Miss Single-Mother-In-Nebraska's Response To My Email

[The_Hero_of_Men]

I finally got a response from her just today. I am posting this here, even though, I have not technically read it yet. You can say that I am kind of chicken shit for not reading it (and I freely admit to being a weenie) because I am expecting the mother of all ball-bustings (no pun intended) from her...


Here is the response I received.


I just checked my email sorry you feel that way but I had already told you my kids come first no matter what. As for games I'm not playing a game with you. DO NOT ever think you are more important than my kids. That's what made me stop talking to you, you always wanted it to be about you well guess what its not. It's no skin off my back if you don't wanna chat but I never played you trust me if I did there would have been more than one man while i was talking to you


She made it seem like I was the bad guy, but then again, oh well. Like someone said on here, I dodged a bullet. I never said I was more important than her kids (read the email that I sent to her that is on this forum), I just said that if I meant so much to her, then she would make a greater effort to make some time for me. That's all. Never mind that I spent almost a full year on here, even though she vanished on me a few times. You can say that I finally ran out of patience with her...

[keius]

Well, i think in her response, she definitively stated that you didn't mean that much to her, which is why she didn't make the greater effort. Her effort is/was directed at her kids. Honestly, women with kids, that's pretty much expected. You are and will always be third fiddle. I actually like her response. It was honest. And there was no hate/cussing/ranting/etc.

Which is why everyone here always says to never get into a serious relationship with a woman with kid/s. Not unless you want your life to revolve around her kids as well.....

[The_Hero_of_Men]

Well, i think in her response, she definitively stated that you didn't mean that much to her, which is why she didn't make the greater effort. Her effort is/was directed at her kids. Honestly, women with kids, that's pretty much expected. You are and will always be third fiddle. I actually like her response. It was honest. And there was no hate/cussing/ranting/etc.

Which is why everyone here always says to never get into a serious relationship with a woman with kid/s. Not unless you want your life to revolve around her kids as well.....

Thank you for your honesty, but for her to accuse me of only thinking of myself... that was incorrect.

[ErikHeaven]

So do not feel bad. My son's mother and i had 13 years together with her 3 kids. I love them and they still regard me to this day yet i one day woke up and thought "I will always come in last". So i sat her down and we had other major issues as well, and i told her regretfully that we were over.
I will never date another single mother again it just will not happen and i think any man who does maybe just does not know or is just a plain sucker.
Let this be a lesson to you.

[S_Parc]

Hero, let's break this down ...

DO NOT ever think you are more important than ...

Ok, starts with a knee jerk insult/putdown.

you always wanted it to be about you well guess what its not

Hmm ... so in two steps, you puts you down and then, casts you as the perpetrator.

Yep, this is Woman'sView's type of person, bouncing around from one emotional state to another, with the final goal of shaming men into thinking that it's their fault.

[The_Hero_of_Men]

So do not feel bad. My son's mother and i had 13 years together with her 3 kids. I love them and they still regard me to this day yet i one day woke up and thought "I will always come in last". So i sat her down and we had other major issues as well, and i told her regretfully that we were over.
I will never date another single mother again it just will not happen and i think any man who does maybe just does not know or is just a plain sucker.
Let this be a lesson to you.

Hero, let's break this down ...

DO NOT ever think you are more important than ...

Ok, starts with a knee jerk insult/putdown.

you always wanted it to be about you well guess what its not

Hmm ... so in two steps, you puts you down and then, casts you as the perpetrator.

Yep, this is Woman'sView's type of person, bouncing around from one emotional state to another, with the final goal of shaming men into thinking that it's their fault.

S_Parc, that is so correct. The truth is, I do not buy into what she attempts to do, and to Erik (and you as well S_Parc): Should I email her back and try my best to debunk her theories or should I just leave well enough alone? I essentially said all that I had to say in my last email to her, which is posted here on this site... Part of me wants to attempt to put this woman in her place, but my rational mind is telling me that to try would be totally useless and serve no purpose except to maybe get my balls busted by her. After all, I could go into the fact that she had 3 children with a total A-hole (her ex-husband; she told me so herself) and that I refused to pay for her mistakes, but that would have been considered a low blow, and I believe in fighting fair (most of the time, anyway).

[well-informed]

Noo noo noo noo don't write back to her Hero. There's no point in fighting back, you've already removed yourself from the situation.

[The_Hero_of_Men]

Well, i think in her response, she definitively stated that you didn't mean that much to her, which is why she didn't make the greater effort. Her effort is/was directed at her kids. Honestly, women with kids, that's pretty much expected. You are and will always be third fiddle. I actually like her response. It was honest. And there was no hate/cussing/ranting/etc.

Which is why everyone here always says to never get into a serious relationship with a woman with kid/s. Not unless you want your life to revolve around her kids as well.....

Also, that is why I said in my letter to her before this,

"If I really meant as much to you as you say I do, then you would make more of a REASONABLE effort..."


This means that I was not asking her to move mountains for me or fight platoons of U.S. Marines/Navy SEALs.

It's like the old saying goes: "Where there's a will, there's a way".

[The_Hero_of_Men]

Noo noo noo noo don't write back to her Hero. There's no point in fighting back, you've already removed yourself from the situation.

My rational mind is telling me the EXACT same thing!

[well-informed]

Hero for the LOVE OF SONIC. Don't do it

You've dodged a bullet bro, don't give her another chance to shoot you. Don't get your emotions tied into this. I'm saying this because you never know what could happen with these type of women

[The_Hero_of_Men]

Hero for the LOVE OF SONIC. Don't do it

You've dodged a bullet bro, don't give her another chance to shoot you. Don't get your emotions tied into this. I'm saying this because you never know what could happen with these type of women

What emotions?

What do you mean by "for the LOVE OF SONIC"?

[well-informed]

Ooh i was trying to be sarcastic and funny with the Sonic reference (it would have sounded better in person)

As far as emotions, im just trying to use a word to help further my argument on why you shouldn't write back to her.

I wasn't being offensive/mean or anything, i was just trying to help

[The_Hero_of_Men]

Ooh i was trying to be sarcastic and funny with the Sonic reference (it would have sounded better in person)

As far as emotions, im just trying to use a word to help further my argument on why you shouldn't write back to her.

I wasn't being offensive/mean or anything, i was just trying to help

I know you weren't trying to be rude. I just did not get what you were saying

[ErikHeaven]

Might call the cops on you and they might arrest you for harrassing her so just leave it alone my young apprentice. These women are mentally unstable so just for now on act like they do not exist.

[ErikHeaven]

I am Darth Vader to these bitches and you should be Darth Maul. f**k these stupid tricks and just flee man. Nothing more. Grow strong in the Darkside.