The Philippines is a paradise for men

[publicduende]

Hi,Public duende,I apologize for my tone in my previous post.I respect you as a person and a poster.

Your tone has been mighty fine. No worries.

I am fine with East asian/southeastasian girls too.I love their look and their culture.

and no,I do believe strongly in the Lord Jesus Christ,and have repented for fornicating in the past and promised to never do it again to him so I just want to find a nice girl that I'm decently attracted to.

Sex used to be my idol,but thanks to Spiritual transformation;romance and sex are not that important to me anymore.I wanna focus on being financially independant and a Holy righteous man with great mental happiness,Contentment and Serenity first.

I respectfully disagree that pretty girls are only 10%.

in portugal it was like 88%.in egypt it was like 95%.atleast for young hijabis.

some countries do have more pretty women than others,and in my dad's country the netherlands I found most dutch women attractive.I don't need a stunner.dutch women are nice too and decent people.its also easier to date there in my experience and I had a few pretty dutch girls like me over the years.personality also goes a long way in the netherlands.

on some latina dating sites I get pretty girls like Chispa,even with a beard where I look way more middle eastern(I can sometimes pass for spanish or italian shaven)and two users on another forum had my passwords to my accounts and one said he had to avert his eyes because he was getting jealous at all the beautiful women that liked me.

maybe the best thing for me is to go to Northeastern India,where the population is racially east asian and protestant and I would have alot of financial leverage.

Asian girls like me the most out of any other race judging on my experience.

my wife must be a practicing protestant at the very least,wich makes dating a bit harder but also gives me a narrow set of choices that are good compared to dating in secular culture where anything goes.

Well, if those are your intentions and that is your "pretty" threshold (88%), you have a wide open field. More than looks and age, you would probably focus on personality and moral values (e.g. being a Christian, like you). I can't speak for every country in the world but, as far as Colombia and the Philippines and their ladies, you should be able to do just fine over there/here.

If you can afford to invest time, e.g. if you have a portable job/source of income, you might move to one of these places for longer than the usual couple of weeks - say 3 to 6 months. This would give you the highest chances to meet plenty of girls, above and beyond dating sites which usually list the rock bottom of the sample. If you are a devoted Christian you may join a church (not all Filipinos are Catholic, there are lots of Protestant, too, and even a few cultish churches you'd be better avoiding!) and, so long you are sincere in your intentions, you'll be bound to find a pretty, smart unmarried girl who's just looking to settle.

Good luck!

[chanta76]

Wouldn't the filipina family want to beat up expat guys that just use filipina for sex? Honest question?

[publicduende]

Wouldn't the filipina family want to beat up expat guys that just use filipina for sex? Honest question?

That's the same question I asked myself, time and again. There are many reasons why that is very, very rare, if it ever happens.

First and most obviously, most of the "readily available" girls you meet in a city do not live with their parents. In many cases, they are sharing a crappy dorm room with one or three other girls, of equally modest means. In the best cases they are living independently and only go back to their families every other weekend, or less. Even many young single moms don't actually live with their children. They leave (dump?) the kids to their mothers or "lolas" (grannies) and work in town to support both the (grand)parents and the kids.

Then there's the fact that the average Filipino family is numerous and every son and daughter is supposed to contribute to the family, especially if they still live under the same roof. It's quite customary for them to share the same home, often even the same rooms, but hardly ever talk, let alone open up about being "exploited" by a foreigner.

Many of the poorer girls are real simpletons and very gullible, they are extremely easy to convince that the Kano in front of them is their ultimate Saviour. Even if they don't like the idea of having sex with a 60-yo man who looks worse than their grandpa, they easily convince themselves that spending some time with the foreigner is "their shot" at starting a relationship which may well turn their lives around, and that of their kids and family.

Most of them probably know, or feel, that hooking up with a young and good-looking 30-something man who looks, talks and behaves like a "babaero" (womanizer) is not likely to lead to an LTR. Yet, they have that right mix of curiosity, patience and "attitude to risk" which leads them to go all in, whether it's a day or a month. Not to mention the innate pragmaticism that, especially in the larger cities where foreigners are not impossible to find, tells them "if one is gone...next please!".

Then there's also the typical "here and now" attitude of the poor, uneducated Filipina. Many of these girls cannot easily understand the consequences of their actions. Or maybe they do, but they are capable to seize and enjoy the moment without asking themselves what is going to happen once the foreigner is gone. This is why it's so, so common to see foreigners, especially Chinese, Koreans, Japanese hooking up and spending a few days or weeks with some remarkably pretty girls. The girl knows she's gonna be flown around the Philippines, stay in nice hotels and be generally pampered in exchange for some "GFE s*x". Carpe diem: they love to "seize the day", then "que sera, sera".

All in all, these girls may not even realise that they are being exploited, exactly like many foreigners (those we see on Raffy Tulfo's channel) can go on for years before getting the memo that their "lovely fiancee/wife" has been milking them for money while entertaining another man.

Finally, there's the typical attitude of Filipinas, like most Asians, to tend to "save face". Unless there's actual physical violence and they are left traumatized, they will tend to bottle up the negative experience and either move on, or maybe vent it away to their best friends. They wouldn't easily speak to their families with the purpose of organising a retaliation, let alone talk to the police. This passive attitude is, actually, why so much domestic abuse (including sexual) perpetrated not only by husbands but also by uncles, cousins, and even fathers, goes unreported and swept under the rug.

Of course there are also a lot of girls, especially in Manila, Cebu and Davao, who are not an easy catch because they have enough self-respect to tell a serious man worthy a relationship from a womanizer. Sure, they might be horny once in a while and go hunt for some pretty boys in bars and clubs, but they generally aim at a stable relationship the moment they're out of college and enter the labour market (21-23 yo).

[jamesbond]

Winston has loved living in the Philippines.

[Jackfruits]

He is always in Angeles city

[gsjackson]

How is it a paradise for men when they fall right in line to the vaccine reSQUIREments of the actual West??? One of fellow members, Jester, recently died over this type of crap.

Holy shit, Jester died? That's so messed up, I had no idea. When did that happen? Poor guy. I always liked him as a poster, one of my favorite people to interact with on the forums, before his departure. So sad to hear of his death.

A little over a month ago. You can find an obit thread that public duende started.

More messed up than you know. Jester was adamantly opposed to getting jabbed, but mistakenly thought he needed one to return to the U.S. Died of a heart attack 12 hours after the jab. The info came from a family member via Eurobrat. A real tragedy in so many ways.

[Shemp]

I'll try to find the obituary thread right away.

viewtopic.php?style=21&f=5&t=45511

Note that Jester was apparently a booze hound and otherwise didn't take care of his health, which probably was the real cause of his early demise, contrary to what some frightened old woman masquerading as a man says.

[publicduende]

Note that Jester was apparently a booze hound and otherwise didn't take care of his health, which probably was the real cause of his early demise, contrary to what some frightened old woman masquerading as a man says.

The way I heard it, he was in good health. From some of the last photos of him I saw, he had lost a lot of weight and had a big smile on his face.

Got the jab, 12 hours later he was dead.

Regardless of your position towards (or against) Covid conspiracies, those jabs have killed quite a few people over in Europe (including Italy, too) and, unlike the virus, all of them were relatively young and perfectly healthy people.

[Yohan]

The Philippines is a paradise for men.

I felt that way, once. Now I don't feel that way any longer. The Philippines is amazing as a holiday destination, as some place one has fond memories of, and misses deeply. Some place to long for when you're living life, slaving away in whatever country you hail from.

A week, a month, or two, it's great. Best thing ever. But a year, two years? Couldn't do it, man. Yes, I have, and yes I had good times.

But @Winston made this observation once that struck with me: "The Philippines drains all a man's desire to build and create things and be productive." And it's true; it sort of, lulls you to sleep. Keeps you satisfied with sunshine, cheap thrills, trips to resorts and beaches. It's nice... but it's a retired man's lifestyle. I find that I simply cannot enjoy it as much as I'd like. And it's too costly, too, to truly enjoy it.

The Philippines isn't as cheap as some people make it out to be, not if you like things a little more high class, a little more tasty, a little better quality.

I agree with all what Marcos writes here with his comment and I made similar comments in the past.

It's not only about Philippines, but about other countries like Thailand or Cambodia as well.

I can only advice men from Western countries NEVER to bring all their savings into such countries and to believe now they are in a paradise for life.

I know about too many Western men who went bankrupt, divorced, became sick and lost all their money for medical treatment, were badly cheated by women and their family members and in some cases either left penniless back to the country they came from, or were ending up alone and became alcoholics, some ending up even committing suicide.

About Thailand, Philippines, Cambodia, Malaysia etc. I can say about myself, it is nice to be there - especially if you do not like cold winter time - for a few months, but after you don't know what to do all day.

Like myself, many European people I met are either retired or do seasonal work, (especially those from Scandinavia), they often bought their own condo unit and bring their own money, stay a while for long holiday and after they are gone back.

Many of them work something for at least 7 months a year in their own countries to keep all social benefits (like health insurance, retirement insurance), save up some money and stay abroad not over half a year (less than 180 days is critical to qualify as a tourist, but also as a resident of your own Western country to keep a permanent address there)

About Philippines, as Marcos correctly noticed, this is NOT such a cheap country if you are looking for some comfortable life as a foreigner.

Do not ask me how much money I spend when I am visiting my Filipina forsterdaughter in Cebu - and how much money I spent in the past for her food, medical treatment, housing, school - and what I gave away for other poor people - and of course also what I spend for myself for good accommodation, some good restaurants, also transportation (airplanes and ferries, taxis) as this country has no other connection between its many islands, no bridges, no underwater tunnels. Also many places are not safe to go, you have to be careful to avoid criminality ....Entrance fees for resorts - they ask you to pay for all and everything - and so on and so on. - However I never stay for more than 3 to 4 weeks in Philippines and not more than 2 months in Thailand in my own rooms.

Be aware, the Philippines is NOT a paradise for men - unlike you are really rich, or at least have a regular working contract with a foreign company and need not to care about your financial situation. However really rich people can live everywhere, no need to choose Philippines, Thailand or such countries.

[Jackfruits]

i was spending $2500-3000/m in Cebu city, i think i can do on a budget $2000-2500/m in PH whereas in BKK, Asoke I stayed in a 4 star hotel and lived a luxury life and ate daily in a luxury hotel's restaurant such as Radisson, etc on 2500-3000/m whereas in PH it was a rather basic lifestyle. Im not poor but really cant understand people saying you can easily live in manila for 1000-1500/m as a semi king, maybe 10+ y ago but not now. For a normal life in cebu I was paying 2500-3000 and for manila I think you could do it for 3k/m though I spend 4500 over 3 weeks. If you are a pensioner and want to live on a 1000-1500/m you are staying in some stinking shack in the outskirts of the city. Actually in Asia I would only rate Japan and SG more expensive. So yes Taiwan, China and all other countries are even cheaper than PH

[Yohan]

i was spending $2500-3000/m in Cebu city, i think i can do on a budget $2000-2500/m in PH whereas in BKK, Asoke I stayed in a 4 star hotel and lived a luxury life and ate daily in a luxury hotel's restaurant such as Radisson, etc on 2500-3000/m whereas in PH it was a rather basic lifestyle.

Yes, true, everything related to accommodation is cheaper in Thailand than in Philippines. Regardless if you choose to stay in hotels, serviced apartments, rent a house for long-stay, or if you buy your own condominium.

[Jonny Law]

NEWSFLASH
Thailand is Cheap (Less Expensive)!

BYOM!
Bring Your Own Money and/or Remote work from your Western Country. The pay rate sucks in Thailand. I was living like a king with less than $1000 a month.

[Yohan]

....Actually in Asia I would only rate Japan and SG more expensive. So yes Taiwan, China and all other countries are even cheaper than PH

South Korea is also anything else but a cheap place and HongKong too. More expensive than Philippines for sure.

But it's not only about pricing, it's also about how the country looks like. It cannot be denied, that large areas of Philippines are either unsafe for foreigners and often for Filipinos too (like parts in the South) and often not so small parts around the cities are nothing but a slum.

In Japan, where I am living since decades, it depends really where you are. Life in the large cities like Tokyo, Osaka, Fukuoka is terribly overpriced for rent and sale of any accommodation.
But as a foreigner, if you live and have to work, there are hardly any jobs for you outside of that area.

Now retired, we are living in Okayama/Kurashiki (not so small about 1.2 million people and also a rather wide area, but by far not so densely populated and a lot of greenery around) and real estate prices (everything from cheapest rent up to buy a large condo or house etc.) are around 3 to 4 times cheaper than in these large cities.

[Yohan]

Bring Your Own Money and/or Remote work from your Western Country. The pay rate sucks in Thailand. I was living like a king with less than $1000 a month.

USD 1000,- is around baht 38.000,-

Of course many Thai people earn less than that amount. But as a foreigner, yes, you can live with that - if you rent one room for 1 person, living alone, don't waste money in expensive restaurants, don't waste money for night life, don't have your own car, don't have any medical issue...

It's OK, but I would not call it a life like a king.

Average financial requirement for foreigners, for long-stay, by immigration rules is considered to be baht 65.000,- (around USD 1.700,-) monthly - of course you need not to spend it all, but you should have it ready for immediate use in your banking account.

I spend about while in Thailand around baht 90.000,- a month, around USD 2.400,- (I have my own rooms, no rent, but there are maintenance fees for staff, repairings, electricity, elevators and the large private swimming pool in the condo building costs also a lot to keep it in good condition etc.)

[Jackfruits]

NEWSFLASH
Thailand is Cheap (Less Expensive)!

BYOM!
Bring Your Own Money and/or Remote work from your Western Country. The pay rate sucks in Thailand. I was living like a king with less than $1000 a month.

chiang mai? yes that's a cheap place