Is Winston a good lay?

[Rygar1]

I dont dispute it, man. Married 10 years equals 3650 days, minus, I dunno, 1500 or so she's on her period would indeed equal 2000. But most of the studies I've read suggest that married couples, ltr's etc, aren't having daily sex, far fewer in fact. I mean, I don't know if there reliable or not, but most stated it was only 150 or so days a year. That's less than half.

Imaging someone penetrating a vagina 2000 times, again, is just unfathomable. Reading that made me physically unwell. I've penetarated 3 or 4 , handful of blowies. I mean, all joking aside, and I mean this sincerely, IS THERE SOMETHING WRONG WITH ME? Are there just dramatic individual differences in sex drive? Where does the motivation come from? I'm really interested in the psychological dynamics. I think it's clear that a 38 yr old man whose never had a girlfriend, a paltry amount of sex, and perhaps little motivation to actively seek these things out, isn't 'normal'. Really, I'd like to change, but just don't know how or where to start. Any advices is HUGELY appreciated.

My wife and I are both Christians and don't believe in sex outside of marriage to have sex. My wife is really beautiful, too. I just wanted it every day or night, especially as a newly wed. It feels really good, especially when you learn your partner and get into the rhythm of it. But yeah, periods. Most of the time I was getting 'release' every day and intercourse every other day as part of that for two years, or more than that until my wife got late into the pregnancy of our first child. Then she had the hormonal issues with post partum, breast feeding, and the tiredness, oxytocin overload from the baby, and after she healed up, maybe a mere two or three times a week, with some non-intercourse release thrown in. But it depends on what age we are talking about, too. There were times it was more frequent than others. I could still go for every night, but as they age, women can have various health issues and periods can become erratic. They also get sore, can get sore, even if they are young, if they get jack hammered towards the end of it, and her muscles can get sore if you coax her into accepting multiple releases until she's kind of worn out, and she may need a day to recover, and as you get older a session can take a while for a man, and that can wear a woman out. My thinking is lots of sex is good for a marriage.

But, somewhere between one or two thousand (or more) over decades... not sure why that would be nauseating. Sex every night still sounds fun to me in my 50's, and something I could do at this point if I have the time, though my body doesn't feel like it 'demands' it that much these days.

Again, what is the black pill?

I think that is the incel version of the 'red pill.' Red pill is this ideology about women. It's hard to articulate, but it is something along the ideas that civilization being set up in a gynocentric way. Women are hypergamous, and like men that other women find attractive. Some of it may have to do with pick up artist philosphy about how women treat men who treat them negatively, and all kinds of other stuff about women. A lot of women dump men and take half their stuff. The metaphor is from Alice in Wonderland, and more recently the Matrix, where taking the red pill opens one up to reality or wonderland, and the blue pill is status quo. Blue pill men in this metaphor accept ideas from feminism.

If I understand correctly the Black pill is the idea that it is hopeless for the individual who swallows it. Women will never like him. He can't get ahead. All women are bad. It's kind of like MGTOW, except a bit darker. Incel means involuntary celibate, but it is also a term used for this black pill ideology that no matter what happens a woman will not be attracted to you as a man, if you aren't a 'Chad' or a 'Tyrone' who gets all the girls.

Thank you for that detailed reply. I think it just boils down to a biological clock that's ticking, as well as other factors Wu has stated, making me question all this. I think, especially people my age, with all this social media hyperconnectivity plays a part as well. Comparing yourself to others, keeping up with the joneses etc..I mean EVERYBODY is married. A 38 year old with a handful of experience is a effing joke. Women are gonna think there's something wrong with you. I just never seemed to have a lot of 'get up and go'. Can you relate? Do you ever just want to be alone? You can masturbate and have orgasms.

I think I'm just a lazy person, tbh. I mean I'm just lazy. Shit, I've gotten numbers galore, and most of the time, I don't call because I'm too damn lazy and unmotivated to do so. I live inside my head alot. It's hard to get yourself out of a rut.

This blackpill stuff seems like a lot of vague nonsense. I mean, there may be SOME truth to it, but, like a lot things, it gets exaggerated. I think a lot these dudes have serious mental health issues only a professional would be able help. I have some hang up, though. I don't really trust a lot of people, especially women, I don't know why, I just don't trust them. There's prob some unconscious stuff going on there.

I would be interested in any tips or hacks to improve though(location, language, etc.)

If your mom and your grandma aren't on the forum, you probably won't get any pressure here to get married. And 38 isn't a bad age for a man to marry. Depending on your looks, accomplishments, and charm, a man your age could date and marry from 18 up to past your own age. There are also plenty of women who might be content with a man who doesn't chase them around the bedroom who save sex for special occasions. But you need to go into marriage with a mindset that you will meet her needs if they are more demanding than your own.. You know, "It's a tough job, but someone has to do it."

Women single at 38? That's a different story. Some of them still have their young looks at that age, but the wall is approaching. Getting pregnant is harder. If a man wants kids, that's not a very appealing age for a woman to be.

I dunno, I mean, let me put this in no uncertain terms: I have NEVER had a girlfriend, ever. Worse yet, I don't thinkmi want one. I just don't know what I want in life. I been laid, a few times, poorly. I'm not good at sex, they didn't moan or scream or anything. Some girls in my apartment complex, I can hear them screaming and shit even just walking in the corridor. I just don't have any ambition in that area. I mean, are some dudes just BORN to be alone? The proverbial planets weren't aligned to grant me success in that area? Good athlete, when younger? Check. Smart as he'll? Check. Good singer? Yep, I can blow. But chicks? I SUCK at it.

I mean where do you really start? What baby steps can I take?

2000 times! Wow.

[MrMan]

I dont dispute it, man. Married 10 years equals 3650 days, minus, I dunno, 1500 or so she's on her period would indeed equal 2000. But most of the studies I've read suggest that married couples, ltr's etc, aren't having daily sex, far fewer in fact. I mean, I don't know if there reliable or not, but most stated it was only 150 or so days a year. That's less than half.

Imaging someone penetrating a vagina 2000 times, again, is just unfathomable. Reading that made me physically unwell. I've penetarated 3 or 4 , handful of blowies. I mean, all joking aside, and I mean this sincerely, IS THERE SOMETHING WRONG WITH ME? Are there just dramatic individual differences in sex drive? Where does the motivation come from? I'm really interested in the psychological dynamics. I think it's clear that a 38 yr old man whose never had a girlfriend, a paltry amount of sex, and perhaps little motivation to actively seek these things out, isn't 'normal'. Really, I'd like to change, but just don't know how or where to start. Any advices is HUGELY appreciated.

My wife and I are both Christians and don't believe in sex outside of marriage to have sex. My wife is really beautiful, too. I just wanted it every day or night, especially as a newly wed. It feels really good, especially when you learn your partner and get into the rhythm of it. But yeah, periods. Most of the time I was getting 'release' every day and intercourse every other day as part of that for two years, or more than that until my wife got late into the pregnancy of our first child. Then she had the hormonal issues with post partum, breast feeding, and the tiredness, oxytocin overload from the baby, and after she healed up, maybe a mere two or three times a week, with some non-intercourse release thrown in. But it depends on what age we are talking about, too. There were times it was more frequent than others. I could still go for every night, but as they age, women can have various health issues and periods can become erratic. They also get sore, can get sore, even if they are young, if they get jack hammered towards the end of it, and her muscles can get sore if you coax her into accepting multiple releases until she's kind of worn out, and she may need a day to recover, and as you get older a session can take a while for a man, and that can wear a woman out. My thinking is lots of sex is good for a marriage.

But, somewhere between one or two thousand (or more) over decades... not sure why that would be nauseating. Sex every night still sounds fun to me in my 50's, and something I could do at this point if I have the time, though my body doesn't feel like it 'demands' it that much these days.

Again, what is the black pill?

I think that is the incel version of the 'red pill.' Red pill is this ideology about women. It's hard to articulate, but it is something along the ideas that civilization being set up in a gynocentric way. Women are hypergamous, and like men that other women find attractive. Some of it may have to do with pick up artist philosphy about how women treat men who treat them negatively, and all kinds of other stuff about women. A lot of women dump men and take half their stuff. The metaphor is from Alice in Wonderland, and more recently the Matrix, where taking the red pill opens one up to reality or wonderland, and the blue pill is status quo. Blue pill men in this metaphor accept ideas from feminism.

If I understand correctly the Black pill is the idea that it is hopeless for the individual who swallows it. Women will never like him. He can't get ahead. All women are bad. It's kind of like MGTOW, except a bit darker. Incel means involuntary celibate, but it is also a term used for this black pill ideology that no matter what happens a woman will not be attracted to you as a man, if you aren't a 'Chad' or a 'Tyrone' who gets all the girls.

Thank you for that detailed reply. I think it just boils down to a biological clock that's ticking, as well as other factors Wu has stated, making me question all this. I think, especially people my age, with all this social media hyperconnectivity plays a part as well. Comparing yourself to others, keeping up with the joneses etc..I mean EVERYBODY is married. A 38 year old with a handful of experience is a effing joke. Women are gonna think there's something wrong with you. I just never seemed to have a lot of 'get up and go'. Can you relate? Do you ever just want to be alone? You can masturbate and have orgasms.

I think I'm just a lazy person, tbh. I mean I'm just lazy. Shit, I've gotten numbers galore, and most of the time, I don't call because I'm too damn lazy and unmotivated to do so. I live inside my head alot. It's hard to get yourself out of a rut.

This blackpill stuff seems like a lot of vague nonsense. I mean, there may be SOME truth to it, but, like a lot things, it gets exaggerated. I think a lot these dudes have serious mental health issues only a professional would be able help. I have some hang up, though. I don't really trust a lot of people, especially women, I don't know why, I just don't trust them. There's prob some unconscious stuff going on there.

I would be interested in any tips or hacks to improve though(location, language, etc.)

If your mom and your grandma aren't on the forum, you probably won't get any pressure here to get married. And 38 isn't a bad age for a man to marry. Depending on your looks, accomplishments, and charm, a man your age could date and marry from 18 up to past your own age. There are also plenty of women who might be content with a man who doesn't chase them around the bedroom who save sex for special occasions. But you need to go into marriage with a mindset that you will meet her needs if they are more demanding than your own.. You know, "It's a tough job, but someone has to do it."

Women single at 38? That's a different story. Some of them still have their young looks at that age, but the wall is approaching. Getting pregnant is harder. If a man wants kids, that's not a very appealing age for a woman to be.

I dunno, I mean, let me put this in no uncertain terms: I have NEVER had a girlfriend, ever. Worse yet, I don't thinkmi want one. I just don't know what I want in life. I been laid, a few times, poorly. I'm not good at sex, they didn't moan or scream or anything. Some girls in my apartment complex, I can hear them screaming and shit even just walking in the corridor. I just don't have any ambition in that area. I mean, are some dudes just BORN to be alone? The proverbial planets weren't aligned to grant me success in that area? Good athlete, when younger? Check. Smart as he'll? Check. Good singer? Yep, I can blow. But chicks? I SUCK at it.

I mean where do you really start? What baby steps can I take?

2000 times! Wow.

I suppose advice on a forum like this would be to leave the US and go to a country where women are more open or like men from your ethnicity. I don't know that that's necessarily. Advice? Try to find a woman of good character.

My wife was involved in the same church movement I was in. We even found out that we knew people in common, even though I'd only been in Indonesia maybe a year and a half or two years when we started to get to know each other. Be good husband material. Cultivate good character. Work hard to get yourself in a situation where you could support a wife and child. I suppose you could find dates online. You could also get involved in community activities. For me, it was church activities. You could also ask married people if they have any single relatives to set you up with (which can work in a church community.)

I don't know how many times we have had sex, whether it has hit 2,000 or not. I'm pretty sure it is over 1,000. But if you have over two decades of a somewhat active sex life as a married couple, it is not that far fetched. Sexual activity becomes a regular part of life.

[Rygar1]

My wife and I are both Christians and don't believe in sex outside of marriage to have sex. My wife is really beautiful, too. I just wanted it every day or night, especially as a newly wed. It feels really good, especially when you learn your partner and get into the rhythm of it. But yeah, periods. Most of the time I was getting 'release' every day and intercourse every other day as part of that for two years, or more than that until my wife got late into the pregnancy of our first child. Then she had the hormonal issues with post partum, breast feeding, and the tiredness, oxytocin overload from the baby, and after she healed up, maybe a mere two or three times a week, with some non-intercourse release thrown in. But it depends on what age we are talking about, too. There were times it was more frequent than others. I could still go for every night, but as they age, women can have various health issues and periods can become erratic. They also get sore, can get sore, even if they are young, if they get jack hammered towards the end of it, and her muscles can get sore if you coax her into accepting multiple releases until she's kind of worn out, and she may need a day to recover, and as you get older a session can take a while for a man, and that can wear a woman out. My thinking is lots of sex is good for a marriage.

But, somewhere between one or two thousand (or more) over decades... not sure why that would be nauseating. Sex every night still sounds fun to me in my 50's, and something I could do at this point if I have the time, though my body doesn't feel like it 'demands' it that much these days.



I think that is the incel version of the 'red pill.' Red pill is this ideology about women. It's hard to articulate, but it is something along the ideas that civilization being set up in a gynocentric way. Women are hypergamous, and like men that other women find attractive. Some of it may have to do with pick up artist philosphy about how women treat men who treat them negatively, and all kinds of other stuff about women. A lot of women dump men and take half their stuff. The metaphor is from Alice in Wonderland, and more recently the Matrix, where taking the red pill opens one up to reality or wonderland, and the blue pill is status quo. Blue pill men in this metaphor accept ideas from feminism.

If I understand correctly the Black pill is the idea that it is hopeless for the individual who swallows it. Women will never like him. He can't get ahead. All women are bad. It's kind of like MGTOW, except a bit darker. Incel means involuntary celibate, but it is also a term used for this black pill ideology that no matter what happens a woman will not be attracted to you as a man, if you aren't a 'Chad' or a 'Tyrone' who gets all the girls.

Thank you for that detailed reply. I think it just boils down to a biological clock that's ticking, as well as other factors Wu has stated, making me question all this. I think, especially people my age, with all this social media hyperconnectivity plays a part as well. Comparing yourself to others, keeping up with the joneses etc..I mean EVERYBODY is married. A 38 year old with a handful of experience is a effing joke. Women are gonna think there's something wrong with you. I just never seemed to have a lot of 'get up and go'. Can you relate? Do you ever just want to be alone? You can masturbate and have orgasms.

I think I'm just a lazy person, tbh. I mean I'm just lazy. Shit, I've gotten numbers galore, and most of the time, I don't call because I'm too damn lazy and unmotivated to do so. I live inside my head alot. It's hard to get yourself out of a rut.

This blackpill stuff seems like a lot of vague nonsense. I mean, there may be SOME truth to it, but, like a lot things, it gets exaggerated. I think a lot these dudes have serious mental health issues only a professional would be able help. I have some hang up, though. I don't really trust a lot of people, especially women, I don't know why, I just don't trust them. There's prob some unconscious stuff going on there.

I would be interested in any tips or hacks to improve though(location, language, etc.)

If your mom and your grandma aren't on the forum, you probably won't get any pressure here to get married. And 38 isn't a bad age for a man to marry. Depending on your looks, accomplishments, and charm, a man your age could date and marry from 18 up to past your own age. There are also plenty of women who might be content with a man who doesn't chase them around the bedroom who save sex for special occasions. But you need to go into marriage with a mindset that you will meet her needs if they are more demanding than your own.. You know, "It's a tough job, but someone has to do it."

Women single at 38? That's a different story. Some of them still have their young looks at that age, but the wall is approaching. Getting pregnant is harder. If a man wants kids, that's not a very appealing age for a woman to be.

I dunno, I mean, let me put this in no uncertain terms: I have NEVER had a girlfriend, ever. Worse yet, I don't thinkmi want one. I just don't know what I want in life. I been laid, a few times, poorly. I'm not good at sex, they didn't moan or scream or anything. Some girls in my apartment complex, I can hear them screaming and shit even just walking in the corridor. I just don't have any ambition in that area. I mean, are some dudes just BORN to be alone? The proverbial planets weren't aligned to grant me success in that area? Good athlete, when younger? Check. Smart as he'll? Check. Good singer? Yep, I can blow. But chicks? I SUCK at it.

I mean where do you really start? What baby steps can I take?

2000 times! Wow.

I suppose advice on a forum like this would be to leave the US and go to a country where women are more open or like men from your ethnicity. I don't know that that's necessarily. Advice? Try to find a woman of good character.

My wife was involved in the same church movement I was in. We even found out that we knew people in common, even though I'd only been in Indonesia maybe a year and a half or two years when we started to get to know each other. Be good husband material. Cultivate good character. Work hard to get yourself in a situation where you could support a wife and child. I suppose you could find dates online. You could also get involved in community activities. For me, it was church activities. You could also ask married people if they have any single relatives to set you up with (which can work in a church community.)

I don't know how many times we have had sex, whether it has hit 2,000 or not. I'm pretty sure it is over 1,000. But if you have over two decades of a somewhat active sex life as a married couple, it is not that far fetched. Sexual activity becomes a regular part of life.

My ethnicity? I'm a white guy, a regular straight white male. Slightly above average.

You know, I'm a bit of an armchair psychologist, so I'm always looking for the underlying reasons why we do what we do, or don't don't do what we don't do. Like, if there were just some sort of mental 'switch' that could be flipped, or some 'kink' that could be ironed out, it would help. Metaphorically speaking, I feel that I was born without a 'motor'. Like my peers have this internal energy or fuel that propels them to desire and attain certain things, dating and sex one of them, among others. This lack of fuel carries over into other areas as well, but well stick on topic.

I'm primarily attracted to white women, but, as Wu points out, they are tough to get. Tough. I certainly agree with his experience that almost every one of them, has a 'boyfriend'. Many of them seem very angry, too. Why is that? They are indeed very cliquish, as well. But, man, they're hot. I don't think I can override that.

I believe you had a lot of sex. Cool. But you stated uptrend, that, in a pervious thread, you mentioned over 1000 times.Why? Can you link me to that thread? I had asked Is winston a good lay? I mean, it's on topic and all, but...i dunno. I'm really not jealous, I'm curious. Humbling your heart and asking guys who are more skilled and experienced than you are for advice is wise. Just like I did with singing. Hey, how do you extend range? How to improve tone? Etc.. same thing aapplies. Are most people really having this much? Most studies online say only 1 or 2 times a week. I guess it varies.

Thank you.

[MrMan]

@Rygar1 If I try to do anything in this forum, I get spinning circles and slow load time, so if you want to look up my post, you can search for my handle and something like, "I had sex over 1,000 times."

As long as my wife and I have been married, and 2x a week, we'd be at over 2,000 times. It's probably past that by now. It adds up if you have sex with your wife so many times a week for so many years. I'm thinking sometimes we were at 4x a week when we were younger, or 3x. And I'm just thinking intercourse. Once we'd popped the cork on our sex life when I was younger, I don't think it would have been difficult to have been rationed down to less than one 'release' a day. Having it available might also increase desire, because it does feel good, both physically, and emotionally. It seems like the physical pleasure aspect actually decreases bit by bit over time, but not the emotional side of it.

[Rygar1]

@Rygar1 If I try to do anything in this forum, I get spinning circles and slow load time, so if you want to look up my post, you can search for my handle and something like, "I had sex over 1,000 times."

As long as my wife and I have been married, and 2x a week, we'd be at over 2,000 times. It's probably past that by now. It adds up if you have sex with your wife so many times a week for so many years. I'm thinking sometimes we were at 4x a week when we were younger, or 3x. And I'm just thinking intercourse. Once we'd popped the cork on our sex life when I was younger, I don't think it would have been difficult to have been rationed down to less than one 'release' a day. Having it available might also increase desire, because it does feel good, both physically, and emotionally. It seems like the physical pleasure aspect actually decreases bit by bit over time, but not the emotional side of it.

Yeah, its slow, no question about it, but I post quite easily. You seem very intelligent and well put together, unlike others. You're what, middle aged? 50 something.? 50 and older is way more down to earth.

Did you read the other part of my reply? Where do all these hang ups come from? Why don't I seem to have this drive that my peers have? It's unusual. Find me a 38 yr old with a handful of lays and I'll show you a loser. Do most others just have this innate motor? How can I think more effectively? What thoughts hinder my actions in this regard?

[MrMan]

@Rygar1 If I try to do anything in this forum, I get spinning circles and slow load time, so if you want to look up my post, you can search for my handle and something like, "I had sex over 1,000 times."

As long as my wife and I have been married, and 2x a week, we'd be at over 2,000 times. It's probably past that by now. It adds up if you have sex with your wife so many times a week for so many years. I'm thinking sometimes we were at 4x a week when we were younger, or 3x. And I'm just thinking intercourse. Once we'd popped the cork on our sex life when I was younger, I don't think it would have been difficult to have been rationed down to less than one 'release' a day. Having it available might also increase desire, because it does feel good, both physically, and emotionally. It seems like the physical pleasure aspect actually decreases bit by bit over time, but not the emotional side of it.

Yeah, its slow, no question about it, but I post quite easily. You seem very intelligent and well put together, unlike others. You're what, middle aged? 50 something.? 50 and older is way more down to earth.

Did you read the other part of my reply? Where do all these hang ups come from? Why don't I seem to have this drive that my peers have? It's unusual. Find me a 38 yr old with a handful of lays and I'll show you a loser. Do most others just have this innate motor? How can I think more effectively? What thoughts hinder my actions in this regard?

I don't believe you should have any sex outside of marriage. If you had a wife, and the sex was there and available, you might be able to get it easier. I don't know if that would give you more of a sex drive. Maybe your wife would have one and she could chase you for it.

[MrMan]

@Rygar1 If I try to do anything in this forum, I get spinning circles and slow load time, so if you want to look up my post, you can search for my handle and something like, "I had sex over 1,000 times."

As long as my wife and I have been married, and 2x a week, we'd be at over 2,000 times. It's probably past that by now. It adds up if you have sex with your wife so many times a week for so many years. I'm thinking sometimes we were at 4x a week when we were younger, or 3x. And I'm just thinking intercourse. Once we'd popped the cork on our sex life when I was younger, I don't think it would have been difficult to have been rationed down to less than one 'release' a day. Having it available might also increase desire, because it does feel good, both physically, and emotionally. It seems like the physical pleasure aspect actually decreases bit by bit over time, but not the emotional side of it.

Yeah, its slow, no question about it, but I post quite easily. You seem very intelligent and well put together, unlike others. You're what, middle aged? 50 something.? 50 and older is way more down to earth.

Did you read the other part of my reply? Where do all these hang ups come from? Why don't I seem to have this drive that my peers have? It's unusual. Find me a 38 yr old with a handful of lays and I'll show you a loser. Do most others just have this innate motor? How can I think more effectively? What thoughts hinder my actions in this regard?

I don't believe you should have any sex outside of marriage. If you had a wife, and the sex was there and available, you might be able to get it easier. I don't know if that would give you more of a sex drive. Maybe your wife would have one and she could chase you for it, grope you, hit you up for sex, and you could say, "You just want me for my body" and all that kind of stuff.

[Rygar1]

@Rygar1 If I try to do anything in this forum, I get spinning circles and slow load time, so if you want to look up my post, you can search for my handle and something like, "I had sex over 1,000 times."

As long as my wife and I have been married, and 2x a week, we'd be at over 2,000 times. It's probably past that by now. It adds up if you have sex with your wife so many times a week for so many years. I'm thinking sometimes we were at 4x a week when we were younger, or 3x. And I'm just thinking intercourse. Once we'd popped the cork on our sex life when I was younger, I don't think it would have been difficult to have been rationed down to less than one 'release' a day. Having it available might also increase desire, because it does feel good, both physically, and emotionally. It seems like the physical pleasure aspect actually decreases bit by bit over time, but not the emotional side of it.

Yeah, its slow, no question about it, but I post quite easily. You seem very intelligent and well put together, unlike others. You're what, middle aged? 50 something.? 50 and older is way more down to earth.

Did you read the other part of my reply? Where do all these hang ups come from? Why don't I seem to have this drive that my peers have? It's unusual. Find me a 38 yr old with a handful of lays and I'll show you a loser. Do most others just have this innate motor? How can I think more effectively? What thoughts hinder my actions in this regard?

I don't believe you should have any sex outside of marriage. If you had a wife, and the sex was there and available, you might be able to get it easier. I don't know if that would give you more of a sex drive. Maybe your wife would have one and she could chase you for it, grope you, hit you up for sex, and you could say, "You just want me for my body" and all that kind of stuff.

If you include oral, then yes, I have, there's no going back. What about kissing? Is that sex? Lol. I def want it, but just have a hard time with the action steps. I get overwhelmed with cognitive loads. Like, there a lot of in between steps of not having a wife to if you had a wife. Where does this elusive drive come from? Why do I not seem to have it? I mean, I want it in my head, but can't get in reality.how do I bridge the enormous gap between wanting something in my mind, and experiencing it in reality? I just can't seem to consistently find the drive to that. There must be a way.

[Voyager1]

2000 incidents of sex is pretty standard for people in long term relationships. That's like daily sex for 6 years. I lived with a woman for 4 years in the early 1990's and had sex at least 1000 times just with her. Then maybe another 1000 times with various girlfriends and whores over the next 20 years. Then recently 180 meetings with that girl in Ukraine over the course of 6 summers (i know the exact number because i was paying per meeting and kept track of money spent), and most of those meetings involved two rounds of sex. So I'm easily over 2000, even though I've been alone most of my life. 2000 or 1000 different women is unusual, on the other hand. But there are men/women who go to nightclubs every night and pick up a new sex partner most nights for a one night stand. So they get to 2000 different sex partners after like 10 years of this lifestyle.

A few years ago, while in Kyiv, Ukraine I encountered some British Pensioners living in Kyiv. They were on British Pension. They were living the high life - going to restaurants, dating Ukrainian women and having sex. They were in their 60s on British Pension. No need to hire prostitutes though you can do that if you want that. It's easy enough to date women in Kyiv though you do have to go to some expense such as taking them to restaurants, pay their taxi, small shopping.

[Rygar1]

Thinking about people having sex that often makes me physically unwell. Are these attractive women?

[MrMan]

Thinking about people having sex that often makes me physically unwell. Are these attractive women?

Well, it feels good to me. Do you think you might have a health issue? It doesn't make me feel sick. When I was younger, I had a strong biological urge, desire, and some 'pressure' down below that was rather demanding, and my wife was a bit more energetic. Now that I'm older, night after night sounds fun, and if my wife were really eager, I could go for that, but it isn't like I absolutely have to. So I might make a move every other night or so. With health issues, there might be something that gets in the way. We don't do periods. She's peri-menopausal, I guess. I'm in my 50's, so I'm not always ready to go just from thinking about it or seeing her walk out of the shower. That can happen. She may have to kiss me first. It's not like it's something that saps a lot of physical energy, even a long session.
It's lighter exercise than jogging. There can just some momentary sleepiness at the end... sometimes... that can be overcome if one needs to keep up some physical activity, or one can sleep.

In a marriage context where the activity is infused with affection and love, it can feel very emotionally energizing also. Also, after being with my wife for a while, we kind of knew the drill. We are comfortable with each other. It's not like some activity full of nervousness that is emotionally draining. It took a couple of weeks for us both to get into the rhythm of what we would do where she would finish (over and over) and all that sort of stuff. As a man ages, sensations may decline and he may take too long, and she's a bit more fragile in some ways, so new challenges may arise.

I'm sure there are a lot of women your age or younger who would be fine with a husband just wanting once or twice a week out there.

[Voyager1]

Rygar1 I wouldn't get fixated so much on having sex with an actually person. Our former member @Tsar never had sex, yet he jerked to images on his screen. @yick jerks off to images on his computer screen.

Yes, Eastern European women are very attractive and typically more slender than their western counterparts.

Don't be in a hurry to get "laid" as Tsar was, but take your time to find someone you can find companionship with. Sex will naturally come with time

[Rygar1]

Thinking about people having sex that often makes me physically unwell. Are these attractive women?

Well, it feels good to me. Do you think you might have a health issue? It doesn't make me feel sick. When I was younger, I had a strong biological urge, desire, and some 'pressure' down below that was rather demanding, and my wife was a bit more energetic. Now that I'm older, night after night sounds fun, and if my wife were really eager, I could go for that, but it isn't like I absolutely have to. So I might make a move every other night or so. With health issues, there might be something that gets in the way. We don't do periods. She's peri-menopausal, I guess. I'm in my 50's, so I'm not always ready to go just from thinking about it or seeing her walk out of the shower. That can happen. She may have to kiss me first. It's not like it's something that saps a lot of physical energy, even a long session.
It's lighter exercise than jogging. There can just some momentary sleepiness at the end... sometimes... that can be overcome if one needs to keep up some physical activity, or one can sleep.

In a marriage context where the activity is infused with affection and love, it can feel very emotionally energizing also. Also, after being with my wife for a while, we kind of knew the drill. We are comfortable with each other. It's not like some activity full of nervousness that is emotionally draining. It took a couple of weeks for us both to get into the rhythm of what we would do where she would finish (over and over) and all that sort of stuff. As a man ages, sensations may decline and he may take too long, and she's a bit more fragile in some ways, so new challenges may arise.

I'm sure there are a lot of women your age or younger who would be fine with a husband just wanting once or twice a week out there.

Funny you mention the health thing. When I was halfway through my senior year in high school, I was beset by some pretty bad low back pain. Certainly not uncommon, but this was like nerve related I think, it wasn't dull, but burny and tingly. Man, it sucked. So that may be a factor. My body probably underwent some unfavorable changes during that time. But these issues were going on before hand. I think they're mostly psychological rather than physiological, although there is probably some overlap. Again, even at my age, I just....have no 'motor' the way my peers do. I just don't. Why do I seem to have one for other things, but not this? It's unusual. Was it upbringing? Realtionship with parents? Genetic predisposition? All the above?

I've hooked up with 10 girls, some blowies, a little penetration. That's effing it. It's pitiful for someone my age. How do I change ? Am I just a lazy person ?

Having had sex 2000 times is hard to imagine. I mean you can't see an enormous difference between the two? 2000 vs 10? Do you think that most average, everyday people have had that much? Parents?grandparents?

At this point, I often wonder if it would just be more beneficial to just not care about society's standards than to try to change. I mean, why let 'society', however nebulous of a term that is, decide what is orvis not 'normal'.

[yick]

Rygar1 I wouldn't get fixated so much on having sex with an actually person. Our former member @Tsar never had sex, yet he jerked to images on his screen. @yick jerks off to images on his computer screen.

Yes, Eastern European women are very attractive and typically more slender than their western counterparts.

Don't be in a hurry to get "laid" as Tsar was, but take your time to find someone you can find companionship with. Sex will naturally come with time

You became an illegal immigrant to f**k women desperate for money, surprised you haven't gone back now the country is at war to take advantage of them now all the men are getting killed you sleazy, slimy oily sex pest.

You are two grades lower than some Iraqi asylum seeker in Sweden perving on the blonde girls there.

[Voyager1]

Shut up you whiny little bitch. You incelibate freak