Been in Seoul for well over a year, there are few white people here and even fewer white women. And as I'm not attracted to white women in general I never notice nor talk to them in my daily life. Had a freak run-in with one last week.
After work I stop by a Western pub. Some California blonde parks her butt next to me at the bar with the standard "hey how's it going" (hair flip). She's a 4 by Asian standards, maybe a 7 by American, but SHE thinks she's a 9!
While I immediately know I don't have any personal interest in her, I'm a laid back guy and always open to talking to new interesting people.It's just absolutely mind blowing to see how these people behave. She starts by ordering a drink, bartender says pay first (because in foreigner district you need to pay first as there are flakes), she says "my card is over there in my jacket", he says "okay go get it". She refuses, it becomes uncomfortable between them, he pushes harder for her to pay up, she will not, he eventually gets clearly pissed off and gives up on her. First, this is not the way things are done in KR, it's a respectful culture, this ugly American has been here for years and hasn't learned a bit of the Korean way. Second Koreans wear a mask of no emotion, for this guy to become visibly angry required some real BITCH behavior. And for no reason. The rest of the city is having fun, but this little ball of blonde anger has something up her butt.
Now she says to me "did you see that". "Uhh yes, I did see that" I say, in a tone not too impressed, but she doesn't notice nor care. "Cause I"m A WOMAN" she exclaims, "I get what I want!". I'm still cracking up about this a week later. Told all my Korean friends; they do not know what this phrase means? What does this mean "because I'm a woman" (followed by smug look)?? She continues to say this a number of times during the conversation as if it has some meaning. She's a 4, in the middle of KR, a man dominated society, acting like she has some sort of control over her environment because she has a female reproductive organ???
"So" I ask sincerely, "you have been here awhile, how do you like KR"? Immediately I hit the American wall, this invisible barrier that does not allow them to answer a question sincerely or have any real conversation with another human being (had forgotten all about this). She just says "oh it is what it is". Ha what does that mean? Since I do not know her I do not know how she interprets "what it is", hence the question, it is a thing called conversation. She continues with this fake conversation style, never actually saying anything real, just sort of cliches and hollow words before starting to brush up against my leg and do this rehearsed flirtatious act. Oh brother [facepalm]. She says "stick around" (wink) and goes to talk to her friends. I remember I'm late for something and leave for a bar with hot Asian chicks.
Anyhow, I'm just so not calibrated for this anymore. The cold plastic conversation, the angry American woman face, the crude mannerless behavior. It's so weird even in the US, but especially out of place way over here. It may have been "buy me a drink" strategy, but such a thought never crossed my mind.
Chick needs a reality check.
