Is Winston a good lay?

[Rygar1]

Well, based on what I've read, the average couple only has sex once or twice a week, some people online claiming a lot less than that. I'm not sure whynanyone would lie about having LESS sex, so I'll beleive it. I understand that individuals can vary, and you can't beleive everything you read, but that seemed to be the consensus. The guys above claiming daily, or every other day are the exception, and not the norm, at least in America. Hats off to you.

[MrMan]

Well, based on what I've read, the average couple only has sex once or twice a week, some people online claiming a lot less than that. I'm not sure whynanyone would lie about having LESS sex, so I'll beleive it. I understand that individuals can vary, and you can't beleive everything you read, but that seemed to be the consensus. The guys above claiming daily, or every other day are the exception, and not the norm, at least in America. Hats off to you.

A lot of young guys probably would be down for daily, or every other day or whatever, but the woman has to be willing-- either eager or at least accommodating, for that to work. My wife could do every other day for intercourse in our 20s.

But yes, it is varied.

Do you think you don't have the 'drive' for twice a week or every night, or you don't have the emotional drive to pursue a woman and lock one down?

[Rygar1]

Well, based on what I've read, the average couple only has sex once or twice a week, some people online claiming a lot less than that. I'm not sure whynanyone would lie about having LESS sex, so I'll beleive it. I understand that individuals can vary, and you can't beleive everything you read, but that seemed to be the consensus. The guys above claiming daily, or every other day are the exception, and not the norm, at least in America. Hats off to you.

Do you think you don't have the 'drive' for twice a week or every night, or you don't have the emotional drive to pursue a woman and lock one down?

The latter, no doubt about it, didn't even hesitate. The latter is more conducive to not having some 'motor' that my peers have. My parents were married for 23 years before divorcing, and afterwards my dad date almost immediately. Freinds likewise. Most things in life require this drive, and if a person doesn't have it, man, life is hard. I've hooked up, had opportunities almost on my lap in some ways, but...indunno they just weren't attractive or just had lifestyles didn't like. Of course, my lack of action on my part doesn't help. A handful of average looking girls have given me their numbers over the years. The few I called a couple days later seemed uninterested, the others I didn't.

[MrMan]

Well, based on what I've read, the average couple only has sex once or twice a week, some people online claiming a lot less than that. I'm not sure whynanyone would lie about having LESS sex, so I'll beleive it. I understand that individuals can vary, and you can't beleive everything you read, but that seemed to be the consensus. The guys above claiming daily, or every other day are the exception, and not the norm, at least in America. Hats off to you.

Do you think you don't have the 'drive' for twice a week or every night, or you don't have the emotional drive to pursue a woman and lock one down?

The latter, no doubt about it, didn't even hesitate. The latter is more conducive to not having some 'motor' that my peers have. My parents were married for 23 years before divorcing, and afterwards my dad date almost immediately. Freinds likewise. Most things in life require this drive, and if a person doesn't have it, man, life is hard. I've hooked up, had opportunities almost on my lap in some ways, but...indunno they just weren't attractive or just had lifestyles didn't like. Of course, my lack of action on my part doesn't help. A handful of average looking girls have given me their numbers over the years. The few I called a couple days later seemed uninterested, the others I didn't.

I knew what I wanted-- a Christian with the same faith, with conservative values that matched mine, who was a virgin. I waited until marriage also. I also just couldn't help it. I'm only really attracted to a small percentage of women. I'm picky about looks. She had to be really pretty by my standards.

In Indonesia, apparently I was considered attractive or I just started picking up on women's cues, or the fact that the average marriage age for women is about 23, and I was in my mid 20's there, but it sure seemed like I was picking up on hints of women like me, some outright flirting. The don't usually flirt dirty over there, though that can happen.

But even so, to find a wife, which I was praying for, I just started praying more intensely about it and met my wife shortly thereafter. I suspected I would marry her after that first conversation. She later told me that God told her I was the one, the one she would marry, right before that. We were both trying to feel the other out for a sense of whether the other had an idea about this during our first phone conversations. I got a lot of help finding my wife.

Also, a man at 38 could still have his looks and date all the way down to 18, all the way up to 38 or older. A late 30's single woman who never had kids might be eager to marry and get an egg or two fertilized before she's sterile for life.

[Rygar1]

Well, based on what I've read, the average couple only has sex once or twice a week, some people online claiming a lot less than that. I'm not sure whynanyone would lie about having LESS sex, so I'll beleive it. I understand that individuals can vary, and you can't beleive everything you read, but that seemed to be the consensus. The guys above claiming daily, or every other day are the exception, and not the norm, at least in America. Hats off to you.

Do you think you don't have the 'drive' for twice a week or every night, or you don't have the emotional drive to pursue a woman and lock one down?

The latter, no doubt about it, didn't even hesitate. The latter is more conducive to not having some 'motor' that my peers have. My parents were married for 23 years before divorcing, and afterwards my dad date almost immediately. Freinds likewise. Most things in life require this drive, and if a person doesn't have it, man, life is hard. I've hooked up, had opportunities almost on my lap in some ways, but...indunno they just weren't attractive or just had lifestyles didn't like. Of course, my lack of action on my part doesn't help. A handful of average looking girls have given me their numbers over the years. The few I called a couple days later seemed uninterested, the others I didn't.

I knew what I wanted-- a Christian with the same faith, with conservative values that matched mine, who was a virgin. I waited until marriage also. I also just couldn't help it. I'm only really attracted to a small percentage of women. I'm picky about looks. She had to be really pretty by my standards.

In Indonesia, apparently I was considered attractive or I just started picking up on women's cues, or the fact that the average marriage age for women is about 23, and I was in my mid 20's there, but it sure seemed like I was picking up on hints of women like me, some outright flirting. The don't usually flirt dirty over there, though that can happen.

But even so, to find a wife, which I was praying for, I just started praying more intensely about it and met my wife shortly thereafter. I suspected I would marry her after that first conversation. She later told me that God told her I was the one, the one she would marry, right before that. We were both trying to feel the other out for a sense of whether the other had an idea about this during our first phone conversations. I got a lot of help finding my wife.

Also, a man at 38 could still have his looks and date all the way down to 18, all the way up to 38 or older. A late 30's single woman who never had kids might be eager to marry and get an egg or two fertilized before she's sterile for life.

Oh OK, not surprisingly, you're wife is not an American white woman. Can I assume you're a white man? I mean, this is kinda the point of the whole website, is it not? Foreign women. I kinda knew this game even well before Winston's site. An ex neighbor and sorta friend had married a filipina at 45 after dating a few Americans over the years. Said he was sick of their sense of entitlement and bad attitudes. We may agree.

Do you think that could be part of the problem? A whole lifetime of snobby, angry, unfriendly american women 'muting' my drive? I dunno, I'm fairly good looking so that shouldn't be a problem. I just...have never had that 'killer instinct'or something. What causes thus lack of get up and go? Too picky? Unrealistic standard? Laziness?

I still there's some deeper underlying issue at play here explaining my lack of emotional drive. I would like your insights on how to correct it. I mean there has to be something wrong.

[MrMan]

Well, based on what I've read, the average couple only has sex once or twice a week, some people online claiming a lot less than that. I'm not sure whynanyone would lie about having LESS sex, so I'll beleive it. I understand that individuals can vary, and you can't beleive everything you read, but that seemed to be the consensus. The guys above claiming daily, or every other day are the exception, and not the norm, at least in America. Hats off to you.

Do you think you don't have the 'drive' for twice a week or every night, or you don't have the emotional drive to pursue a woman and lock one down?

The latter, no doubt about it, didn't even hesitate. The latter is more conducive to not having some 'motor' that my peers have. My parents were married for 23 years before divorcing, and afterwards my dad date almost immediately. Freinds likewise. Most things in life require this drive, and if a person doesn't have it, man, life is hard. I've hooked up, had opportunities almost on my lap in some ways, but...indunno they just weren't attractive or just had lifestyles didn't like. Of course, my lack of action on my part doesn't help. A handful of average looking girls have given me their numbers over the years. The few I called a couple days later seemed uninterested, the others I didn't.

I knew what I wanted-- a Christian with the same faith, with conservative values that matched mine, who was a virgin. I waited until marriage also. I also just couldn't help it. I'm only really attracted to a small percentage of women. I'm picky about looks. She had to be really pretty by my standards.

In Indonesia, apparently I was considered attractive or I just started picking up on women's cues, or the fact that the average marriage age for women is about 23, and I was in my mid 20's there, but it sure seemed like I was picking up on hints of women like me, some outright flirting. The don't usually flirt dirty over there, though that can happen.

But even so, to find a wife, which I was praying for, I just started praying more intensely about it and met my wife shortly thereafter. I suspected I would marry her after that first conversation. She later told me that God told her I was the one, the one she would marry, right before that. We were both trying to feel the other out for a sense of whether the other had an idea about this during our first phone conversations. I got a lot of help finding my wife.

Also, a man at 38 could still have his looks and date all the way down to 18, all the way up to 38 or older. A late 30's single woman who never had kids might be eager to marry and get an egg or two fertilized before she's sterile for life.

Oh OK, not surprisingly, you're wife is not an American white woman. Can I assume you're a white man? I mean, this is kinda the point of the whole website, is it not? Foreign women. I kinda knew this game even well before Winston's site. An ex neighbor and sorta friend had married a filipina at 45 after dating a few Americans over the years. Said he was sick of their sense of entitlement and bad attitudes. We may agree.

Do you think that could be part of the problem? A whole lifetime of snobby, angry, unfriendly american women 'muting' my drive? I dunno, I'm fairly good looking so that shouldn't be a problem. I just...have never had that 'killer instinct'or something. What causes thus lack of get up and go? Too picky? Unrealistic standard? Laziness?

I still there's some deeper underlying issue at play here explaining my lack of emotional drive. I would like your insights on how to correct it. I mean there has to be something wrong.

A friend of mine who was about your age, and overweight and slightly autistic, started dating a Filipina online. He sold his most valuable possession, flew over there, spent some time getting to know her and her family, proposed, married her, and came back to the US to figure out how to get her over. I think they travelled to a nearby country for the Honeymoon, and he's been back to see her at least once.

I talked to her online. She seemed sweet. She had a pretty face. I think she'd had a boyfriend that cheated on her or broke up with her or something, so she got stuck at just over 30 with no husband.

There are some Filipina bar girls, Filipinas who cheat. It's like anywhere else. But there are also Filipinas who are sweet and faithful. It's one of those cultures where they try to make you feel comfortable and like to preserve harmony. If you invite Filipinas over for dinner, they do your dishes and mop the kitchen floor. Indonesians are similar, taking over your kitchen to help cooking and cleaning.

[Rygar1]

Do you think you don't have the 'drive' for twice a week or every night, or you don't have the emotional drive to pursue a woman and lock one down?

The latter, no doubt about it, didn't even hesitate. The latter is more conducive to not having some 'motor' that my peers have. My parents were married for 23 years before divorcing, and afterwards my dad date almost immediately. Freinds likewise. Most things in life require this drive, and if a person doesn't have it, man, life is hard. I've hooked up, had opportunities almost on my lap in some ways, but...indunno they just weren't attractive or just had lifestyles didn't like. Of course, my lack of action on my part doesn't help. A handful of average looking girls have given me their numbers over the years. The few I called a couple days later seemed uninterested, the others I didn't.

I knew what I wanted-- a Christian with the same faith, with conservative values that matched mine, who was a virgin. I waited until marriage also. I also just couldn't help it. I'm only really attracted to a small percentage of women. I'm picky about looks. She had to be really pretty by my standards.

In Indonesia, apparently I was considered attractive or I just started picking up on women's cues, or the fact that the average marriage age for women is about 23, and I was in my mid 20's there, but it sure seemed like I was picking up on hints of women like me, some outright flirting. The don't usually flirt dirty over there, though that can happen.

But even so, to find a wife, which I was praying for, I just started praying more intensely about it and met my wife shortly thereafter. I suspected I would marry her after that first conversation. She later told me that God told her I was the one, the one she would marry, right before that. We were both trying to feel the other out for a sense of whether the other had an idea about this during our first phone conversations. I got a lot of help finding my wife.

Also, a man at 38 could still have his looks and date all the way down to 18, all the way up to 38 or older. A late 30's single woman who never had kids might be eager to marry and get an egg or two fertilized before she's sterile for life.

Oh OK, not surprisingly, you're wife is not an American white woman. Can I assume you're a white man? I mean, this is kinda the point of the whole website, is it not? Foreign women. I kinda knew this game even well before Winston's site. An ex neighbor and sorta friend had married a filipina at 45 after dating a few Americans over the years. Said he was sick of their sense of entitlement and bad attitudes. We may agree.

Do you think that could be part of the problem? A whole lifetime of snobby, angry, unfriendly american women 'muting' my drive? I dunno, I'm fairly good looking so that shouldn't be a problem. I just...have never had that 'killer instinct'or something. What causes thus lack of get up and go? Too picky? Unrealistic standard? Laziness?

I still there's some deeper underlying issue at play here explaining my lack of emotional drive. I would like your insights on how to correct it. I mean there has to be something wrong.

A friend of mine who was about your age, and overweight and slightly autistic, started dating a Filipina online. He sold his most valuable possession, flew over there, spent some time getting to know her and her family, proposed, married her, and came back to the US to figure out how to get her over. I think they travelled to a nearby country for the Honeymoon, and he's been back to see her at least once.

I talked to her online. She seemed sweet. She had a pretty face. I think she'd had a boyfriend that cheated on her or broke up with her or something, so she got stuck at just over 30 with no husband.

There are some Filipina bar girls, Filipinas who cheat. It's like anywhere else. But there are also Filipinas who are sweet and faithful. It's one of those cultures where they try to make you feel comfortable and like to preserve harmony. If you invite Filipinas over for dinner, they do your dishes and mop the kitchen floor. Indonesians are similar, taking over your kitchen to help cooking and cleaning.

If nothing else they are AMAZING singers! Something in their language that pre disposes them to beautiful voices. I just...I dunno...Asians are very nice, but just not for me.

It's funny you said you prayed for a woman last reply. I'm not religious, but there are some convincing studies that indicate that prayer, when done regularly, has an effect on behavior, or something along those lines. Could a person just pray to the universe? Can a person pray for sex?
I read about dudes sexing thousands of times and it just screws with my mind. I'm just in a bad place right now. Just stuck...or something.. perhaps a prayer ritual will help. I'm not sure how to go about it.

How do we really change?

[MrMan]

The latter, no doubt about it, didn't even hesitate. The latter is more conducive to not having some 'motor' that my peers have. My parents were married for 23 years before divorcing, and afterwards my dad date almost immediately. Freinds likewise. Most things in life require this drive, and if a person doesn't have it, man, life is hard. I've hooked up, had opportunities almost on my lap in some ways, but...indunno they just weren't attractive or just had lifestyles didn't like. Of course, my lack of action on my part doesn't help. A handful of average looking girls have given me their numbers over the years. The few I called a couple days later seemed uninterested, the others I didn't.

I knew what I wanted-- a Christian with the same faith, with conservative values that matched mine, who was a virgin. I waited until marriage also. I also just couldn't help it. I'm only really attracted to a small percentage of women. I'm picky about looks. She had to be really pretty by my standards.

In Indonesia, apparently I was considered attractive or I just started picking up on women's cues, or the fact that the average marriage age for women is about 23, and I was in my mid 20's there, but it sure seemed like I was picking up on hints of women like me, some outright flirting. The don't usually flirt dirty over there, though that can happen.

But even so, to find a wife, which I was praying for, I just started praying more intensely about it and met my wife shortly thereafter. I suspected I would marry her after that first conversation. She later told me that God told her I was the one, the one she would marry, right before that. We were both trying to feel the other out for a sense of whether the other had an idea about this during our first phone conversations. I got a lot of help finding my wife.

Also, a man at 38 could still have his looks and date all the way down to 18, all the way up to 38 or older. A late 30's single woman who never had kids might be eager to marry and get an egg or two fertilized before she's sterile for life.

Oh OK, not surprisingly, you're wife is not an American white woman. Can I assume you're a white man? I mean, this is kinda the point of the whole website, is it not? Foreign women. I kinda knew this game even well before Winston's site. An ex neighbor and sorta friend had married a filipina at 45 after dating a few Americans over the years. Said he was sick of their sense of entitlement and bad attitudes. We may agree.

Do you think that could be part of the problem? A whole lifetime of snobby, angry, unfriendly american women 'muting' my drive? I dunno, I'm fairly good looking so that shouldn't be a problem. I just...have never had that 'killer instinct'or something. What causes thus lack of get up and go? Too picky? Unrealistic standard? Laziness?

I still there's some deeper underlying issue at play here explaining my lack of emotional drive. I would like your insights on how to correct it. I mean there has to be something wrong.

A friend of mine who was about your age, and overweight and slightly autistic, started dating a Filipina online. He sold his most valuable possession, flew over there, spent some time getting to know her and her family, proposed, married her, and came back to the US to figure out how to get her over. I think they travelled to a nearby country for the Honeymoon, and he's been back to see her at least once.

I talked to her online. She seemed sweet. She had a pretty face. I think she'd had a boyfriend that cheated on her or broke up with her or something, so she got stuck at just over 30 with no husband.

There are some Filipina bar girls, Filipinas who cheat. It's like anywhere else. But there are also Filipinas who are sweet and faithful. It's one of those cultures where they try to make you feel comfortable and like to preserve harmony. If you invite Filipinas over for dinner, they do your dishes and mop the kitchen floor. Indonesians are similar, taking over your kitchen to help cooking and cleaning.

If nothing else they are AMAZING singers! Something in their language that pre disposes them to beautiful voices. I just...I dunno...Asians are very nice, but just not for me.

It's funny you said you prayed for a woman last reply. I'm not religious, but there are some convincing studies that indicate that prayer, when done regularly, has an effect on behavior, or something along those lines. Could a person just pray to the universe? Can a person pray for sex?
I read about dudes sexing thousands of times and it just screws with my mind. I'm just in a bad place right now. Just stuck...or something.. perhaps a prayer ritual will help. I'm not sure how to go about it.

How do we really change?

Since fornication is a sin... maybe if you pray some wicked spirit might try to answer your prayer.

If you want to turn your life around, seek God. Learn about Jesus. Study the word of God. Put your faith in Christ, the Son of God Who died for our sins and rose from the dead. Confess your faith in Him, be baptized, and follow His teachings. Then, as someone in right standing with God, ask God for what you need, in this case, a wife.

[Rygar1]

I knew what I wanted-- a Christian with the same faith, with conservative values that matched mine, who was a virgin. I waited until marriage also. I also just couldn't help it. I'm only really attracted to a small percentage of women. I'm picky about looks. She had to be really pretty by my standards.

In Indonesia, apparently I was considered attractive or I just started picking up on women's cues, or the fact that the average marriage age for women is about 23, and I was in my mid 20's there, but it sure seemed like I was picking up on hints of women like me, some outright flirting. The don't usually flirt dirty over there, though that can happen.

But even so, to find a wife, which I was praying for, I just started praying more intensely about it and met my wife shortly thereafter. I suspected I would marry her after that first conversation. She later told me that God told her I was the one, the one she would marry, right before that. We were both trying to feel the other out for a sense of whether the other had an idea about this during our first phone conversations. I got a lot of help finding my wife.

Also, a man at 38 could still have his looks and date all the way down to 18, all the way up to 38 or older. A late 30's single woman who never had kids might be eager to marry and get an egg or two fertilized before she's sterile for life.

Oh OK, not surprisingly, you're wife is not an American white woman. Can I assume you're a white man? I mean, this is kinda the point of the whole website, is it not? Foreign women. I kinda knew this game even well before Winston's site. An ex neighbor and sorta friend had married a filipina at 45 after dating a few Americans over the years. Said he was sick of their sense of entitlement and bad attitudes. We may agree.

Do you think that could be part of the problem? A whole lifetime of snobby, angry, unfriendly american women 'muting' my drive? I dunno, I'm fairly good looking so that shouldn't be a problem. I just...have never had that 'killer instinct'or something. What causes thus lack of get up and go? Too picky? Unrealistic standard? Laziness?

I still there's some deeper underlying issue at play here explaining my lack of emotional drive. I would like your insights on how to correct it. I mean there has to be something wrong.

A friend of mine who was about your age, and overweight and slightly autistic, started dating a Filipina online. He sold his most valuable possession, flew over there, spent some time getting to know her and her family, proposed, married her, and came back to the US to figure out how to get her over. I think they travelled to a nearby country for the Honeymoon, and he's been back to see her at least once.

I talked to her online. She seemed sweet. She had a pretty face. I think she'd had a boyfriend that cheated on her or broke up with her or something, so she got stuck at just over 30 with no husband.

There are some Filipina bar girls, Filipinas who cheat. It's like anywhere else. But there are also Filipinas who are sweet and faithful. It's one of those cultures where they try to make you feel comfortable and like to preserve harmony. If you invite Filipinas over for dinner, they do your dishes and mop the kitchen floor. Indonesians are similar, taking over your kitchen to help cooking and cleaning.

If nothing else they are AMAZING singers! Something in their language that pre disposes them to beautiful voices. I just...I dunno...Asians are very nice, but just not for me.

It's funny you said you prayed for a woman last reply. I'm not religious, but there are some convincing studies that indicate that prayer, when done regularly, has an effect on behavior, or something along those lines. Could a person just pray to the universe? Can a person pray for sex?
I read about dudes sexing thousands of times and it just screws with my mind. I'm just in a bad place right now. Just stuck...or something.. perhaps a prayer ritual will help. I'm not sure how to go about it.

How do we really change?

Since fornication is a sin... maybe if you pray some wicked spirit might try to answer your prayer.

If you want to turn your life around, seek God. Learn about Jesus. Study the word of God. Put your faith in Christ, the Son of God Who died for our sins and rose from the dead. Confess your faith in Him, be baptized, and follow His teachings. Then, as someone in right standing with God, ask God for what you need, in this case, a wife.

I was raised Catholic and went to church every week until 15 or so. For most of my adult life, I've never been a believer. I mean, a part of me WANTS to beleive, and i'll even go so far as to say there are very real benefits to adhering to a religious philosophy, but my core self just has never believed that it's ACTUALLY real. I'm sorry, man, I just don't think anyone is LITERALLY listening to my prayers, as comforting as they may be. I'm not sure why, an overly analytical mind, perhaps? Too left brained? I still think Shemp was on the right track by saying that the inner workings of the mind have to change, and in some ways radically so, in order to change our lives. His story is also relatable in that he realized the toxic messages that society and parents installed in him f'd him up, and spent most of his adult life trying to eradicate these burdens on his spirit. I can relate wholeheartedly. He didn't emerge from this until his mid 40s, so there's hope yet. Just not sure where to look.