newlifeinphilippines wrote:The thing is is there a way for a guy to become more appreciative for ugly women? Like is there some kind of experience or way for a guy to start overlooking the looks part as much? I just have a hard time doing it. my current gf is a 6 and really hard for me to get turned on to her. Wheras if she was above a 6.5 like my barhoe or other girls id be super turned on. its likea switch. But it seems like these old guys are just happy with even the ladyboy looking women in yellow..
Personally, I think you shouldn't be with someone you aren't attracted to. If you were one of these old guys who is okay with a plain looking girl in yellow because you are attracted to her, then that's fine. If personality attracts you, fine. But if you are going to pick a girl out, spent time with her, and marry her, there should be something about her that is attractive to you, IMO, for her sake, too.
I'm in my early 40's and my wife is in her late 30's and hasn't hit the big 4-0 yet. In spite of having several children, she's still reasonably thin. She doesn't look quite like she did in her 20's before the kids, but still looks good. Her face is still beautiful.
But I've thought about it. Even though some Asian women keep their looks a long time, most of us eventually start looking old. I haven't seen any old women who look attractive without surgery, and then they usually look a little strange, too from the surgery, and not attractive compared to younger women.
My grandmother told me when I was young to be careful about marrying an Asian women. She said they are like American Indians. They look pretty when they are young, but she'd never seen a pretty old Asian women. Well, I think it takes Asian women a lot longer than most whites to start looking like that. But I thought, but didn't say to my grandmother, that it didn't matter. I'd never seen an old white woman I was attracted to, either. But she was an old white woman, so I didn't say it.
Eventually, those of us who marry knock-outs are married to old women. Skin sags. The face and neck may get kind of big, especially if the woman puts on a few pounds. (My wife keeps the weight off off with diareah tea and skipping meals). We eventually deteriorate, too.
I remember in my 20's seeing an older couple, the woman with her arms hanging down, and thinking how can that man have sex with his wife? I'd read old people have sex. That's a good thing because I'd be old, too some day. The down side is having to have sex with an old woman.
But it's like the frog in boiling water. Drop a frog in boiling water, and it will try to avoid it. Put a frog in luke warm water on the stove and slowly boil it, and it will stay until it dies. (So they say. I've never tried it.) We married men sleep with our wives and eventually, we wake up one day after having had sex with a flabby, maybe fat, wrinkly woman. It hasn't happened to me yet, but if we both live long enough in this life and are healthy, that will be us some day.
Now I can understand a man whose wife flabbed or wrinkled up over time, and then died. He's used to sleeping with a saggy, wrinkly, maybe flabby white woman who was once hot.
He goes to the Philippines and a young, slightly chunky, rather plain woman is interested in him. He's used to wrinkly, old, not hot any more. The young woman has young skin, the energy of youth. She's sweet and compliant, not bossy like his late wife.
What I don't get is the men who didn't marry or having long-term live-in girlfriends being okay with dating a 3 or 4 in the Philippines. They didn't ease into sleeping with an older woman over the years. Maybe it's just a matter of their standards for attractiveness going down over time.
It could also be that as we age and interact with women, looks take a back seat to positive personality traits. If a man marries a beautiful American feminist slut with a bit of attitude and a bit of crazy, a really sweet, submissive, feminine (as opposed to feminist) faithful girl may seem super attractive to him after the traumatic experience with the feminist.