djfourmoney wrote:Sort of Off-Topic -
I share some similarities with Mr. S in terms of Women in America. Usually fat and I don't mean like 5'8 160lbs, I mean 5'5 and 225lbs. I usually join sites for a short period of time because I'm cheap like that, but I usually get what I need done in 30 days so it doesn't matter. The only women that hit on me are over 40 types. One was a flight attendant that say I was demanding much for being a guy that lived at home. Of course most AW feel that way, if you're below standard somehow that you desire below standard women as well... I was contacted by another woman that had to return to Ojai to take care of her elderly parents. I don't need additional challenges, nor do I want to waste time and money on somebody not that cute to begin with just for companionship, ridiculous...
Why I want to venture into Europe (more) and Eastern Europe (more) because I still believe I can still get a woman under 30 and language is not a barrier to doing so. Yes FSU women that speak conversational English are in high demand, but honestly what demand is there? Most men never make it to the airport... There in lies opportunities!
I by no means have difficulty finding women to date, if that's all I wanted. Its usually sub-par however and I think at this time in my life, I am not willing to spend another 3-5 years looking for some women under 35 without any children, no mental health issues and somewhat close to ideal height/weight.
Mr.S, I encourage you to beat a path to Europe if your done with Asian women as it seems you are. Western Europe has a common culture which appeals to me with less overall negatives than the United States. Nowhere is utopia and I can live with less negatives. The welfare state is completely attractive, as I have said before, I'm taxed, it gets invested where I want it (health care, education, well-being), plus the Work-Life balance is spot on -
http://www.mainstreet.com/slideshow/lif ... ation-time
Also a word about what the US does to Green Card Lottery Winners. There is no support system in place... -
http://www.youtube.com/user/RTAmerica#p ... QHElLoa8EQ
Well I realize now after living in Asia over 6 years that I would like to broaden my horizons and see if I would be more compatible with women in Latin America or Eastern Europe, however I made a big boo boo during the first year of being in the Philippines. Because getting laid and finding short-term or long-term relationships are so easy to get into here in this country. I kinda went sex crazy because of the lack thereof while being stuck in the USA matrix. So one of the broads I hooked up with got pregnant. Now under normal conditions I probably would have just just helped her out and not had much to do with the baby cause in this culture the family helps out and all that. Plus if your not married and a women has a child out of wedlock there is no legal justification for her to go after you unless you as the father want to be a part of the kids life.
So finding out later that both her parents were dead and all her family members are dirt poor, plus my kid looking white not Asian and very much like me not her mother, I decided to bite the bullet and attempt to provide a stable environment for my kid to grow up in. Unfortunately, her mother has some serious emotional issues that I had to battle on and off for the past five years, but I've finally started to get a hold of them as my kid has gotten older and can express herself more and understand whats going on around her.
Also, since I am not married to her mother and have no desire to be, I have very little legal rights to the child when she is 7 years and under. After the age of 7 I can legally challenge for full custody if I choose to do do. My child however can legally choose which parent to be with and then I would have to legally challenge that decision in their courts so technically the whole legal process would be long and expensive. At the age of 14 it becomes easier cause then a child can sign for their own passport and leave the country without the government getting involved as long as a parent accompanies them.
Thus, I have resorted to gaining qualifications that would allow me to work in foreign countries as a professional teacher, giving my child an international education if I choose to do so when she is older if I decide to leave the Philippines with her. However, I could also leave when I feel my child is somewhat competent and can deal with her mother and live somewhere else and visit occasionally until my daughter is of high school age. Or I could just hang around in the Philippines until my daughter is of near to high school age. Or perhaps her mother will just kick the bucket, that would make my life a hell of a lot easier.
For now I pay for her to attend a decent international style school, A Waldorf school, Which mostly has middle class and rich kids going to it so I assume as she grows older she will probably have less and less of a social connection with her mother as she realizes her mother is not of the same caliber as other mothers her schoolmates have. That is my theory anyways.
For now I'm not in a rush anyways cause I have to figure out a way to pay off my student loan debts and that will take a few years. I'd rather go into another country looking for a women with decent financial resources and experience in case I meet someone I can't resist and choose to stay semi-permanent in whatever country I happen to be in.
I'm not saying I couldn't find a decent Asian woman to be with, it's just very difficult to find one you won't get bored with after a while. Most of the guys I see married to locals don't hang out with them much outside the house, they hang out with their mates to get their social stimulation. They just wanted a beautiful girl that they could show off and make a good looking son/daughter baby. The provincial girls can be stunning to look at and nice and do all the household chores and raise a family halfway decent as expected, but your not going to have any kind of stimulating worldly conversations with them. So if you can't keep yourself entertained then you will get bored with them fairly easy.
I've grown up a lot since this experience and I now know what I would want in a woman and a relationship with potential family obligations. So this is why I think an Eastern EUro chick with intelligence and motivation would maybe suit me better even though I understand white women don't hold their looks as long as Asians and tend to gain weight easier when they get older. But I now realize that I'd rather find someone I am compatible with on all accounts long-term, rather than just looks and simple companionship which most SE Asian girls can only provide. If that's all you want and don't want a complicated partner or life than get someone from SE Asia but I'm not completely sold on them, especially now that I'm experiencing what I'd be dealing with if I did have a family here, even though it's not the most ideal situation. I'm living and learning, while dealing with my mistakes. At least i'll be ready to put my all into any possible next relationship I get into, if I find the right woman. If there actually is one for me that is....
"The object of life is not to be on the side of the majority but to escape finding oneself in the ranks of the insane." Marcus Aurelius, Roman Emperor and stoic philosopher, 121-180 A.D.