In America, people, guys especially, should stay far away from all former waitresses, servers, and bartenders.

[Mercury]

So you go visit your favorite bartender every week, twice a week even. But one day, you go to that bar and... She' doesn't work there anymore. Later, you find out she is working at a bank and you can't go visit her anymore (there are news reports of people getting sentenced up to 250 years in prison for visiting people at work when it's outside the customer service industry). You realize the only way to see her is to plan a get together with her as you can only see her outside of work now.

Not so fast!

When bartenders and waitresses go into a different field of work, they want nothing to do anymore with their former regulars. Guys, former regulars especially, approach within less than 75 feet of any former bartender or waitress who is in a different work industry, and you are walking on ice that is but one inch thick. I've seen countless bartenders and waitresses leave the customer service industry and get into new fields of work, and I've seen them quickly become a completely different person than they were at the restaurant or behind the bar. While they were waitressing and/or bartending, they would seem like some of the nicest people you could meet. But after they left the customer service industry and got into a different field (medical, municipal, retail, real estate, office, travel, etc), in a matter of weeks, those exact same people, even outside of work, were a restraining order waiting to happen.

So facing 135 years in prison for visiting your favorite former waitress at a hotel lobby (or 250 years for visiting her working at a hospital/medical facility or airport/aviation facility) is actually one of the least of your worries as even trying to see them outside of work will about as easily get you arrested and thrown in jail. In fact, when bartenders and waitresses in America get into a different field of work, the majority of them don't even go out in public anymore except for work and grocery shopping. They hide from the public like movie stars and famous celebrities. Those that still go out, including bar hopping and to concerts and similar events, a lot of them have bodyguards that will become confrontational, often with destructive results, if one of her former regulars approaches her at all. Fights have broken out that way before, and even shootings have resulted before. More often than not, the police are summoned and the former regular is arrested and thrown in jail. When bartenders and servers go into a different field of work, the extreme vast majority of them even unfriend and often block any/all former regulars whom they are/were friends with on Facebook. It's their way of telling you that the friendship is over and to stay away from them if you don't want to go to prison and/or get put on a restraining order. Run into her even 10 years later at a grocery or department store, and she either will not remember you at all, or she will get the authorities involved and create massive legal drama capable of resulting in a prison term and/or a restraining order. It is also possible that her boyfriend/fiancee/husband and/or her bodyguards would threaten you and/or even become physically aggressive resulting in bodily injury to you.

[hypermak]

So you go visit your favorite bartender every week, twice a week even. But one day, you go to that bar and... She' doesn't work there anymore. Later, you find out she is working at a bank and you can't go visit her anymore (there are news reports of people getting sentenced up to 250 years in prison for visiting people at work when it's outside the customer service industry). You realize the only way to see her is to plan a get together with her as you can only see her outside of work now.

Not so fast!

When bartenders and waitresses go into a different field of work, they want nothing to do anymore with their former regulars. Guys, former regulars especially, approach within less than 75 feet of any former bartender or waitress who is in a different work industry, and you are walking on ice that is but one inch thick. I've seen countless bartenders and waitresses leave the customer service industry and get into new fields of work, and I've seen them quickly become a completely different person than they were at the restaurant or behind the bar. While they were waitressing and/or bartending, they would seem like some of the nicest people you could meet. But after they left the customer service industry and got into a different field (medical, municipal, retail, real estate, office, travel, etc), in a matter of weeks, those exact same people, even outside of work, were a restraining order waiting to happen.

So facing 135 years in prison for visiting your favorite former waitress at a hotel lobby (or 250 years for visiting her working at a hospital/medical facility or airport/aviation facility) is actually one of the least of your worries as even trying to see them outside of work will about as easily get you arrested and thrown in jail. In fact, when bartenders and waitresses in America get into a different field of work, the majority of them don't even go out in public anymore except for work and grocery shopping. They hide from the public like movie stars and famous celebrities. Those that still go out, including bar hopping and to concerts and similar events, a lot of them have bodyguards that will become confrontational, often with destructive results, if one of her former regulars approaches her at all. Fights have broken out that way before, and even shootings have resulted before. More often than not, the police are summoned and the former regular is arrested and thrown in jail. When bartenders and servers go into a different field of work, the extreme vast majority of them even unfriend and often block any/all former regulars whom they are/were friends with on Facebook. It's their way of telling you that the friendship is over and to stay away from them if you don't want to go to prison and/or get put on a restraining order. Run into her even 10 years later at a grocery or department store, and she either will not remember you at all, or she will get the authorities involved and create massive legal drama capable of resulting in a prison term and/or a restraining order. It is also possible that her boyfriend/fiancee/husband and/or her bodyguards would threaten you and/or even become physically aggressive resulting in bodily injury to you.

In a cocktail bar or "family restaurant", being nice and friendly is how you get tips and get promoted. Being in an office in the City, heaven forbid a bank, it's the ordinary indifferent, sociopathic behaviour that gets makes you successful. I wouldn't be surprised if these people's original personalities (if they have one) is neither friendly, nor an a**hole. They are simply good at adapting to what is good and appropriate for them in their work environment.

Not a big surprise, if you think about it...