...as creators. I have never seen so much talent be so under-utlilized. With your stunning beaches and lush mountain provinces, you are also poised and ready to take the world's tourism industry by storm. However, your ecosystem is delicate, and it needs to be protected and preserved. I'd love to see your country pave the way for environmentally-friendly tourism. That would be an innovative and much needed contribution to the world!
At the very least, I hope you can share the Filipino way of life with the rest of the world, because we could certainly learn a lot from it.
The "Crab Mentality" - Is It Helpful?
Please put an end to the "crab mentality" - lift each other up, don't pull each other down. If your country is ever going to rise up and share its treasures with the world, you will have to foster an environment of praise and support for your countrymen.
Filipinos: You are some of the most talented, soulful, and generous people I have ever encountered. Please know that you DO have a voice, that your ideas DO matter, and that your contributions (whether they be musical, artistic, or intellectual) WILL be felt.
Believe it, and the rest of the world will, too.
Oh! One more thing. If you work in government, do not EVER forget your responsibility to represent the PEOPLE - a people and a culture with a lot to offer the world. YOU represent them on the world's stage. Do NOT let them down.
- Nathan Allen
"The object of life is not to be on the side of the majority but to escape finding oneself in the ranks of the insane." Marcus Aurelius, Roman Emperor and stoic philosopher, 121-180 A.D.
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A very well written blog post--and true as well!
I hope as the Philippines becomes more modernized and rises up in the global economic order, the Filipinos do not forget 'who they are' and try to become another copycat Western country. What the world needs less of is...more people driven by consumerism, materialism and wealth, rather than a society and people who are cheerful, joyful and enjoy life. Also, I enjoy the fact that Filipinos are the most friendliest of all Asian races, and are known for their openness (unlike Northeast Asians). It's something that I hope the Filipinos never lose in their culture...
The Philippines has so much potential as an economy: think about this; only 50-60 years ago, the country was one of the wealthiest countries in Asia. Now, it's one of the poorest. How the Filipinos manage to f**k their country-up so badly, no one will know...
Colonialism has left a bad legacy in the country and, I think, has led to a feeling of inferiority among the people; I hope that changes in the future...
I really want to visit the Philippines before it becomes just another workaholic-Asian country. I hope to visit the country soon, sometime next year.
Very balanced article. Hard to disagree on anything. It's surely penned with love and respect towards the Filipinos.
Simple answer: ask Marcos' uber-corrupted mandarins who took over after the "dictator" left.
That is exactly what happens to countries after colonialism - they are left with a sense of inferiority and subordination. Their productive energies had been all focused on extracting resources and producing assets to be shipped overseas. One good thing about Ferdinand Marcos was his "dirigism", the strong hand with which he was steering the country's economy and shaping its productive investment. General Park in South Korea was beating a similar track, and many economists of the time were convinced that Korea was the laggard and the Philippines were poised to have the second spot as the most efficient productive economy in Asia (after Japan).
Then we know how it went...