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abcdavid01 wrote:I'd add that even if you don't produce much, make it a point to learn. In my time off from college I didn't produce much, but I did read a whole lot, fiction and non-fiction. All that reading influenced the way I look at the world now. I needed it because my parents gave me no direction in life. I tried to be a dutiful son and look at my father for inspiration, but ultimately he's just a hedonist. I spent far too long doing that, but once I began intensive studying I really shaped my personality. Even being on HA helped, so I think it'd be horrible if Cornfed were banned or people weren't sympathetic to Tsar. So even if you don't physically produce, sharpen the mind. Eventually you read enough of a subject that it has diminishing returns and that's when you know you've learned enough about it and it's time to move on.

But the idea of sprinting reminds me of something I read during those days of learning. My favorite author is Haruki Murakami, though I admit some of his works can be repetitive. A few years ago he wrote a semi-autobiography called What I Talk About When I Talk About Running. He explained that he runs marathons and every day he'll get up really early to practice running before stopping at home to write his novels. So that kind of creative energy is holistic. Your whole life has to change.
That's an incredible dash of optimism and resolve from you, David. Congratulations! With a little tongue in cheek, I just don't know if your fresh mind stems from you being away from HA, or you digesting some of its contents offline, on top of your own reflections. :)

Well done. Whether you'll be in Shanghai looking love & fortune, as you say, or completing your degree and starting a career in Singapore, or chilling out where you are, you sound as if the worst is behind you and you're revving up your engine on a good track.

Now everybody's hope is that young members like Tsar could be inspired by your example, or Marcos', as well as the senior expats like Outwest.
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MarcosZeitola wrote:
Tsar wrote:My writing is that of a poet. I assume you dislike poetic writing? Can you please take some time explain what you dislike about my writing?
I do not dislike your writing, it just struck me as unusual. I find it almost Shakespearean in nature, and if you speak like this in conversation it would sound very strange, but kind of awesome IMO. Don't think for one second your writing bothers me, it doesn't. Be as authentic as you wish to be. Just remember that not everybody is as open to this as I am. To a woman it may come across as odd. Few people talk like this in this day and age, so what might help you woo a Victorian era lady from the 1890s, a sixteen year old girl may find weird. No matter how much of a pure and innocent virgin she may be. :wink:
My conversation speak is relatively formal, no slang or rarely any slang, and respectable. Compared to most people my writing can be very poetic or descriptive, but my conversation is like most respectable people of this modern era.
MarcosZeitola wrote:You write well. You say you are a poet. Excellent! Go and write. Write opinion pieces, columns, poems, sonnets and stories. Delve into history, fiction, fantasy, find a genre that suits you and get busy. Start blogging, make a digital journal of your life, a diary of your days. Put into words whatever thought come to mind and start creating things! If you become a writer of some renown, chances are girls will fancy you. And they'd be fans of your work, so the type of well-read and intelligent girl that's probably your ideal partner.
I am in the process of creating a few websites. I've written a collection of poems and sonnets over the past few years. I am saving them to publish my own book of poetry. Now that I'm out of college and don't have any homework I have more time to actually complete some of the novels for which I have written overviews.
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My conversation speak is relatively formal, no slang or rarely any slang, and respectable. Compared to most people my writing can be very poetic or descriptive, but my conversation is like most respectable people of this modern era.
I don't see this should be a problem, unless of course you're dealing with cretins. I think this is more of a blessing than a curse. You never know, some might actually like, to some that could be a refreshing change. I've dealt with working-class morons who have a go at me for sounding too 'posh'.

TBH, I think the typical teenage/youth culture, teen-speak and so forth. I find it pretty naff. One of my pet peeves with UK young people is this accent called 'estuary english'. Another thing I can't stand is Americanization of speech. Anyway, that's going off-topic.
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Tsar wrote:I am in the process of creating a few websites. I've written a collection of poems and sonnets over the past few years. I am saving them to publish my own book of poetry. Now that I'm out of college and don't have any homework I have more time to actually complete some of the novels for which I have written overviews.
Your pathetic, get your head out of your ass and get out there. Stop playing around with your blog ideas.
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Tsar wrote:I am in the process of creating a few websites. I've written a collection of poems and sonnets over the past few years. I am saving them to publish my own book of poetry. Now that I'm out of college and don't have any homework I have more time to actually complete some of the novels for which I have written overviews.
Fine, but do you speak any foreign languages? Imagine that you are in Russia and you take the girl of your dreams out to a restaurant and you can't even order for yourself and you have to rely on her to translate the whole time! For the first month, that might be okay, but after a while, it will get quite embarrassing. Don't be like the typical ignorant American, and start learning the language you think you will have the most use for! You need to make it part of your daily routine like brushing your teeth.
Tsar wrote:If a person is too nice they get walked upon. If a person becomes too attached then they will be very hurt if they lost that person. Almost relationship in life is about power. Game of Thrones highlights that perfectly.
Stop this endless philosophizing in English and start taking small steps in a new direction!
Download some Game of Thrones episodes in Russian with English subtitles NOW!
eurobrat wrote:Going to Russia won't help this kid. He obviously has issues that being "happier abroad" will not fix.
Maybe, maybe not, but what is certain in that continuing his routine of staying in his home country and posting on HA all the time about the same stuff is guaranteed to do nothing for him. Any sort of change could potentially help him.

And learning Russian does not limit one to Russia. There are many countries, such as Kazakhstan, Latvia, etc. where there are lots of Russian speakers. And going to these countries might toughen him up and help him mature if he gets to hang out with some of the local men who are manly, tough dudes in way which you will never find in the US.
MarcosZeitola wrote: He's not a bad guy and I genuinely wish him well. But he has some deep-seated issues to fix, some demons of his own to battle. And he has to face these challenges and obstacles and strive towards overcoming them, if he ever wants to get ahead in life. He already wasted six years of his adult life from what I gather.
Well, shit, most of us have some "deep-seated issues" here! lol In fact, if a guy is just perfectly awesome, I am not sure why he would post here or waste time posting much on the internet in general for that matter.
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Jackal wrote:Maybe, maybe not, but what is certain in that continuing his routine of staying in his home country and posting on HA all the time about the same stuff is guaranteed to do nothing for him. Any sort of change could potentially help him.

And learning Russian does not limit one to Russia. There are many countries, such as Kazakhstan, Latvia, etc. where there are lots of Russian speakers. And going to these countries might toughen him up and help him mature if he gets to hang out with some of the local men who are manly, tough dudes in way which you will never find in the US
LOL!
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Jackal wrote:And learning Russian does not limit one to Russia. There are many countries, such as Kazakhstan, Latvia, etc. where there are lots of Russian speakers. And going to these countries might toughen him up and help him mature if he gets to hang out with some of the local men who are manly, tough dudes in way which you will never find in the US.
MarcosZeitola wrote: He's not a bad guy and I genuinely wish him well. But he has some deep-seated issues to fix, some demons of his own to battle. And he has to face these challenges and obstacles and strive towards overcoming them, if he ever wants to get ahead in life. He already wasted six years of his adult life from what I gather.
Well, shit, most of us have some "deep-seated issues" here! lol In fact, if a guy is just perfectly awesome, I am not sure why he would post here or waste time posting much on the internet in general for that matter.
I think in summary, don't be a subject of a Roy Orbison song ...



I can't believe I'm quoting one of my dad's songs :roll:

But Orbison's dour mood (mixed with intense shyness in his real life) is only one step away from suicide. Luckily, he was successful & none of that happened :)
Many years ago, the Best Picture of 1999, "American Beauty", telegraphed the message of Happier Abroad to the world.

Beware of long term engagements with AWs, you may find yourself in a coffin.

AB discussion thread

BTW, despite settling down with an AW, myself, the warning is still in effect.
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Since you're attracted to fantasy, Tsar, here is a Russian folk metal video for you! :D

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Jackal wrote:Since you're attracted to fantasy, Tsar, here is a Russian folk metal video for you! :D

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TZT2RRGBy2M
For me, it feels like Satriani's Extremist has found a home in a medieval Russian novel/movie.

Many years ago, the Best Picture of 1999, "American Beauty", telegraphed the message of Happier Abroad to the world.

Beware of long term engagements with AWs, you may find yourself in a coffin.

AB discussion thread

BTW, despite settling down with an AW, myself, the warning is still in effect.
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eurobrat wrote:
Tsar wrote:I am in the process of creating a few websites. I've written a collection of poems and sonnets over the past few years. I am saving them to publish my own book of poetry. Now that I'm out of college and don't have any homework I have more time to actually complete some of the novels for which I have written overviews.
Your pathetic, get your head out of your a** and get out there. Stop playing around with your blog ideas.
Almost all you've done throughout this thread is post antagonistic comments and personal attacks against me.
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Cornfed wrote:
eurobrat wrote:Why do you assume it's luck and not hard work? Or maybe 90% hard work and 10% luck?
Dude, I know plenty of people who piss away more hard work in the morning than you could contemplate who are unemployed. Whole regions such as in the Appalachia have gone from proud, independent mountain men to crackheads on welfare in less than a decade. And you, who are handed a career and are so lucky, choose to insult them. So you worked hard. You probably didn't really, but don't you get it? - we all work hard. We are all driven. We all strive to do whatever. You are nothing special. The system could have chosen someone else for your job and could choose someone else tomorrow. You are lucky, yet instead of acknowledging your luck you would rather delusional aggrandize yourself at others’ expense. You are a really horrible person.
My advice to you Cronfed and everyone else is to Work your ass off and find a good job. You cannot be jealous of everyone who has a better job than you.

Fayetteville-Springdale-Rogers, Arkansas has one of the lowest unemployment rates in America. You have to be willing to work harder than others and not make excuses. You may even have to move.

Luck is a part of it, but is not the whole thing.

As for Appalachia, it always had problems with Moonshine, drugs and poverty. Now the problems seem to be getting worse.
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Jonny Law wrote:My advice to you Cronfed and everyone else is to Work your a** off and find a good job.
Collectively taking such advice will be disastrous, since there are only a certain shrinking number of good jobs available and they are largely given out to rich tossers, females, dysgenics and other maggots that the elite don't feel threatened by, or in any case for reasons beyond the applicants' control. It would make much more sense to be looking for alternatives to the corporate puppy mill, such as being happier abroad.
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Jonny Law wrote:
Cornfed wrote:
eurobrat wrote:Why do you assume it's luck and not hard work? Or maybe 90% hard work and 10% luck?
Dude, I know plenty of people who piss away more hard work in the morning than you could contemplate who are unemployed. Whole regions such as in the Appalachia have gone from proud, independent mountain men to crackheads on welfare in less than a decade. And you, who are handed a career and are so lucky, choose to insult them. So you worked hard. You probably didn't really, but don't you get it? - we all work hard. We are all driven. We all strive to do whatever. You are nothing special. The system could have chosen someone else for your job and could choose someone else tomorrow. You are lucky, yet instead of acknowledging your luck you would rather delusional aggrandize yourself at others’ expense. You are a really horrible person.
My advice to you Cronfed and everyone else is to Work your a** off and find a good job. You cannot be jealous of everyone who has a better job than you.
[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OLlrn3_G1ZQ#t=573[/youtube]
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Jackal wrote:Since you're attracted to fantasy, Tsar, here is a Russian folk metal video for you! :D

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TZT2RRGBy2M
I enjoyed the music video. Folk music and folk metal are two of my favorites.

Here are two songs off my youtube playlist.

Folk


Folk Rock?
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Tsar wrote: I enjoyed the music video. Folk music and folk metal are two of my favorites.

Here are two songs off my youtube playlist.

Folk
For those who don't know, Blackmore's Night is a duo of former Deep Purple's virtuoso guitarist, Ritchie Blackmore, and Candice Knight, the folk vocalist.

When Ritchie had officially retired from Deep Purple, Joe Satriani had filled in for him and was deemed a worth successor. Soon afterwards, Satriani left to become a solo instrumentalist, as he didn't want to be confined into the role of simply being a stand-on for Blackmore.
Many years ago, the Best Picture of 1999, "American Beauty", telegraphed the message of Happier Abroad to the world.

Beware of long term engagements with AWs, you may find yourself in a coffin.

AB discussion thread

BTW, despite settling down with an AW, myself, the warning is still in effect.
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