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How To Get Laid in Colombia… Jesse’s Super Guide!

Postby theprimebait » February 11th, 2014, 1:51 am

How To Get Laid in Colombia… Jesse’s Super Guide!
by Jesse Charger| South America

This guide will answer your two burning questions,

a) How hot are Colombian women, *really*? And…

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b) How good is Colombia for getting laid with hot girls?

Since I’ve lived between the cities of Medellin and Cartagena for half a year, and also visited Cali, Bogota, Pereira, and Baranquilla, I can give you a pretty accurate psychological profile of Colombian women and the prospects of meeting pretty girls and getting laid there.

First, let’s take a look at the quality of the women.

So Jesse, How Beautiful Are the Women Really?

What the more attractive young women in Cartagena generally look like.

Most men who visit Colombia hype up the beauty of the Colombian women to no end.

But it’s simply NOT true that all Colombian women are head-turners. In fact, the vast majority of the women are quite “normalâ€￾ looking.

However, because Colombian women don’t eat junk food and they walk everywhere, they DO tend to be lean and fit.

In addition, the population in Colombia is much younger than the U.S. or Europe. Just a generation back, couples would typically have 3 to 8 children. That birth rate has slowed down since to just 2 to 3 children, but the result is lots of 18 to 30 year old women running around today.

In addition, you’ve got a wide variety of ethnic types, depending on what city in Colombia you’re visiting. The North coast of Cartagena and Baranquilla has darker skinned women, while Medellin has lighter skinned women, and even a few blondes. Cities like Cali in the South have more cinnamon colored women. So you can city hop and find all types of women.

In addition, Colombian men are notorious cheaters. There are no laws protecting women, so women usually end up getting impregnated and then dumped by their Colombian boyfriend or husband. Because of the competition, there’s additional pressure on the women to maintain their physical appearance.

The video below shows what the idealized girl from Cali looks like – the “10sâ€￾. In Cali, that means a pretty face, cinnamon color skin, a plump ass, athletic body, and breast implants. Keep in mind these women are not representative of the general female population, most women are nowhere near as attractive or fit.


Medellin is similar, but more white skinned, thinner, and less butt. This video illustrates the best of Medellin women, the “10sâ€￾.


Colombian women are also known as being sexy for how they move and dance– that “Latin Fireâ€￾ – which is a quality that goes beyond just looks and body.

The video below is of Colombian women showing off.

The photos I’ve posted here are the “crème of the cropâ€￾ so to speak. 95% of the women however would fall into normal range of body and looks.

So overall, pretty girls but no more so than say, Miami or Los Angelos.

How the women get exaggerated


Girls from Cartagena, Colombia

Still, Colombia gets hyped up as having amazingly stunning and beautiful women.

The reason is that men with no game and who can’t get laid in their home country, especially aging men past their prime, come to Colombia and start getting IOIs (indicators of interest) for he first time in their lives from the women.

Typical scenario: A 50-year old guy with no game and a big belly (let’s call him “Smithâ€￾), who never gets eye contact from a girl back home in say, Georgia, suddenly touches ground in Medellin, Colombia and suddenly 30-year old women are making eye contact with him.

Add to that, Smith hasn’t traveled much before, and being in a new country feels exciting. He feels young again and his testosterone is pumping.

Smith has a date with a MILF that he set up on beforehand, bangs a few hookers, gets some eye contact from the local ladies, and then goes back home to Georgia telling everyone that Colombia has absolutely the hottest women on the planet, and that the U.S. only has ugly “fem-cuntsâ€￾ who won’t give him the time of day.

It’s not that your typical 20 year old girl in Colombia is any hotter than your typical 20 year old girl in Miami or Los Angeles. She isn’t.

But to the old guy Smith who hasn’t gotten laid in over ten years, he’s suddenly being validated with eye contact, he’s on a travel high, his ego shoots through the roof, and he thinks he’s in p***y and hot women paradise.

The truth is, his opinions are wrapped up in his own ego. He is in no way objective.

So take heed that you can meet just as beautiful women in the U.S. or Europe as long as your game is tight and you don’t shit on your body with fast food.

Okay, now onward…

Getting Laid in Colombia


Medellin hottie

The second question is, is it easier to get laid in Colombia than in the United States?

Well, yes… and no.

The answer is complex, because it depends on who you are and what your goals are.

The reality is, getting laid in Colombia can actually be surprisingly difficult.

Just as a Colombian may mistakenly believe that the streets of the U.S.A. are paved in gold and money, you would be mistaken to believe that the streets of Colombia paved in easy women.

Yes, Colombia has hookers. In fact, that’s why most gringos go. You’ll find fat, middle-aged Gringos with absolutely no game fulfilling their dreams of banging a young woman… by paying for it.

But this guide isn’t about shagging disease-ridden hookers. It’s about meeting regular, quality Colombian women.

Here’s what’s GREAT about Colombian women!


Cartagena girls

1. You are a Gringo, and therefore a desired commodity!

If your native language is English, you’re different, exotic, and assumed to be high status.

There aren’t too many gringos in Colombia, because most are either (a) falsely too scared to go (b) too broke (c) have no passport (d) or just don’t know about Colombia.

So you pretty much have the run of the place to yourself. For every one Gringo there, there’s about 20 girls who would love to date a cool Gringo. So you’ve got high status right off the bat. Expect women to give you indicators of interest, even if you’re not the best looking guy.

You’ll even be more in the money if you take 20 minutes to dye your hair blonde and get blue colored contacts!


More Cartagena babes

2. Age differences are not a big deal!

In Colombia, you’ll see 45 year old guys dating 20 year old women. I’ve even met an ugly 50 year old dude, who lived in Colombia, dating a woman in her mid-20s.

In Colombia, there’s far less social stigma about age differences. It’s okay for a woman to marry a much older gentlemen, as long as he can provide for her.

I’ve seen older gentlemen with young women in the U.S. too, but you need real game to pick up a younger woman, because there’s more social stigma against it. If you’ve got game and you hook up with that younger 18 year old, you’ll often meet push-back from her family and parents. Not so in Colombia!

3. Colombia is good for day game

The U.S. is a real car culture; we drive everywhere. And for that reason, many cities are lame for meeting women during the day. You’re pretty much restricted to your local mall or bookstore.

Colombia however relies far more on good ole’ fashioned walking, buses, trains, and public transit. Not only does it keep the women nominally fit, it also makes it easy to meet them.

You can go for a stroll in any neighborhood and have non-stop daytime sets for daytime game. Great!

And Here’s why Colombia Is Often HARD For Getting Laid


Party in Medellin

Colombia sounds like p***y paradise, right? Not so fast cowboy!

Colombia is actually a *difficult* place to lay a bunch of hot girls. And here’s why.

1. Gringos, while status symbols, also have a bad reputation.

Yes, it’s a paradox. As a gringo, you’re exotic and desired.

At the same time, gringos have a reputation for shamelessly chasing prostitutes. And that’s exactly what 90% of the gringos there do.

These gringos have zero game and have no interest in learning game. They just prefer to pay for cheap, easy sex.

Consequently, regular Colombian women will not sleep with you so easily. They’re suspicious that you’re in Colombia just there to hook up with prostitutes. And they feel if they sleep with you right away, you will just f**k them and dump them, like a prostitute.

Also, Colombian women who hook up with a gringo too fast may fear her reputation becomes tarnished. “She had sex with a gringo after the first date?… hmm, maybe he paid her!â€￾ goes the thinking there.

So it can look bad to be seen in public with a gringo too quickly, even though you’re simultaneously a status symbol. f***ed up, right?

That means the girls will throw you lots of IOIs – eye contact for instance. But it’s quite difficult to actually get their pants off.

Compare that to the United States. Yes, it’s more difficult to get IOIs from the girls in the U.S. But once you’re “inâ€￾ with a girl, she’s much more liberal about jumping into bed with you.

2. Colombian women are sexually mistrustful of men in general.


More Medellin women

Colombian men have a notorious reputation for being massive cheaters.

First, there are very few laws for protecting women. A Colombian man can bang a girl, get her pregnant, and move on to another girl with little consequence. He need not fear paying child support.

Thus, you’ll find an enormous number of abandoned single mothers in Colombia… and deadbeat Dads. And as a result, women are mistrustful of men in general – and extremely jealous if they’ve got a man.

This kind of culture is NOT conducive for breeding sexually liberated, promiscuous women. Instead, a Colombian woman is inclined to date you without putting out for a long period of time to gauge your “faithfulness levelâ€￾ first. Once you demonstrate that you’ll be faithful and you’re trustworthy, only then will she sleep with you.

It’s not true across the board, but Colombian women are generally quite cautious about men.

3. The Catholic Church.

Old-school religion still touches Colombia deeply. While the Church’s grip on sexual morality is continually loosening, there’s still much guilt surrounding sex.

Colombia is NOT like Sweden where casual sex is accepted. In an agnostic country like Sweden, a young women will meet you in the club, take you home that night, introduce you to her parents, and walk you right into her bedroom and f**k you with her parents able to listen in. Not so in Colombia… noooooooooo way!

Women are deeply concerned about their reputation and the Catholic Church is a powerful moralizing and guilt-creating factor.

4. Nightlife is very social circle oriented.


Partying in Cartagena

In a U.S. or European bar or club, it’s a mingling culture.

Yes, in the U.S. girls go out with their friends and in groups. But it’s perfectly acceptable to forcefully interject yourself into the group and mingle. Most guys have too much approach anxiety to do it, but the fact is that the logistics are on your side. Women stand in small groups and are open to mingle. As long as you’ve got some balls, it’s easy to meet women.

That’s not so much the case in Colombia. Women go out in large groups of friends with other guys, and they tend to sit and socialize in their group.

The women are out with other guys because (a) Colombian culture dictates women need to be protected and chaperoned at all times by male friends and (b) women go with men because guys are expected to pay.

In the U.S. or Europe, you can walk around and mingle. But in Colombia the logistics in many night spots are far less favorable for you.

5. Most young women still live with their conservative and watchul parents and family.


Cartagena women

Colombia is a poor country. A young woman can expect to earn $300 to $500 USD per month. Consequently, a young woman will continue living in her parents home until she gets married.

As a result, most young Colombian women are not independent. Her parents can watch her every move, and they know who she’s going out with and where she’s going at all times.

In addition, typically her grandparents are also living in the house. And her unemployed brother. And her uncle lives next door.

Yes… she’s got a lot of family pressure on her, and her reputation is at stake!

If you call her to schedule a date, her parents will know. So before agreeing to meet you, or even take your call, she has to deal with her family – and family comes first in Colombia.

Will her parents judge her reputation? Will they judge negatively that she’s meeting a gringo? Is this gringo out for just sex, and what will my parents think?

There’s enormous pressure on her then to NOT sex you up even if she does agree to meet with you.

6. The older women tend to be single mothers… and busy.


Medellin MILFs

Most available, single women over age 26 will already have children – and be a single mother. Not only is she broke on a meager Colombian income, but she needs to work long hours and she’s got kids to take care of.

She’ll be eager to date you because she’ll see you as her and her children’s ticket out of poverty. That doesn’t mean she isn’t genuinely attracted. She is genuinely attracted. But her circumstances dictate that she won’t sleep with you that easily.

She’s looking for a financially steady and responsible man who will support her emotionally and financially and accept her children – a provider. So she’s going to want to date you, size you up, and see if you’re real marriage material.

Again, not conducive for easy hook ups.

What this all means

Your typical Colombian female has enormous family pressure. There’s religious guilt. She’s not independent. And she’s afraid that you, as a gringo, are just after hookers and quick sex.

If she puts out fast with a gringo, she’ll get a reputation as a prostitute. So your typical girl, no matter how much she’s attracted to you, will string you along for weeks, if not months. And the more she likes you, the more she’ll want to string you along to see if you’re serious about making her your exclusive girlfriend or wife.

To Get Colombian Girls, Here’s What You Need!


Have I scared you yet? Do you still want to play the game? Okay, here’s 3 essentials you’ll need under your belt before going if you want any kind of success at all.

#1. You need enough balls to cold approach

Can’t do a cold approach in your home country? Then you’ll find yourself no more confident in Colombia either. And you’ll meet exactly ZERO girls.

Women will give you lots of IOIs perhaps, looking your way. But they will NOT approach you… EVER.

My forceful recommendation is to approach at least 3 women a day in your home country for 30 days straight. Once you can do that, you’re ready to go to Colombia.

And if you can’t meet 6s and 7s in your home country, you won’t be able to meet girls in Colombia either.

If your game is still weak, you haven’t gotten the right advice. Most of the dating programs out there put you inside your head and inadvertently create MORE approach anxiety.

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#2. You need time.

You’re going to be in Colombia a just a week you say? That’s not enough time to hook up with a girl, even if your game skills are mad tight.

Colombia is more a place you need to go to actually *live* there for *months* to really hook up with hot women.


#3. You need Spanish.

If you can’t speak a word of Spanish, you won’t even be able to make a basic connection with a girl.

Most Colombians don’t speak any English. And if you can’t speak a word of Spanish, the girl will assume you’re just there looking for easy hook-ups with prostitutes.

So it’s key to do the 90 lessons of Pimsleur for Spanish before you go, which will be enough Spanish to see you through your trip. Don’t go though before you’ve done all 90 lessons!


Who Colombia is good for… and who should skip it

The “Way Beyond AFCâ€￾

The AFC has never approached a girl before. He has massive approach anxiety. He “knowsâ€￾ game in theory, but has never put it into practice.

He thinks going to Colombia will be a quick fix to hooking up.

My recommendation: If you can’t at least approach a girl in your home country, you’ll have just as much trouble meeting women in Colombia.

Work on your game and confidence first. Again, I highly recommend my 15 CD Nonverbal Sexual Mind Control program. The one program is all you need to hit the ground running.

The “Mongerâ€￾

This guy has $500 to blow on a debauched sex-filled marathon of hookers. He doesn’t care about meeting regular women, he just wants to pay for quick and easy pu-tang.

My recommendation: Most gringos go to Colombia for exactly that. And the sexually conservative Catholic culture, coupled with economic poverty and legal prostitution, has created a high demand for girls willing to spread their legs on command. If you just want hookers, Colombia will work for you.

The “Fast-Strike PUAâ€￾

This guy has decent game. He can meet girls back home, but he’s only got a week or two to vacation in Colombia.

My recommendation: You’ll get IOIs and phone numbers, but you’ll be unlikely to hook up with a quality girl. You’re better off going to Europe or to Brazil where girls also like Americans, but they’re far more likely to partake in quick sex.

The “Passive Incomerâ€￾

You’ve got passive income of $1,000 monthly or more (4 hour workweek style), and you want to hang out in Colombia for months, if not years. You’ve got the time to learn Spanish and practice game on the local women.

My recommendation: Colombia can be a great option. It’s cheap, and you’ll have time to meet a beautiful girl and get her into bed. Still, Colombia is far better for the guy looking for one, quality woman than it is for lots of one-night stands.

The “Cradle Robberâ€￾

This guy is older and looking to hook up with a far younger woman as his girlfriend. He has lots of time to spend finding her and courting her.

My recommendation: If you’ve got months to work the scene, Colombia can be a great option for you. The women are pretty, and larger age differences are socially accepted. Some of the old farts who retired and are living there have girlfriends 20 and 30 years younger than themselves.

The “Night Life Partierâ€￾

You’ve got good game and you want to tongue down girls in night clubs and bars and go wild. You’re looking to pull girls home for one night stands.

My recommendation: Skip Colombia. You’re far better off in slutty, college party culture like Cancun during Spring Break, or just back in the good old U.S.A.

The “Hot Girlfriend Seekerâ€￾

You just want to meet a hot chick for an exclusive, long-term relationship. You speak Spanish, you’ve got decent game, and you’ve got time to be down there.

My recommendation: The same facts that make Colombian women are hard to bed also makes them extremely loyal – and almost scarily possessive – girlfriends. If you think you can maintain sexual faithfulness in return, and you’ve got some months to meet and court a hot girl down there, Colombia can be a good option to find a hot girlfriend and eventual potential wife to settle down and have children with.

Don’t let her catch you in the arms of another woman though – she’ll cut your balls off!

Let’s Wrap This Up…

Still want to meet Colombian babes in their native homeland? There ARE some real hotties down there.

But it completely depends on your goals with women… and your lifestyle circumstances. Hopefully this guide has helped to clarify your options and shed light into the wonderfully complex psychology of Colombian women.

many colombian women are hotter than american women but not easy.they are very possesive and mistrustfull of men because colombian men are man-sluts(I ain't shaming them for being alphas just being honest).so to lay a civilian you would need to gain her trust over time and this may take months or years.basically they want sex if they are gonna get commitment.

colombian women are catholic and are conservative to sex,but this also means that if you do have a LTR with one they are extremely loyal and work hard to keep their men.

if you want alot of lays you should do the p4p route,but getting a conservative wife is pretty possible here.

its like the situation in the west,but reversed for men.

anyone get anything else from that article?it seems its a pretty good place to both get laid with hot young girls but also to find a unspoiled conservative wife.

commentary from more Traveled members that have been there?
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Postby rudder » February 15th, 2014, 10:08 pm

Switch the name of the country to Peru, and you've basically got the same thing.

Unfortunately, the guide doesn't touch upon the issue of how women will seemingly make it a point to stand you up, even if you are vibing and have already been on a date or two.
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Postby rudder » February 17th, 2014, 5:08 pm

If she puts out fast with a gringo, she’ll get a reputation as a prostitute. So your typical girl, no matter how much she’s attracted to you, will string you along for weeks, if not months. And the more she likes you, the more she’ll want to string you along to see if you’re serious about making her your exclusive girlfriend or wife.

The same facts that make Colombian women are hard to bed also makes them extremely loyal – and almost scarily possessive – girlfriends. If you think you can maintain sexual faithfulness in return, and you’ve got some months to meet and court a hot girl down there, Colombia can be a good option to find a hot girlfriend and eventual potential wife to settle down and have children with.

Ditto for Peru
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