I went back to visit relatives last year. I have a cousin I haven't seen since I was a kid who is maybe 8 or 10 years older than I am. At the last family reunion I remember seeing him at, he was in his 20's and attended with his girlfriend of about 40 or maybe older. I was a child and I didn't talk to him or pay attention to who he was with. My mom said she wouldn't like her sons dating a woman that old. I remember that. He married her.starchild5 wrote: Women are considered TRUE protector of home. Men cannot protect a family. If you have a gun or knife to save your family, you are already too late. Protection in the form of spiritual layer. No harm comes to a home when a women is older than men.
My dad would talk about relatives and how they were doing. This man married to an older woman and his wife have had quite a bit of financial hardship. My dad has mentioned it a few times over the years when he talks about how relatives are doing.
I know another man, someone I grew up with, who had a fiance several years older than he is. She kept breaking up with him and getting back with him, breaking his heart. Eventually, they broke up and he married another woman about five years older than he is. She was really grumpy toward him when I was around. One time he said before we took a photo, "Act like you like me." I know he used pot when he was young and I believe that is one of the factors that contributed toward her leaving him. She'd sex-starved him for at least a couple of years before divorcing him, completely cutting him off.
Maybe there is an older wife in some of the other couples I've met. I don't usually ask. But based on my observations, that's not the case.
It could be that this cricket star was a little undisciplined and unstable and his older wife brought him some stability, focus, or motivation he needed. That doesn't mean wives should be older. Biologically, it makes sense if wives are younger. Men can have children later in life. It makes sense if a man in his late 20's or early 30's marries a prime-child-bearing age woman in her late teens or early 20's. He can build a house or build up some financial reserves before marriage. A younger woman who comes from her father's house might just submit to her husband if he is a bit older, providing she was submissive and respectful toward her father and well-trained. Some people say that a woman's sex drive peaks in her 30's. That may be true for some, but I think they have more energy for it in their 20's. It's just easier to get tired in one's 30's and 40's. Some men might not care, but if a man has a high sex drive, marrying a younger woman can have some benefits on that front. There are a lot of reasons in favor of the woman being younger. Most traditional societies seem to prefer the man to be older.
I hadn't heard of India having a tradition of the wife being older. In Korea, wives could be older during certain periods of their history. Apparently, Mongols wanted to cart off the virgins and leave the married women in Korea. So Koreans would marry off the girls fast, sometimes marrying off a 16 or 18-year-old girl to a 10-year-old boy if they could to keep the Mongols from taking them away. If wives were scarce, there was motivation for Korean parents to secure a bride for their son, too. That's weird, but those boys probably had some interesting teenage years.
Is it a common belief in India that men should marry older women?