Slow Death Through Loneliness

[Winston]

Some people don't vibe or have any synergy/chemistry with certain cultures or people. Doesn't mean there's something wrong with them. Ketchup and ice cream tastes great, but they don't have good synergy of flavors when mixed together. Does that mean there's something wrong with either one? No, they just don't mix. I don't know why you guys don't take that into account or consider it. It's an important issue.

Couldn't this be used as a defence for America too? Obviously, a lot of people do have a good social and dating life in America. Maybe, there isn't anything wrong with America. Maybe, we are just incompatible with the people and culture.

Yes and no. Sure some people are better at fitting into America and are more compatible with it. But obviously America has many social and psychological problems too. For example, it has the highest rate of mental illness in the world, and a high violent crime rate too. And it has the biggest prison population in the world too. So of course there are things "wrong" with America. Tons of problems. We all know that and could go on for hours about it.

You could say that some people are better at scams or wars too. But that doesn't mean it's normal, natural or good.

Also, ask anyone from the Middle East, such as from Iran, Saudi Arabia or Afghanistan. They can rant for hours about how terrible and evil the US is in its foreign policy.

[starchild5]

What did you expect

A guy who doesn't believe in conspiracy nor flat earth nor false flags nor god....ends up like Ghost ....lonely and frustrated.....This is what happens to people when they live a fake life ...

I know i'm an A**hole taking potshots at members who are down and out....sorry ghost, I'm just being a d*ck....

hey why don't you come up with something extraordinary from your super genius brain as you consider rest of us as idiots, delusional and crazy

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Look at me ..I'm a third world guy ..I'm 40 never married no kids, live alone in my moms basement and I'm super happy ..I get my share of bad days but not frustrated with life like you are...to think slow-death through loneliness

I live super alone , never had a gf nor wife...BECAUSE...I'm Authentic, REAL and NATURAL....I love being alone Because I'm ORIGINAL, I"M THE REAL DEAL...Being lonely does not effect me, because I know the entire cosmic unseen forces are with me, which are 1 trillion times more helpful and fulfilling than the fake friends and family you make around....

Only way to get rid of Loneliness is Being REAL....Be Closer to Truth and all your loneliness will vanish...Love Nature, Love God and be free...

There is so much beauty in nature...are you guys blind...appreciate nature and you will never be lonely...I can't believe people feel lonely....I love loneliness....

[yick]

Hi Winston,

I am listening to what Ghost is saying (or rather, reading about it) and all I am saying is, if he wants a virgin bride to marry - then he is in right place - now if he doesn't find that place to his liking - then go somewhere else, but don't go round calling the women in that place alien and weird, and certainly don't go putting the onus of his lack of success of learning the language on the Chinese or adopt an entitled attitude about it.

That's it - now if he wants a Filipina virgin bride, then I am sure there are million over there - in the Philippines - waiting for him.

As for his weight - I am well over six feet and am north of 200lbs and a fair few women like me, a lot of Chinese women might like skinny fellas but there are a fair few who like taller, bigger men - especially tall Chinese women (anyone over 5ft 5ins)if he doesn't want to know about them then fine, it's his problem, not the place. I can't make it any simpler than that - is this what this movement is about? Taking action.

"Btw, it's not true that you need to know Chinese language to have a Chinese girlfriend. Zboy1 and many others have had great Chinese girlfriends without being able to speak Chinese at all. Language is superficial. There are other ways of bonding and connecting without language. Even animals can do it. You guys need to look at the bigger picture and the totality of existence."

BTW - that is absolutely NOT true and it all depends on where you live - doesn't Zboy1 live in a big city - well, you will find an English speaker there I imagine who ticks all the boxes but if you live in the middle of Henan like I do and Ghost did - you need Chinese to date the local women - there is no lack of attention here but you do need to speak Chinese to get things moving.

[Winston]

Yick,
Ghost would be in the Philippines right now. But he has no way of making a living there. That's the problem. Didn't you read? That's not an easy problem to solve at all. Even the most experienced expats in the Philippines can't help him with that one.

Zboy1 lives in Dongguan. It's not a big city. Just a medium city with a lot of factories, but cost of living there is cheaper and lower class. He found an English speaking Chinese girl there, and so did I. My ex Chinese girlfriend Lisa was also from Dongguan, and she talked to me in English most of the time.

Also, you forget to take into consideration that not everyone vibes with Chinese culture or people, for various reasons. There is no culture that is right for everyone or that everyone vibes with. You seem to ignore this. Are there any cultures you don't vibe with?

[yick]

Ghost would be in the Philippines right now. But he has no way of making a living there. That's the problem. Didn't you read? That's not an easy problem to solve at all. Even the most experienced expats in the Philippines can't help him with that one.

No, it isn't easy, I agree, but it is do-able - you did it, Marcos is doing it, Publicduende is doing it quite a few people on this board are doing it. Course I read it - it isn't an 'easy' problem to solve but it isn't impossible either - it is his problem and one he has to figure out for himself.

Zboy1 lives in Dongguan. It's not a big city. Just a medium city with a lot of factories, but cost of living there is cheaper and lower class. He found an English speaking Chinese girl there, and so did I. My ex Chinese girlfriend Lisa was also from Dongguan, and she talked to me in English most of the time.

Winston, if you stop talking to me like I am a complete fool, then we will all rub along better, Dongguan is right next door to Shenzhen and Guangzhou - and that is why it is called 'The Pearl Delta Mega City' it is all one big metropolis that merges into each other and Dongguan - as well as being the 'whorehouse of China' is a place where westerners come and go to all the time - all the foreigners I know who are in business and have been to China have been to Dongguan because it is a very important industrial hub - because of that, it attracts single young women from all over China and yes - if Ghost went there and couldn't find what he wanted, then I would really be asking questions. So don't make the place out to be any kind of equivalent to some medium sized city in Henan or Shaanxi.

Also, you forget to take into consideration that not everyone vibes with Chinese culture or people, for various reasons. There is no culture that is right for everyone or that everyone vibes with. You seem to ignore this. Are there any cultures you don't vibe with?

I don't think I have ever disagreed with this, but it is him not them. I don't ignore it at all, in fact, I am the one telling him to be a bit more proactive about his situation - but don't go blaming China or their women - or calling Filipinos subhuman scum - I know, that was a few months ago - he has changed his mind now - I wonder if he will change his mind again when he goes living among them.

[Eric]

I live in China, apart from playing the foreigner card. I don't really like it here. The people are materialistic as hell, basically the same as Americans but even worse - if you can believe it. They are also incredibly, incredibly rude here. Chinese culture is very callous, rude .....uncaring, there are so many damn people no one cares.
I've been to the mid east and I vibe there, I think. Europe is the same. I'd do well either of those places, but - the goddamn nwo is destroying Europe, so - it won't last longer I don't think.
I'm having doubts about God, the point & meaning of life.... re evaluating my goals and my self.
Chinese people are just like the rest, they are like all people everywhere; people suck. People are all the same. ...
I'm sick of never having sex. It's like this everywhere - you have to work for it. If you put in the work, you will get it.
I'm just still tired of going sexless, etc. Feeling like I"m missing out.
I'm tired of the smug goddamn foreigners I work with, seeing their smug disgusting fatbodies (usually) out on the streets. It's embarrassing.

There's no free lunch. You have to work for everything. Most guys have problems getting sex, the problem is with themselves. It has nothing to do with girls. Most times it's, as easy as noticing when a girl is giving you hints...and welcoming it and taking the opportunity - not watching it pass. As many of us do, then complain then we never get any. You have to try to catch a fish - it doesn't just happen, every fisherman knows. Most of us don't like going outside our comfort zones...even though we complain, we still won't. It's also simple things we tell ourselves to keep us in our zones like "I can't do it in front of everybody" ..."I'd get laughed at"...or whatever else bullshit. If the balance rests more in favor of being comfortable as you are, versus things you'd have to effort and do - to get laid...most of us won't, that's just it. Unless you really search yourself and decide what you want to do. Sometimes it requires saying "hi" or approaching. It's that simple, just a basic move you have to start. Seize it. That's it, simple things like that can make or break you. And going to the right places like clubs/bars, etc. Most guys inner bitch-ness prevents them from going out into the universe to get what they want. They have subconscious defenses. Listen, you have to really want it ...make a decision. If it's what you really want - you'll get it, if it's not. Then you wont', and things will continue like this - until you sort things out for yourself, if you do.
If you end up in Phillippines or some place where you get it all easy - it means you are in a shit hole and cut corners, there's a place not worth living, etc. Or you can be like MarcosZeitola and just snag and marry a simpleton girl, separating yourself from all foreigners and civilization so that you can try to forget that the world exists - while acting high and "mighty" because you have no one to compare yourself to, except yourself. That's easy and pathetic. A simple way out, a cheat, like I said.

[Guhji]

Most sensible thing I've read on this forum. It's good that you 'get it' now, while there's still time to change. Life is hard.

[yick]

I live in China, apart from playing the foreigner card. I don't really like it here. The people are materialistic as hell, basically the same as Americans but even worse - if you can believe it. They are also incredibly, incredibly rude here. Chinese culture is very callous, rude .....uncaring, there are so many damn people no one cares.

I have lived here five years, my first two years were hard, but I learned was that the Chinese aren't rude - they have a different set of polite ettiquette - it isn't the west, if you are expecting them to behave politely like westerners, no - you are going to be disappointed, but once you fathom them out, they are a pretty decent bunch of people who will go out of their way to be helpful and nice - there are more arseholes back home than in China but it isn't west.

I've been to the mid east and I vibe there, I think. Europe is the same. I'd do well either of those places

The problem with most Americans is that they think they would 'do well' in Europe, how, I don't know, but if you decided to let rip with your conspiracies of the the 'NWO' or gun laws, socialised health care or whatever with most educated Europeans (in the western part of Europe for sure) you would be laughed at - there is a MASSIVE culture overlap between Americans and a lot of Western Europeans, they don't see life the same way as a lot of you do. You might fit in physically but the rest of it...

I'm sick of never having sex. It's like this everywhere - you have to work for it. If you put in the work, you will get it.

Oh no Eric - are the Chinese girls not giving you sex?

Course you have to work for it, you have to go out and meet people, learn their language, dress well - do things man - you aren't entitled to sex - are you entitled to sex in America? What makes you entitled to sex in China? Serious question here, hombre?

I think a lot of you have these really unrealistic ideas once you leave 'The Matrix' once you leave is when the real hard work begins. I think a lot of you would be happy to stay at home if you had got laid with the cheerleader in High School.

Being a white American gets you jack shit in China. If anyone else is reading this and thinks that the little yellow people are going to be kissing your feet and dropping their drawers because you come from out west with a blue passport - well, now you know - Eric has told you the score.

I'm just still tired of going sexless, etc. Feeling like I"m missing out

We need MattHanson1990 and his vioin - where is he?

I'm tired of the smug goddamn foreigners I work with, seeing their smug disgusting fatbodies (usually) out on the streets. It's embarrassing.

Why is that embarrassing? If they have shite sorted out and you don't - why are you embarrassed for them?

Or you can be like MarcosZeitola...

Who has his shite sorted out, who is not on here crying, who has found someone he likes - he is the example you should be following.

The thing what a lot of you need to get a grip on is this life is banging loads of hot chicks.

Most of you aren't cut out for that life, some guys in this world are wired up to be that man though - but they do it in America.

Is it fair? Well, it is like asking is it fair that Mike Tyson can box the way he does
It is like asking is it fair that Chris Rock tells jokes the way he does
That Brad Pitt can act the way he does
That Dave Barry can write the way he does
That Tom Brady can play football the way he does etc etc

Men being able to bed women - that is how some men are wired, not every man is capable of it like not every man is capable of being an NFL player.

It isn't you who can bed loads of women? Tough shit - it might work out better in the next life.

What you can get though is a decent life partner, one woman, maybe two or three - maybe a dozen if you are lucky - so, what is wrong with that?

Nothing wrong with that, that's what.

[Eric]

What a self righteous cunt you are. I'd love to bust you in the chops. What's wrong, you don't like violence? Get over it, or start whining like a little p*ssy "oh he said he'd do violence to me poo poo."
I could begin to argue with you, but there's so much stupid in your post it is pointless... it's useless. I'll just let you live in your world. While you're at it, please pull your **** out of Marcos's ass. It's not becoming to be a brown noser, as well. That guy is nothing to be proud of, and I wouldn't be on him except for the way he goes on as if he's better than everyone else. He's a decent looking guy, who ran off to escape first world life buy marrying a Filipino peasant and running a crappy self- "business" where he ships goods for chimp change, that's hardly having your shit together if you ask me. That he has a mightier than thou complex and MANY don't like him on here says something - but you're, of course, too dense to get that.

did you get butthurt?

Have a good night.

[Eric]

Most sensible thing I've read on this forum. It's good that you 'get it' now, while there's still time to change. Life is hard.

Thank you.

[Shemp]

You are a freaking moron.

Actually, he's a sanctimonious blowhard. "Nothing wrong with that, that's what." Reminds me of those boring uncles who drone on at Thanksgiving dinner to their captive audience about the government, etc. Pain in the ass to listen to, but that doesn't mean he can't be right about some things. Life is work, but it's a great gift too, at least if you have good health and money. Not a lot of money either, just enough to get out of uttermost poverty. And you have those two things.

I suggest you take a walk on the dark side. Start paying for sex (use protection). To cut costs, learn to enjoy masturbation. Not that hurried masturbation of guys who feel shame about the act, but the type of masturbation that lasts for hours, with dozens of female style orgasms. Read up on and practice sexual kung fu (Mantak Chia is who I leaned from). Forget this marriage crap. We are alone in the end. Compare yourself to men who had much harder lives (galley slaves for much of their lives, etc) and yet managed to snatch happiness from the jaws of apparent misery. Each morning, reflect that this may be your last day alive. Each night before going to sleep, reflect that you may never awake again.

[Eric]

I know. Thank you frank for your reply. The only way I get my advice is from the Bible at this point. I've stopped looking ANY where else. period. It will not lie to you. Everytime. It is the only source of wisdom on life that tells you everything how it is. no bs. It also gives the best wisdom.
I appreciate your suggestions. And have thought of this myself, however, I recoil at paying for sex...etc, at least part of me is.

I think the existence of these guys that exist who bed lots of women exist to make the rest of us feel like shit. It's like some story telling that makes us feel like shit. Then we all beat ourselves up over it.
This blowhard has a point, I'd take it and gleaned it from his garbage...
but it still exists. It is still a force to reckon with.

Decisions decisions, thank you for your input, and thank you INDEED for your valuable points you bring up.
I will ponder them.

[yick]

Actually, he's a sanctimonious blowhard.

Whoa - hang on there Grandpa - just one thing before I get to my point, I actually read your little post to gsjackson about your life in Ukraine and what you do there, learn Russian, keep in shape, have things going on other than scouring for women - a woman - the right woman is great - but if you want to be 'happier abroad' you need all the important shite sorted out.

Now the thing is...

I'm sick of never having sex. It's like this everywhere - you have to work for it. If you put in the work, you will get it.

Is the most pathetic thing I have ever read and I have read all MattHansons1990's posts. Sorry - what do you want me to say? My 81 year old father would smack me across the head if I came out with something like that to him, he would - he is a different generation, and I am sure Erics grandfather or great-grandfather - the one who stormed a beach at
Iwo Jima would be ashamed if he knew his future offspring was coming out with this shite.

Now the thing, he is not owed sex, not off anyone, now if he wants sex and he wants to pay for it, there is that avenue in which he can get as laid as
much as he wants, but he isn't owed sex and to whine about getting being hard is a window to why he isn't getting it. To defend that nonsense is a joke
and you know it.

[Eric]

Are you that much of a moron that you can't read that what you are saying is exactly what I'm saying in my very post in the quotes you are trying to use against me? You are a special kind of idiot.
I'm saying the same things you are whining on and on about in your posts. What's your point.
You took something I said, and in your own idiot way twisted it to sound like something you wanted it to sound like - because you are a miserable human and need to attack someone; that's all of it. Sad.

[yick]

What a self righteous c**t you are. I'd love to bust you in the chops. What's wrong, you don't like violence? Get over it, or start whining like a little p*ssy "oh he said he'd do violence to me poo poo."

Mate - you wouldn't bust my chops, I train every day - I used to box and I now train at the university (where I work at) wushu gym where I belt the bags for an hour, skip, weights and I run every day - I am in decent shape - I am going to go out now for some roadwork once I have typed this to you. Don't be so confident because the only chops getting burst would probably be yours.

That guy is nothing to be proud of,

And nor are you,

'I am not getting sex, its not fair waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah'

It is the MOST pathetic thing I have ever read on here, grow up.