Are Filipinas basically a poor man's version of Chinese women?

[ladislav]

Filipinas are the easiest foreign women for an average American to date/marry. Also, they're English speaking and Christian. Their reputation precedes them.

The Philippines is the most America-adoring nation on earth and they love Americans like m--------s. More than half of them would love to emigrate to the US where they all become successful and can help their family, too.

Also, Americans have little prejudice against Filipinos and call them Little Brown Americans. There are no movies that show Filipinos in bad light and no propaganda against them.

The two nations are very friendly to each other. Filipinos are not demonized in US media. Americans are shown as Supermen/Spidermen in Filipino media. Superhumans of god-like ability, handsome beyond belief and all super-duper rich. Most Filipinos seem to think that our salaries are 43 times higher because it's 43 pesos to the dollar.

Easiest to marry, easiest to live with and many are really cute. "Cute" is enough for a Joe Six Pack. Many military guys have been to the Philippines and had great fun there. Many Filipinos are in the US Navy so Americans are used to them.

Chinese, Japanese, Koreans, etc, otoh, are not seen as friendly to Americans and are often portrayed in the media in a bad light. If they are not killing Americans, they are shown as exotic dorks/dorkesses speaking some funny language. Too weird, too foreign.

[davewe]

If you only date sexy women you won't be dating them for very long. Every guy wants to date a sexy woman but few want to marry them because most of them are narcissists. True, most Filipinas are not sexy that but they stick around when other women will dump you on your a** when you least expect it.

I think you should date/marry a woman YOU consider sexy. I could not care less whether every other guy thinks she is - but I need to think she is.

OTOH, I know many long married Fil-Am couples where the woman is damn sexy and stayed with the guy through thick and thin. So they are not all narcissists.

[Halwick]

I would say that in comparison with the animal world:

Filipinas are like dogs - easygoing, relaxed, nonjudgmental, will go along with whatever you want, easy to get along with, not picky, simple, etc.
Chinese women are like cats - very particular, picky, opinionated, refined, more calculating, thinks more, softer skin, more wary of strangers, etc.

Funny you mention this.
A long time ago I overheard a group of guys in a bar having an interesting discussion about desirable qualities in a female companionship. They all agreed she should be friendly, loyal, eager to please, compliant, low maintenance, good companion, offer unconditional love, etc.
One guy said, "Sounds like you're looking for a dog."
Another guy said, "Yeah, but a dog can't cook or do housekeeping and you can't f**k 'em.
Brief silence.
Then this guy said, "Well, how about a Filipina?"
Everybody agreed that Filipinas would be a great upgrade to a dog.

[starchild5]

I have dated a Chinese - Filipina..she was hot but as other have said, very high maintenance, status consciousness, cunning, watchful of my every move...

You are right OP...for me...Filipinas are poor mans women...If i had more money, I would go to Macau for a holiday and get all those hot sauna girls ..I like filipinas but I would date Chinese/Korean women If I had the opportunity aka money

If you only date sexy women you won't be dating them for very long. Every guy wants to date a sexy woman but few want to marry them because most of them are narcissists. True, most Filipinas are not sexy that but they stick around when other women will dump you on your a** when you least expect it.

True...Agree...If I equate my own life inefficiencies .PH is still number 1 for me...

[Tezcatlipoca]

Eh, I don't think that is completely fair. Different strokes for different folks. That's like saying a Chinese woman is a poor man's Japanese woman

[newlifeinphilippines]

i still want a hot woman regardless. maybe if the girl i was with was a sex god and charismatic i would look over that. if the girl isn't super hot she better have the personality and sexual drive of very few women. I can't settle for a woman whos personaltiy is only slightly better than an american woman and stillonly slightly above average. i need more than that since philippines has so many choices. the longer your here teh more you realize your options. im settling with the girl im with already, poor user self centered young attitude its annoying. im just running the clock out of her and hopefully someday ill have better next time i come. i want a real woman who is sexual and hot. even a hoe is sounding good at this point. better to be single than stuck with someone your unhappy with

[Taco]

i still want a hot woman regardless. maybe if the girl i was with was a sex god and charismatic i would look over that. if the girl isn't super hot she better have the personality and sexual drive of very few women. I can't settle for a woman whos personaltiy is only slightly better than an american woman and stillonly slightly above average. i need more than that since philippines has so many choices. the longer your here teh more you realize your options. im settling with the girl im with already, poor user self centered young attitude its annoying. im just running the clock out of her and hopefully someday ill have better next time i come. i want a real woman who is sexual and hot. even a hoe is sounding good at this point. better to be single than stuck with someone your unhappy with

There's plenty of hookers in the Philippines that will have what your looking for, any taxi driver can tell you where to find them.

[Winston]

Another point OP. Chinese women are great in terms of beauty, elegance, gracefulness, and femininity. They are more down to earth than American women and more social too. They are probably smarter than Filipinas in business and they age more gracefully. However, they have a big downside in that they are more materialistic and judgmental than Filipino women are. And not as easygoing either. Filipino women are best if you like easygoing nonjudgmental women. Both America and NE Asian women tend to be judgmental and demanding and require more to be happy, whereas a Filipina doesn't need a lot to be happy. So yes in a sense Filipino women are seen as lower class than Chinese women, and it may be true in some respects, however that doesn't mean Chinese women are right for everyone or higher class women suit everyone. Some guys are more compatible with the simple easygoing Filipinas than the more demanding Chinese women, who are NOT going to be nonjudgmental, sorry. So there are pros and cons. One is not better than the other, even if Chinese women are higher class in some ways. It doesn't mean they are right for you.

For guys who are more eccentric like me and do not like to work hard for money, Filipinas are probably a better match because they are more forgiving and accepting of our eccentricities, whereas Chinese women are not. Chinese women will hold you to a certain standard, if you don't meet it, they will throw you out like a rejected job applicant. Also if you are a playboy and like to have multiple women, Chinese women will be less tolerant of that then FIlipino women will be. That's something else to consider too.

[Outcast9428]

My interest in Filipina girls doesn’t really have anything to do with my wealth. I’m sure there are girls in the Philippines just as pretty as many of the prettier Chinese girls. I would say I have these reasons for being more interested in Filipino girls.

1. There is much less language barrier between me and her.
2. Filipina girls are more comfortable with coming to live in the US and I know moving to the Philippines would really bother my parents… Being so far away from them that visiting would be very infrequent.
3. It sounds like Filipina girls are more receptive to having an American husband. Whether it’s cultural or economic everybody says it’s almost absurdly easy in the Philippines.
4. Filipina girls seem more traditional, they are willing to marry at a young age and more okay with being a stay at home wife.
5. The Philippines is very Christian and seems to authentically follow the religion. Asian atheism isn’t as bad as Western atheism but ultimately I can’t marry an atheist.
6. My final reason and this is a bigger one then it probably should be… My ex girlfriend was Filipino and I really miss her. I’ve thought many times if she had been 100% Filipino and hadn’t been corrupted a little bit by being raised in the US culture then everything would have been perfect. I loved her Filipino side, but the American side just caused too many problems.

If Chinese girls are more intolerant of playboys and manwhores though that’s a plus for the Chinese girls. I don’t think any woman should tolerate that behavior and when I was with my ex I encouraged her to be more intolerant.

[MrMan]

Filipinos are a people, or group of people's with a nation-state identity, in their own right and not just a 'version' of the Chinese. They have their own culture...or cultures.

If we want to talk about stereotypes, I'd think Chinese women are more likely to be 'tiger moms', but also maybe a bit more bossy and aggressive towards the husband. And if you add into that the Communists stripping mainland China of it's more genteel manners associated with the rich, that could be worse. But generally Asians are perceived as kind of demure, at least in public. They may not be any more aggressive in a marriage situation than white women. And everyone woman is different, regardless of cultural background.

There is also a stereotype of Filipinas being ideal wives, having wifely values. They tend to be a laid back people-group, and there is an advantage to having a laid back wife who likes to fry bananas and noodles for you, take care of the house, etc. I'm not saying Chinese women can't do similar things.

Most Indonesians seem to have an ethic related to making other people, especially guests, feel socially comfortable, and I kind of get the idea that Filipinos are the same way. Chinese can be a bit more confronting or aggressive in how they talk to you.

As far as looks go, it is not the case that every Chinese woman is thin, tall, and above-average-looking. It doesn't make sense that everyone could be above average... mathematically speaking. Men have different tastes in women's looks. I'd guess 5% of Chinese young women were what I'd have considered 'marriageably good-looking.' I have not been to the Philipines, but have been to church with Filipinos and my guess is the percentage is a bit lower for my tastes, but there are still some beautiful-looking women. I married a beautiful Indonesian, but beautiful women for my tastes seem much rarer in Indonesia than in China. Actually, beautiful ethnic Chinese women based on my single-and-looking standards was rather rare. Only one comes to mind from that era, not counting those who are part-Chinese, and I spent years in Indonesia. But my tastes are kind of unique and more narrow than most men's.

China is probably better if you want to marry a woman who cooks. As a cuisine, Philippine food isn't known for being that good. If you like roasted pork and greasy fried food, it's okay. But there is also lousy greasy Chinese food. A woman might know how to cook the cuisine from her area, and it's unlikely she'll cook 'American Chinese Food' dishes.