Why do people get offended by international dating?

[MrMan]

Is this really an issue? For those of you who dated overseas, was there someone whose opinion you cared about in your life who opposed it? I don't have any feminists I interact with whose opinion I really care about in my life. If I work with one, well I might have to interact with them on work stuff, but I wouldn't care about their opinion of my personal life. I cannot think of a single feminist relative I have. My extended family is mostly Baptists if they are religion. And my closer relatives are all from Christian, conservative backgrounds-- all that I can think of. I can think of one relative who might be a little less conservative.

People are from different parts of the world here, and have different family networks? Do you have a feminist mom or aunt? Do you just have an outspoken relative who thinks all foreigners are out to get a Greencard. Some conservative relatives might think that way. I brought an Asian wife home. I didn't hear that. Of course, she stayed home and raise the kids instead of going to work at a factory. And I was married to her for two years in her country before we moved to the US.

I also told my parents about her when I started dating her, warming them up to the idea of marrying them. I do not recall the exact conversation, but I am pretty sure I told them I would be proposing. My wife talked on the phone to them, and spoke to my mom about different things.

But I did not go to Indonesia to date or to meet a girl. I was working and living there. They knew that. I'd been dating her a while. It's just the normal way Americans do things, except I was over there, as far as they knew. Americans are taught not to be racists, by the educational system and media.

So what do you men say who face this kind of push-back? Do you announce to your office that you are going to an foreign country to meet women? Do you strike up conversations with angry feminists about your foreign dating preferences, and they insult you? Do you tell your family over Thanksgiving dinner that you are only going to be looking at international dating profiles? Do you tell them you are dating overseas because American/Canadian/British/Western are so bad-- talking to American, etc. women?

Meeting online is fairly common these days. I'm wondering what types of conversations lead to the shaming, etc.