lone_yakuza wrote:You have some good advice. And I do take personality and intelligence into account. After all, I am a pretty deep thinker and care about the world's issues, so I do not want some girl even if she is pretty, if she cannot think for herself or only cares about makeup.
But if it is the choice between a stupid, near retarded but beautiful girl and a fat, fugly, somewhat intelligent whale who does not know how to take care of herself and does not have the willpower to keep fit or at least look presentable, I would choose the beautiful+stupid girl hands down. I'd rather stab my own heart out with my katana than be forced to let some very fat, ugly (pig/wide-nosed/messed up face), slob of a girl ride on my dick. But most of the girls I have met who are intelligent also happen to be good looking. Most of the girls I have met with inferior intelligence tend to also have inferior looks, inferior personality, and inferior willpower to keep themselves fit.
You said that figuring out what one wants in a relationship/what they want in a partner tells them something about themselves. Well I think it does. I care a lot about looks. Because I care a lot about my own looks. I do my best to keep myself in shape, aesthetic, and strong. So I am not being hypocritical. I hold girls to the same standard I hold myself. I care about my strength, my ability to fight, my talents, my intelligence, my potential for a good job in the healthcare field, my potential to do some good in this evil world. The fact that I would only be willing to date a girl that is 5.5-7.5/10 because I am a 6.5 is because I believe in eugenics. That includes applying eugenics to myself.
I would never go after a supermodel or 8+/10 because I know I am not worthy of them. I would also never go after a girl less than a 5.5/10 because they are not worthy of me. When I am talking about these numbers like rating myself between a 6.5 and 7.5, I do it by factoring in my looks, my intelligence/schooling/class backgroujnd, my natural talents (martial arts, music, art, eye for beauty, determination), my discipline in keeping myself fit and strong, my interest in health and fitness, and of course personality. And I do this as objectively as possible. So it is not just based on looks.
The same can be said of old money WASPS who look for suitors who are worthy of their well educated, beautiful, refined, multi-talented, Ivy-league graduate daughters who would rate 7.5-8.5/10. People of similar "level" should marry other people of simlar "level" and I hold myself to that standard/rule as well. And that is why i believe in eugenics for the betterment of the human race. If I am inferior in some way or have some crippling disease that can be passed on, it is my duty not to reproduce for the betterment of mankind. If people all thought this way, I guarantee that the next generation would be much more beautiful, smart, intelligent, strong, talented, and disease free than this generation.
Look, I appreciate your discipline in taking care of yourself holistically, body and soul, so to speak. In this kind of world, where society and media have taught us that it's always good to "indulge" as it guarantees fatter profits for the usual consumer good corporations, youngsters like you are a rarity. I am not being sarcastic, I really respect people like you. You say you have met quite a few young women who were both intelligent, well educated and also good looking. Didn't you pursue them? Were all of them foreigners and unkeen to commit on a long-term relationship? Tell us more about this, as it's not quite clear.
As for your mention of eugenics, it's a notorious can of worms in any debate on human relationships. Its biological and genetical premises have been refuted long time ago, when the mechanism of recessive gene propagation became clearer. Basically, it would be nice to be certain or almost certain that with a healthy, physically attractive and intelligent partner, your offspring will be more beautiful, stronger, smarter etc. In fact, it's not like that, as good traits could disappear and, just as easily, bad traits (such as predisposition to diseases, if not actual birth defects) appear, all depending on the different mix of carriers. Not to mention all the kind of prenatal issues and random mutations that may further "spoil the recipe". I can say that by experience, as I have myself an eye condition similar to strabismum (surgically corrected when I was a kid) which is entirely due to an infection my Mom had when she was 2 or 3 months pregnant with me. The only well-known thing, which is down to common sense as much as genetics, is that mixed-race offspring is usually stronger, smarter and physically more attractive. So, in a way, your openness to partnering with a foreign woman is perfectly legitimate.
At the end of the day, you sound like a very smart and balanced young man. You are making some rational choices to maximise your chances of success in life, and even having fun in the process. Brilliant! Thing is, as Pascal beautifully put it, "love has reasons which reason cannot understand". Love speaks a different language, which may share a few words with your vocabulary of rational, disciplined life choices, with your eugenics planning and your numeric beauty standards. Or maybe not. You have probably learned a great deal about yourself and what you want from life. Now all you probably need to add to your arsenal is a few emotions: learn what a woman wants, and how to feel in love with a woman. Perhaps it's more direct experience that you are lacking: just meet as many girls as possible, without any expectations, keeping your judgment lifted for as long as possible and trying to get whatever they can give you. Absorb their words, their motions, their (many) idiosyncrasies. Love them for how they look like, for how common or how different from you they think, for all their defects and mistakes. I know many women love to mask their insecurities behind a wall of mistrust, and it's partly our job to melt that ice and enter the core. I have met girls for different cultures in my life and I can tell you, like many other posters here, that Latin American and Filipinas are much simpler, more spontaneous and easier to get intimate with. Perhaps you could skip the hard bit of AWs and focus on those to start with. In the end, the ingredients could be a million different ones, but the final outcome is always the same: bake the cake and eat it. Good luck!
