Can East Indian looking men get women in Colombia?

[Pixel--Dude]

I never knew that love was a plant.
That's your individual view of love, women on the other hand are all about looks, they also tend to be harsher judges. I am firm in my convictions, love is raw attraction.

Yes, I already said that a physical attraction precedes love. When you don't know someone physical attraction is all you have to go on. Love comes afterwards. You can't love someone romantically you're not physically attracted to and you can't love someone you've only just met. All that love at first sight bull is for romance chick flicks that have no basis in reality.

I never said love was a plant in a literal sense. Read what I said. I used a plant as an analogy to describe how love is something that needs to be nurtured in order to grow. If neglected it dies and it doesn't grow over night. You can be firm in your convictions if you like. Many philosophers have spoken in depth about the topic of love and I find their reflections more insightful than someone who stubbornly asserts love is raw attraction. The two things are not the same. It seems you have a very narrowly conceived notion of what love is.

Are you sure it's not a weak feeling in your ttits ??

This is a never-ending debate for guys like you, but there is no debate in my book.
Looks and money are very material stuff and therefore very important, OP low-key understands it, this also explains his unhealthy obsession with ugliness, he knows that looks is the key to success. Bottom line, there is no love without looks.

You think feeling love makes someone weak?

That sounds like the position of someone who has never experienced love. There is nothing weak about loving someone. I have many people in my life I have a lot of love for.

There is no love without physical attraction. Granted. I think this is correct too. I could never personally love someone I don't find physically attractive. Physical attraction is one of the important parts of a functional relationship or marriage.

[Mobo]

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[Mobo]

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[publicduende]

OK, flower, have fun with the wife down the rotary club.

[Mobo]

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[Pixel--Dude]

If you are ugly, you can never generate, validation, attraction and love in a woman, at this point it's not love but really a one-sided delusion.
Go on and deny all you want.

I think the topic of physical attraction is a complicated issue. I think good looks are both a subjective thing based on preference, but at the same time aesthetics are important and I think there is a universal standard of objective beauty. The subjective side of it comes into play with all the little preferences people have such as a specific phenotype etc.

At the same time, I don't think all hope is lost for people who are objectively ugly. So long as you're charismatic, friendly and confident I think women can still find someone attractive. Everyone is different and some women find someone who is charismatic and kind more appealing than some hunk who's a disrespectful dick. It depends on the woman. They aren't all the same.

As for me? What does my girlfriend find attractive about me? f**k knows, as I'm not attractive or charismatic

Denial, I am sure when you walk down the street with your gf, she eyes some handsome hunk.. this is out of your control and there's nothing you can do about it.
Why tell the truth, who wants to be known as a cuck ??
But the reverse is true and you can't deny it, it's called disgust at first sight.

Maybe she does have a little peek. I'm not so naïve as to believe that I'm the only man in the world she finds attractive. I think other women are attractive too. This is just something people have no control over. You can't control who you find attractive and you can't control who you fall in love with. Even if my girlfriend found other guys physically attractive, I'm not so insecure that I need to feel threatened by it. In the same sense that I find other women attractive, but would never cheat on her because she is the only one I love, I hold my girlfriend to that same standard and trust her implicitly.

Disgust at first sight isn't the same kind of thing as the idea of love at first sight. Love and disgust are not polarities of the same thing. Attraction and disgust, maybe. Even love and hate are polarities like hot and cold. But disgust is something you could have towards someone you found particularly ugly. But you'd feel that disgust without any particular emotional attachment.

[Mobo]

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[publicduende]

Back in the days, the conversations I overheard from the women's restroom which was behind the men's restroom, could be considered independent testimony that for women looks was the end all and be all.
In this type of situation, I consider independent testimony to be more reliable than proof, because it exposes the denialist and the apologist for who they really are, big-time cucks.

You don't want to know what I overheard.

Let's do a f***ing mea culpa, for once, though, come on, come on...
How many times, in our own changing room moments, at pool edge, or in a bar, or at a campsite, we boys haven't been talking about women as if their only value was in their breast size, or their face, or how good they are at giving BJs. These kinds of conversations are quite common during camaraderie moments, among men just as much as among women.

It doesn't mean we men are only capable of choosing a woman for us on the sole basis of their breast size. I mean, we wish LOL No, jokes apart, what one says during those moments of brutal pour-parler, is not necessarily what happens when looking for, or finding, a partner.

[MarcosZeitola]

Lol who let a whole bunch of incels in this site all of a sudden, did they close down one of the major incel spots recently? The whole "self-hating ethnic" is such a tired old trope.

[yick]

OK, flower, have fun with the wife down the rotary club.

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[69ixine]

Lol who let a whole bunch of incels in this site all of a sudden, did they close down one of the major incel spots recently? The whole "self-hating ethnic" is such a tired old trope.

https://incels.is/threads/winston-wu.403347/

I have a lot of admiration for Winston simply because of how unattractive he is. If he was able to overcome his unattractiveness and get laid overseas, then there's a glimmer of hope for the rest of us.

Then again, his success came in the early-to-mid 2000s, before Tinder and social media was developed and spread around the globe. It's a whole different world now than when Winston made a name for himself.

They have to settle for Ukranian prostitutes even when they're rich as hell. Why would I be jelous? Depressing tbh

https://incels.is/threads/why-do-s-expa ... ls.127128/

I use to think I found Asians attractive, but in reality I dont, its just the select few with European facial features that I find attractive, a 100% legitimate looking Asian woman with legitimate Asian features is disgusting. You know those ones with the moon heads, flat faces despite not being fat, etc.

One of the most pathetic groups of men are those men who have to go to Thailand or Philippines to get laid becuase the women in their countries shun them, yet these same men have the audicaity to call incels creeps and they need to "man up". Don't they realize they would also be incels if it were not for noodles?

I agree. Expats are the most arrogant and obnoxious. They think they've ascended by paying for prostitutes, LOL.

Like slaying in a country like Philippines is of any achievement lol. The men there are 5'4 tall average and the country is poor so that anyone from a first world city is rich

Technically many of them are long term betabuxxers failing to realize that if they werent white they would be incels or failed normies

Incel.is is toxic, full of self-loathing losers, race-baiting retards and low-IQ lunatics, but at least they accept the truth.

Those incels are right though,east asian women are ugly downies and men that go for them are losers that bank on their whiteness,their money or plain tricking to get one.I have no respect for men with east asian partners.

The only reason I'm hesitant to go after white women,is because so many are nasty mudsharks.

I would think going after a christian punjabi would be best for me.

I think that asian women also are way more lookist and racist than western women,despite being ugly aliens.

not all asian women are ugly,some are hot but it's few and far between in the phillipines.

Edit:Raising a child that looks nothing like you is so cucked.I couldn't feel love for such a child.It's like raising a different genetic code so obviousely,and a different person.

[publicduende]

Sounds more like bruised ego and hard coping.

You are a lost-fantasist, the conversations of men and women are nothing alike,
Women speak in terms of looks, boundaries and experiences.
Their conversations may sound innocent for a Manul like you, but it really sounds discriminative and malevolent.

Women judge in terms of :
1. Looks
2. Age

In that group, there were 2 Filipina and they were more vocal about lookism, much worse than their western counterparts. The Filipinas looked very ugly which was kind of ridiculous and hilarious at the same time.

You mentioned earlier that your Filipina wife is 20 years younger than you.
But then this hits home, how does it feel knowing that women practice age-discrimination and have no for respect guys like you, that they downright hate you ?
It's even worse if you are a successful man and that you are disrespected by 3rd grade non-western women in a third-world country.
But what kills you is that you know I am right, because you will have to admit to yourself, when you walk down the streets of Manila, that these types of relationships are a complete sham from the beginning and that 3rd grade women have nothing but contempt for old expats.

Men like you are part of the problem, you are an apologist and a wishful thinker.
Women break the rules for hot-felons like jeremy meeks, and make iron-fist rules for guys like you.

I knew someone had to make this personal. I am just saying, you overheard a poolside or locker rooms conversation among women. However brutal and nasty their comments might sound, remember that these things have to be taken in context.

Women judge in terms of the LMS Look, Money, Status triptych, understood. Men also engage in light-hearted conversations about women and, often, they also make comments about their looks, or the state of specific body parts. Men are also capable of deeper conversations about women, their relationships with them (whether they're married or just dating)...but so are women.

Yes, so typical...it's the uglier women who have the most insecurities about men and dial up the nasty wheel to feel more (self-)respected. Nothing new about this. Social psychology 101. Outside that circle, those women will probably be miserable loners.

My wife is 19 years younger than me but, sometimes, I get the impression that she is more mature than me. She is definitely more mature and strong-minded than her age (28). She never once let me even think that "she practices age discrimination". Again, I don't discount that, among her BFFs, a few times, years ago, she might have indulged in conversations that sounded age-ist, or look-ist, or money-ist. But so what? I committed that sin too, countless times. 90% of the conversations I still have, offline, with a specific member of this forum, whom I shall not mention, are about how this or that Filipina looks ugly or out of shape, or has a bland personality.

Going back to my wife, I never felt disrespected, and neither do all of the adult men I have spoken to, including some expats here in Manila. You just learn to judge people from what they do to you, on a daily basis, not what they might have said during a girls night out or sleepover 6 years ago. Finally, just FYI, you shouldn't stereotype Filipinas as "3rd world" trash. My wife hails from an upper class family, is a graduate of one of the country's best private universities, and works for the Asian Development Bank as an Analyst/Researcher. ADB is virtually the only world-class financial institution that is headquartered in the Philippines.

You may well say that many women who end up with us older men, retiring or working in the Philippines, are of the uneducated, shallow and judgmental types. And you may be right. Going from zero to hero, from sex-starved to well-f***ed once a day, is enough to cloud the most rational man's mind, so they start thinking with their ballsacks and they are committed to the first woman who gives them that, before they know it.

Some other men, like me (and we are a minority) moved to the Philippines for other reasons, opening a business in my case. They know full well that they will be living in the Philippines continously for a long time and they can take their sweet time to cherry pick the best possible woman their personalities, socio-economic conditions and, well, LMS will afford them. It took me a rather frustrating 2.5 years before meeting C, my wife. In the meantime, I would have sex with 3 different girls every week, knowing that I would not want to end up in a committed relationship with any of them.

So, "the problem" is with men like you who won't discern tones of grey in the male/female dynamics. It's not all black and white: women, bed, men, good. Filipinas, bad, mature expats, good.

P.S. What does "manul" mean? A small wild cat?

[Seeker]

@trident765 I know nothing about Colombia but if you're 6'1" and make 6 figures but are still a kissless, dateless virgin at 31 years of age I think there's more going on than looking Indian. Most Middle Eastern men in the US date Middle Eastern, White or Hispanic women, you don't mention your own racial preferences if any, could it be that you're only after White women? Do you have real life friends, do you go out and socialise with them?

@publicduende, as a South Asian man (not East Asian) who spent his first 30 years growing up, studying and working in the North of England I have to say that @yick is far closer to the mark than you are. For one thing no one in their right mind should be recommending the UK as a good place to look for women, even for good looking young White men. The quality of women is too low, and the competition for the few attractive women is too high. When I was growing up in the 90s and early 2000s, whilst I did get some attention from women and girls it was nothing compared to what I got abroad. I also noticed that in the UK I got intense and sometimes even an uncomfortable amount of interest from South Asian girls and considerably less from White girls. This tells me that there is a strong same-racial preference among these groups.