nicho12 wrote:bennandsarah wrote:
last nite a friend of mine stayed over -- she's from upper Michigan. average + looks. she readily admitted that only 5% of men are good enough for most women to date. it all boils down to if a man is 'hot' or not. and she says that's only 5% of men. she also said that most women today are NOT interested in male attention -- they want to be the ones in the drivers seat. nice.

I don't believe that a man's looks matter very much to women, maybe when they're in their teens to early 20's because of too much MTV programming, what matter most to a woman is if the man will be able to provide to her and children with food and shelter at-least that's the way it used to be in the old days. Do you really think that your looks will feed her or her children when she's hungry. But you know, currently we live in a very artificial society that rewards women for their bad behavior, but when this house cards comes tumbling down, you will see how their attitudes towards men will change instantly like a weather cock, because they'll understand that big brother won't be there to protect and provide for them anymore and if they want to eat and be able to live, the they better obey the man's rules
Looks are indicative of the genes you will pass on to her children. Women have always cared about them for this very reason. After she loses her opportunity to breed with some prime, attractive males, she will settle for passing on her genes with whatever comes along that can support her and her kids. In a post-collapse society, women will likely resort to doing it the way they used to, which is shacking up with a stable, strong man, and sleeping with an attractive man on the side. Women are, after all, attracted to two different types of men depending on where they are in their cycle- a provider when she isn't fertile, and a man with ideal masculine features when she is fertile. By sleeping with the attractive guy on the side when she is fertile, she ensures her genes have the best chance of being further propagated.
Read The Red Queen, great book on female sexual selection from an evolutionary perspective. It essentially sets out to explain why only 20% of men have passed on their genes, while 80% of women have managed to do so.