Lorenzo wrote:MrMan wrote:If I were in that situation, I'd teach my wife how to do the midnight rape, train her to remove my underpants without waking me up, and go for it. That would save a lot of time, and it might be possible for a man to get some sleep if he didn't have to spend the extra time to stay awake to perform (or start) the act.
I've told my wife she can do that to me, but it's not really her thing, usually.
I once knew a lady who would secretly get on top and ride her husband in the wee hours of the morning when he was hard. He woke up to his shock and amazement! Anyway they divorced...
Did they divorce over her having sex while he was asleep? I don't see why a man should be upset by that unless he's not waking up to enjoy or complete the act and she's not giving it to him while he's awake or if she's putting a lot of pressure on a full bladder. I think it would be cool to be married to a woman that horny. But I tell my wife she can do that stuff to me, so she knows she has permission. She hasn't ever gone for full intercourse while I'm asleep, though she has used her hands to wake me in the middle of the night. If she wakes up ready to go from a dream, I want some action right then and there. Women can need some time to warm up, and men are pursuers, so most women probably don't want to jump into full intercourse in the middle of the night like that.
Back several decades ago, legally, there was no marital rape. I think the laws and talk about rape may cause some men in that situation to feel violated instead of having been done a favor. Or maybe they are just low sex-drive guys. Some guys just may not like it. In some marriages, the man avoids sex and the woman pursues. If some strange woman did this to a guy at a party, I do consider it rape, though.
I also think it's strange women people say you can't rape a man. I can kind of understand women saying that. But when men say that, I wonder if these are men who either forget their teen years, or just have had difficulty getting an erection for their entire life.