conditioned not to trust?????

[coyoteslim]

so i joined cherry blossoms last night... checked my mail today,22 smiles and 16 emails already wow! ive chatted with a couple of girls and they are over the top friendly"so glad you talked to me" im really interested in you"this kind of thing is never said by american women lol... but in the back of my mind im thinking they are probably scammers setting me up...is this just my americanized mind being paranoid or is this the kind of friendliness the norm for foreign girls??? i want to know lol! thinking about trying some more dating sites if this what i can expect

[Truthville]

I had a similar experience and found that most women on cherry blossoms are actually looking for a "good" man. Most like to chat and meet new people, especially foreigners. Reasons vary, BUT most just need a little "excitement" in their lives AND YOU, as the "foreign" person provide that.


I also struggled with my "American Women" radar after talking to some of them BUT you have to at least TRY to put all the aside and approach these women with an open mind.

Are some scammers? Sure! BUT the flipside is, as ladislav wrote in one of his posts, are the guys whom promise the world to these women and then break their hearts. I know one Filipina right now whose has had two WESTERN guys jerk her heart around with their bullshit!

Don't get me started on the sex-cam fools!

[coyoteslim]

thanks for the insight truthville.im going to try to turn my radar- as you call it- on low lol.i wonder how long it would take to get 16 messages on an american dating site?

[polya]

Most girls are genuine as long as you haven't put a pic of you driving a Red Ferrari and made an over-the-top advert. Just Don't ever send money and never promise to visit her unless you've spent months skyping first.

[davewe]

so i joined cherry blossoms last night... checked my mail today,22 smiles and 16 emails already wow! ive chatted with a couple of girls and they are over the top friendly"so glad you talked to me" im really interested in you"this kind of thing is never said by american women lol... but in the back of my mind im thinking they are probably scammers setting me up...is this just my americanized mind being paranoid or is this the kind of friendliness the norm for foreign girls??? i want to know lol! thinking about trying some more dating sites if this what i can expect

I posted a fairly extensive review of my experience on CB last year as have others. I am back on now so this is all fresh in my mind. The girls run the gamut from scammers, to bored and needing attention and excitement, to girls who will meet you and sleep with you, be your gf, or be your wife. Depends on what you both want.

Still it is a bit of a minefield and overwhelming for the new member who gets scores of emails/smiles from pretty girls all over the Philippines. After you get tired of that, create your own search criteria and look for girls who meet them all. For perhaps the first time in your life you have almost infinite choices. But you must choose wisely. My search is simple: college educated, a certain age, height and weight, no kids, single, no smoking, etc. I also set up searches based on cities I am interested in visiting. No sense getting super interested in a girl who lives far from where you might go.

I would also recommend that you be honest - it isn't just the girl. So if you want just online fun, don't pretend you are showing up next month. BTW, I am showing up next month and you would not believe how many girls don't believe that - they have often been lied to. If you are interested in marriage or an LTR, your methodology is gonna be different than if you want to bang lots of hot girls.

I could talk about this stuff forever - PM me if you want more. And yes, your paranoia based on your Western ideas and the rejection you get from Western women is coloring your view - that's natural.

[C.J.]

I haven't had much success, and have been a target for scams on asian dating sites. I have been too trusting, but thankfully I'm not stupid.

I say before you talk to girl, first read the posts on HA. Lots of experiences on here that will help you figure out what to do. Then focus your search.

Keep in mind that while a woman may seem trustworthy online, it doesn't mean she doesn't have an agenda. You need to go there and stay with her to know her true self and intentions.

[coyoteslim]

thanks a lot fellas- your insight and advice is much appreciated.