I actually had a date last light... in Ontario??

[jamesbond]

When a woman says, "let's just be friends" there is no way in hell your ever going to date her or bang her! It means she has no interest in you whatsoever! It's there way of politely turning you down! She really doesn't want to be friends, in reality, she never wants to see or hear from you again!

[Grunt]

All this fuss over a 40 year old western feminist.

Like I said, a sad reflection on the state of affairs in America.

[Winston]

Hey maybe you can send a link to this thread to her plentyoffish account to let her know that she's being talked about, and see how she reacts, just for fun. lol Maybe it'll titillate her narcissistic ego?

What do you have to lose right?

[jtest28]

Yeah, thats a good idea. I'd do it. And if she is reading this now, understand this, women's day is coming. I know right now "Men are a dime-a-dozen", but things change. And when they do, men, even without trying to, or consciously realizing it, will completely neglect women. Its simple law of supply and demand. And in those days men will have their pick, leaving a tremendous number of women to die alone, unless women manage to get polygamy legalized so they can share a husband. From what I have been told, they tried to do this after WWI in England. Most the people trying to legalize it were women. I'm going to laugh my ass off if I live to see something like that. ahhh, poor lonely women. . .

[Fantome Slashwrist]

I think I worry too much over women who already have too many guys on their plate and are looking for more.

I think many women off of dating sites have STD's and are drug addicts and alcoholics and spending addicts.

Many of these women have children, especially the one's in their 30s and 40s. If their ex has left his children and the woman too, something was'nt all that great, especially in Ontario where there are no single women hardly. The guy leaves one woman to face hard times to find another, so I would guess something is wrong for sure.

Any woman can be nice over the computer and over a few hours of a first date. We guys don't know who the heck these women are and only can tell by calling their bluff and from our own experiences.

For the most part these women already have too many guys and are looking for more and are all about the money.

[Fantome Slashwrist]

The 40 year old woman, well she actually met
in person that 1 time anyway. Really, she was the
best one out of the pack in my area.

I've went through hundreds and hundreds, maybe even
a thousand now of women who would chat over the computer,
but they could'nt meet or do anything. About 12 of that number,
could talk on the phone. Most just had excuses or gave
the illusion of rejection and the silent treatment.

I have 1 small advantage though. I reside in a low populated
area and have a good memory. When I go to the malls
in Kingston, I recognize women, some I have chatted
with and even 1, I have met, with their boyfriends and
husbands in the mall. It might not be an extremely important
thing, but it still reminds me that these women are already
attached and have other guys.

I don't hesitate to call a woman's bluff. When they get mad,
that's an answer in itself. Ive had many women tell me that
they've met their special someone, I shoot right back asking,
"If you've found someone, then why are you on the dating
site looking for more"? Or I will say, "Now that you've found
someone, you're going to delete your profile now"?
Asking that pisses then off to no end.

[jtest28]

I tried running a search on gender ratio in that part of Canada and it doesn't say it anywhere. One thing I've noticed about Wilkepedia, is if its a place with an unusually greater number of men than women, they won't list the gender ratio. Gender ratio is so important. See, even though the population may still be "about" 50/50, it can actually mean a VERY dramatic imbalance among the people who are actually single. And it gets worse. Because of this imbalance, that single people tend to notice relatively easily, it can cause a sort of change reaction to take place, making many (in this case, women) feel so worshiped and sought after, that they become so picky, they now can't bing themselves to "settle" for any man, and thus in effect, creating an even greater shortage of available women. I once visited a place that actually had more women than men. Even at birth, the ratio was more girls than boys. It was a trip. all the girls competed with each other and it looked like every single one of them was constantly on a diet. They also dressed very nicely and had prefect personalties. The males however, let themselves go and all had oily, unwashed hair and dressed horribly. The girls would be the ones to ask the boys on dates. My uncle got asked out twice after being there only two hours. I saw a 12 year old boy with two 15 year old girlfriends. . . a the same time, one on each arm. And back in those days, women never noticed me at all. But here, I couldn't get them to stop following me everywhere. This must be whats its like to be female in most places in the USA. And this happens with just a slight change in the "50/50" ratio. . . I'm still suspicious that this is a big reason for Eastern European women to be as nice as they are. Did you know in the USA, the further East you go, the greater the gender ratio is in mens favor? (Not as bad of a woman shortage) I wonder if its like this on every continent, and European as well. I looked up what the CIA says about gender ratio in Ukraine, and according to them, there is actually a greater shortage of women in Ukraine than there is in the USA. I know they're lying now! I have been all over the entire USA and know what a population looks like that has "85 men to 100 woman", and when I was in Ukraine, thats not at all what it looks like. And Ukrainian government's stats are different for what the CIA says, hmmm. I personally would peg Kharkov, Ukraine to be about 70 men to every 100 women, at worse. At best, maybe 65 men to every 100 women. And yes, thats counting elderly people, and women outlive men, throwing the numbers off if one is focused on solely young people. However, it would still mean significantly more women than men, even among the younger crowd. I know a guy who lives in Kherson and he researched the city stats for Kherson and it showed 56 men to every 100 women. Again, the younger crowd you get into, the less excess women there are, but at this ratio, even at age 20, there should still be noticeably more women than men, thus shifting the gender in "demand" from being women, as it is in the USA, to being men.

[Winston]

Wow Jtest, where is this place in the US you describe where girls hit on you and ask you out? Is it somewhere in the South?

What do you think of Louisiana, Mississippi or Alabama as places for dating?

[momopi]

I tried running a search on gender ratio in that part of Canada and it doesn't say it anywhere. One thing I've noticed about Wilkepedia, is if its a place with an unusually greater number of men than women, they won't list the gender ratio. Gender ratio is so important. See, even though the population may still be "about" 50/50, it can actually mean a VERY dramatic imbalance among the people who are actually single.

If you have the chance, visit Vancouver area, then go a couple hours north and visit Powell River. hehehehehe.

[Fantome Slashwrist]

This is the reply I received from the 40 year old woman unabridged.

"Paul, i have to tell you something. I have met someone and he is fast becoming a very important man in my life. I am having feelings toward him that I haven't felt in a long time and I want to see where this is going to lead. He has made me realize that there is life inside me that I can feel again, that I am a woman as well as a mother and my needs are important too. It was nice meeting you but I don't think that I want to persue anything more than friendship with you as I have some very strong feelings toward this other man. I would prefer not to correspond with you and would like it if you don't call me anymore, I don't have feelings toward you in that way. Your daughter is beautiful and you need to make her the focus of your life, never let her want for anything. It was nice knowing you, Jodi"

[Winston]

Again, an oxymoron. How can she pursue "friendship" with you if she never wants you to contact her again? It doesn't make sense. You should send her a link to this thread and see what she says.

The story she gave you probably was fake. Obviously, she has no conscience.

By the way, can you post the link to this lady's plentyoffish profile here? It would be interesting to see what she looks like.

[Fantome Slashwrist]

I have received replies from women like this before I can tell
you what it really means...

Since she is still on fish and is online on fish as I write, then that
action tells that if she has such an important man with such great
feelings, she would'nt walk from fish, she would run.

The part where she says, "that I am a woman as well as a mother
and my needs are important too" That means that she proabably
would like a guy that will wine and dine her, pay the babysitter,
while starting a college account for each of her children. It means
she wants a guy to pay for her to live higher off the hog and offer
gifts.

The other man is really what she is looking for in another man and
does'nt think that I am him as I never offered anything financial
or of gifts. She is praising a man she thinks she deserves and is
trying to rub it in that I'm not that guy.

If she had such a special guy, she would have written something
short and simple like,
"I'm seeing someone now and I'm going to see how it goes."

In her letter she is defining qualities of a guy that would take
longer than a few days for a guy to show a woman. If she had
such a great guy, she would'nt have the time to write the letter
she did at that level of drama. She would have been busy
writing to him.

The mention of friendship means, I don't want you as an enemy.

The part saying, "Your daughter is beautiful and you need to
make her the focus of your life, never let her want for anything."
This is really just an insult. It means, how dare you pursue a woman
when you're not rich enough to make your daughter rich.
That men should have rich children before they dare pursue a woman.

When I was first in contact with this woman I had noticed a double
standard right away. The double standard is that she wanted friends
with benefits, and wanted a romantic caring guy who did'nt just want
sex. I think she has friends with benefits and is looking for a
serious guy all at the same time, but the thing is. The guy has to have
money, has to pay big and has to agree to whatever and whenever
she wants with no regard or question or care, wheather it is a serious
relationship or just a one shot deal.

[Winston]

Don't feel bad though or take it personally. I think most men who use internet personals get the same treatment from women as you got from her.

Look what this girl in Arizona said to me after we met.


"Dear Winston,

Sorry about not making it to the library, I took a
dose of Nyquil the night before and didn't wake up
till 11. Then I didn't want to call you to let you
know I'd let you down. . . again. . . it's nothing
personal, but I just kind of want to be alone right
now. I've been enjoying my solitude lately. Maybe I
ought to change my couchsurfing availability to
"maybe." You know how cancers are. After 6 weeks of
having no home, depending on other people's goodwill,
and having little solitude, I'm really enjoying having
an apartment and some alone time again. . . I don't
know how I forgot what a homebody I was just from
couchsurfing! I think I need a little break from
socializing for a while, that's all. . . we can meet
for lunch or something before you leave. Sorry, but I
just want to be honest so I don't keep standing you
up.

Have fun while you're here!

Carmen"

[Fantome Slashwrist]

I think I can tell what the letter Winston received really means,

It means that the woman is holding back for a higher
bid and offer. She wants to go out, but she does'nt want
to go out if there is not a bigger profit in it for her.

If Winston wrote back to her and said something like,

"I have an extra couple hundred dollars today and there
is this new store in the mall we should check out. I would
love to buy you the latest outfit they got in."

Then her illness would have cured fast...

Women have zillions of excuses and double talk to
get higher offers and bids and hold out to get them.

[jtest28]

There are a number of factors that select gender. And look at this one: http://www.tobemom.org/entry/skip-break ... ave-a-boy/

It has been observed that when a pregnant woman skips her breakfast, she is actually cutting down on her blood glucose levels. High glucose levels support the development of a male fetus and restrain the growth of a female fetus. A study on 740 first-time pregnant British women showed that 56% of those who took a maximum energy diet gave birth to boys while only 45% of those who took a minimum energy diet gave birth to boys.

And how do women in Eastern Europe eat? This is one more reason why there are plenty of women there. I do find it highly interesting that our government is trying to lie about it though. Its like they don't want men to go there or something, but that would be crazy. . .