Regarding best places to find foreign women in the U.S. post

[MJay1978]

I couldn't help to notice this comment being made by Bane regarding a post questioning which states are the best to find a foreign woman if you're stuck here. To be honest, I think I'm going to go this route. As far as Bane's comments on Michigan, I couldn't agree with him more. This state alone is terrible for women! Not exactly sure how the foreign women are here, but I encountered a Mexican and an African woman, which both at the time I was dating them were pretty hot looking. However, both turned out to be cold and shady. Unfortunately I'm going to be honest with everyone. I really don't see myself leaving the U.S. For one, I'm stuck at a dead end job. Secondly, I've been paying close attention to other countries, including South American, which I see more of these countries out of the U.S. are becoming more dangerous now. Lastly, I have a daughter and family here I cannot leave behind. I'm pretty much stuck here. So are there any other states that are good to find foreign girls? Two close foreign friends of mine told me NYC is one of the best places to meet foreign girls. But is this the only state that is good to meet them just to say "IF" you have to end up staying here? I would really like to know since the facts are I cannot leave here. ....Or if you have any other recommendations to meet foreign women without leaving the United States, I would like to know that also.

Just so everyone knows, this is a serious post. ...As far as the Venezuelan girl I was connected with, I broke up with her for good reasons, which I would rather not disclose the reasons. All I can say is the connection turned into a bad situation, which I had to disconnect myself from her and leave regarding the forms of activity she was conducting online. I don't intend to get back with her and I'm ready to move on. The reason I pasted what Bane said is because I like the information he put out there and I agree with him totally as far as his opinions on my own home state. Michigan is good for the beaches and the lakes, including the beautiful scenery in the upper peninsula. Not so good for the women though.

You know, as much as I disliked it when I lived there, I wold honestly have to say NYC is probably the best place in the US, but that is not saying much. The only real benefit to it is, being a HUGE city, it has quite a wide selection. If things don't work out with one girl, you can easily move on to the next without really having to deal with or even see the old girl again. There are lots of foreign visitors here too, so you can meet some nice foreign women without having to leave the US. There are also more single women than singe men (in Manhattan, not the outer boroughs) which completely bucks the trend of most American cities that tend to be straight up sausage fests. Particularly in Manhattan (and surprisingly Queens to a lesser extent), there are some very nice looking women physically, but the b*!ch shields are comparable to the defense systems on the Death Star, so you will have to bring your A game and not slip up once even for a nanosecond if you're even going to get as much as her Facebook add.

I've also lived in FL, VT, and MI. These places suck horribly. Florida (Orlando) has some nice personalities, but they tend to be overweight to obese, so unless that's your thing, don't head there. I've never been to Miami though, and I've heard that's better. In Orlando, you may find one attractive girl for every 10,000 unattractive ones. Michigan as an entire state is by far the most depressing place I have ever been to on this Earth, and the people look like overweight, depressed, directionless zombies just going through the motions of life. VT is boring as hell, filled with old retirees and small towns filled with people with the typical small town attitude. They don't take kindly to outsiders coming in. It also sucks if you don't enjoy skiing and having to stay inside during the long winters. So basically, yeah, NYC is your best bet for the US. You may also want to try Miami, San Diego, Austin and Boston. Avoid DC, Philadelphia, Pittsburgh, and anywhere in Ohio like the plague. I've never been to these places, but what I hear from others is pretty consistent.

[Lorenzo]

I have lived and traveled throughout the US and abroad. The question cannot be answered as asked. It is all depending on your age and what you are looking for.

My picks are as follows:

- If you are over 40 then finding a divorced lady is your most likely reality. Cities with hot divorced women include San Diego, Orange County, Austin, Scottsdale, Raleigh-Durham, NC, and Miami. These are places for attractive, well maintained women with high standards if you can play the game.

- If you under 40 and looking for a younger lady who has never married, then more conservative areas are best for a good wife: Dallas-Fort Worth, Austin, St. Louis, Kansas City

- If you want an Asian lady, Las Vegas and San Jose/South Bay.

- If you want a hot Latina, then Miami.

You see how complicated it gets? You have to match the city to the the demographics of the women you want.

[MJay1978]

I have lived and traveled throughout the US and abroad. The question cannot be answered as asked. It is all depending on your age and what you are looking for.

My picks are as follows:

- If you are over 40 then finding a divorced lady is your most likely reality. Cities with hot divorced women include San Diego, Orange County, Austin, Scottsdale, Raleigh-Durham, NC, and Miami. These are places for attractive, well maintained women with high standards if you can play the game.

- If you under 40 and looking for a younger lady who has never married, then more conservative areas are best for a good wife: Dallas-Fort Worth, Austin, St. Louis, Kansas City

- If you want an Asian lady, Las Vegas and San Jose/South Bay.

- If you want a hot Latina, then Miami.

You see how complicated it gets? You have to match the city to the the demographics of the women you want.

Thank you for your response Lorenzo. I really hate the fact that I have to date here again, but I still want to go the foreign route. Countries that are dangerous are not my cup of tea since I'm an introvert. I know Miami has a lot of Latinas, which the Latina route is what I'm thinking. Not only they are the most exotic women in the world, they also know how to please her man. ...I mean really knows how to please him! I'm also very attracted to Latinas. A female with a dark complexion and long dark hair is the kind of foreign females I'm attracted to the most. To answer your questions I'm 36 years old going on 37 years in September as of this year. A lady who is divorced and/or has kids is out of the question. I know a little bit of Spanish now when I was talking to my ex, which I cut her off completely on the 1st of August of this year. I had to do it for very good reasons. Are there any other states closer to where I can meet Latinas? I know there are all different kinds of foreign women who go to New York, mainly Russian women. But I'm not sure if Latinas go there too, but I doubt it. I know there are Native American women here in my state. In general however, Michigan is not a good place to date at all. So as far as "playing the game", I strongly refuse to do it. Not my cup of tea at all. I feel greatly discouraged after the outcome of this Venezuela female I suddenly crossed paths with and wasted my time and money on for 4 months.

[Lorenzo]

I really hate the fact that I have to date here again, but I still want to go the foreign route. Countries that are dangerous are not my cup of tea since I'm an introvert.

I cannot emphasize enough, don't waste your precious time and money trying to date in the US. Maybe you will be successful but the odds aren't great. I am a huge fan of South East Asia (SEA). There are tons of hot petite ladies that would love to be your dedicated wife and will be the closest you can get to a dream girl. Thailand, Philippines maybe Indonesia. Even if you are not all that attracted to them, you will be after chatting, they will win your heart and look more lovely by the day. Many filipinas look like hot Latinas.

Forget what people and family around you think, save your money, be wise and thorough searching SEA and you will have more girls than you can handle - no BS. I was 50 and it was very easy...an experience that was life changing. I ultimately found my Asian lady living 5 min away from me in San Diego, but the experiences in SEA gave me renewed confidence and knowledge about Asian women. That opened new doors to a new life!

If you absolutely must find a Latina, Peru might be your best shot for a good one.

[droid]

This post is in the wrong forum i believe. A little chastising is in order.

Countries that are dangerous are not my cup of tea

So much fear. Have you ever been outside the US?

I have a daughter and family here I cannot leave behind.

Yes you can, they should help you live a little. You're just 37 and might regret not pursuing some life later on. How old is your kid?

From your other thread:

I know it's possible some of you are going to give me shit about this, but I'm confident I can trust her. This Venezuelan woman does not drink alcohol, does not smoke, has very strong Christian beliefs, and has two beautiful daughters which I would like to raise as if they were my own kids

Unfreaking believable, why are so many American guys like this?? Consider yourself lucky

Ok there. Sorry to be harsh.

One more thing, latinas in the US -miami etc- quickly understand there's hordes of thirsty us chumps, driving up their self worth in no time (there are exceptions of course, but they're just that). They also can increase their weight substantially.
You'll have to travel south of the border, no way around it IMHO. And even then, it's becoming tougher by the day since LatAm likes to import a lot of cultural crap.

[MrMan]

New York City sounds like an exciting place for a young person to live, but I kind of associate it with unfriendly people. I understand about being able to meet foreign women, and that could be a big plus. But the idea of a woman with a strong Bronx accent doesn't sound that appealing.

I talked to an Asian guy once. He wasn't Korean, but he was getting along in years and wanted to marry. He asked a Korean pastor if there were any singles in the church and got matched up with a Korean lady and married her. I wouldn't say Korean culture makes the best wives compared to all other cultures, but I'm sure there are plenty of quality Korean brides. It would probably be easier to marry a Korean raised in the US. Koreans from Korea are raised in a very homogenous culture, and it's hard for westerns to figure out their customs, how they think, etc. The boundaries between a family and in-laws are different, and it could all be very stressful. Hopefully, that wouldn't be the case if she were raised in the US.

You'd have to find a Korean girl who was a 'good girl.' Good-looking Korean girls would be hit on in the US like any other good-looking girl. Marrying outside of the Korean race isn't a particularly desirable thing for Koreans. If you are looking at 30+ or 40+ women, though, the parents may agree since the daughter is over the hill, culturally, for marriage. But sometimes you can tell by looking at a girl why no man has married her yet. But I've known a reasonably good-looking Korean woman who didn't get married when she went abroad to study in graduate school. That can eat up years of their life and make it hard for them to marry.

There is a large Filippino community where I live. The singles Filippinas I've seen are typically in their early 20's or younger. They get married off. I used to go to a church where about half the people were Filippino.

For Christians who live in a big city, going to a church that is bi-lingual with the language of whatever ethnicity you are interested in is one possibility. I saw a really short white man at an Indonesian church I visited in Philadelphia once. He was dating this Indonesian women. She wasn't the best-looking woman in the world. But they were talking about getting married. He was probably a bit short for competing in the white bride market. There are Chinese churches, Filippino churches, etc. The Filippino mostly church I went to had services in English and added different language services for Filippinos and other ethnicities. They always had lots of food. The women were really dedicated at cooking, and the food was really good (for Filippino food, which usually gets it's flavor from pork.) The teenage girls (and boys) also seemed polite and respectful to those who are older than them. I think they have some of the same cultural values Filippinos had back home.

Sometimes ethnicities will have some kind of association or club or just have informal meetings. Indonesians will get together around here for independence day and every quarter or so for holidays and other events. One lady who hosts the events invited a white guy who was about 50 who'd dated an Indonesian and wanted to marry one. But he wanted someone close to his age and they were all married off. He also wanted a Christian and not a Muslim. It's hard to find a single not married off past their 20's in these communities. Much of the community is Indonesian wives married to American men.

At one place I lived, I don't think there was an Indonesian club except at a university campus, but there was an Indonesian language church there, and they'd eat something light after services and have a big meal once every month or two, and the women could really cook.

[MJay1978]

So much fear. Have you ever been outside the US?

Honest answer to this question? No. I've never left the U.S. Also with all the shit that is going on in Venezuela right now, would you really want to go there and take that chance? The stakes are too high with all of the corruption that is going on in Venezuela right now. It is way too dangerous.

Yes you can, they should help you live a little. You're just 37 and might regret not pursuing some life later on. How old is your kid?

She is 15 years old. And you're right. By what I'm doing, I'm just trying to find an easier way. However, I know to even just date foreign women here in America is not even easy.

From your other thread:

I know it's possible some of you are going to give me shit about this, but I'm confident I can trust her. This Venezuelan woman does not drink alcohol, does not smoke, has very strong Christian beliefs, and has two beautiful daughters which I would like to raise as if they were my own kids

Unfreaking believable, why are so many American guys like this?? Consider yourself lucky
Ok there. Sorry to be harsh.

It's okay. You're not being harsh. It is the truth. I really did screw up. I lost over $3,000 because of this Venezuelan woman. I should have never trusted her so easily. It's a good thing I did not go on a trip to meet her. So in a way, I did not get so lucky. I f***ed up and lost big time. That is what's really unfreaking believable.

One more thing, latinas in the US -miami etc- quickly understand there's hordes of thirsty us chumps, driving up their self worth in no time (there are exceptions of course, but they're just that). They also can increase their weight substantially.
You'll have to travel south of the border, no way around it IMHO. And even then, it's becoming tougher by the day since LatAm likes to import a lot of cultural crap.[/quote]

If that is the case, then I don't know what I'm going to do. The Venezuelan woman is definitely a no go! She is trouble and I had to drop her like a hot potato. Peru sounds good. So does Curacao. But when I'm going to a country alone, of course my own safety and well being is going to be a concern and it is something I put first on my list. I could try Miami, but I really don't want to try here in America since I know how this route is already going to go. Been there, done that more than enough. I'd rather find a foreign woman outside and bring her back here. I can't leave my homeland. I have friends, family, and my own daughter who need me here. But I cannot stand to be alone and I don't want to live alone for the rest of my life. Other than that, I don't know what else to say. I feel so lost and as far as curbing my loneliness once again, I don't know what to do!

[The_Adventurer]

Mjay, I highly recommend you read the book "How I Found Freedom in an Unfree World".

[Lorenzo]

I think you need a coach and some moral support. Once you get started in the right direction you will figure it out. Just rip the BandAid off and stop thinking you can fill the void from the USA. Meet an awesome lady online, then take your daughter with you on a trip oversees , but don't tell anyone you plan to meet a lady there; inform your daughter on the plane. The prospect will be happy to meet your daughter if she is serious. Daughters love to travel.

Peru, Costa Rica, Thailand, Korea, Japan, and China are all plenty safe if you don't venture into the wrong place at the wrong time...stay in resorts that are highly rated and have the hotel pick you up at the airport. Philippines can be plenty safe if your lady friend meets you at the airport and escorts you around.

I just gave you a million dollars worth of advise Happy hunting!

[Lorenzo]

You'd have to find a Korean girl who was a 'good girl.' Good-looking Korean girls would be hit on in the US like any other good-looking girl. Marrying outside of the Korean race isn't a particularly desirable thing for Koreans. If you are looking at 30+ or 40+ women, though, the parents may agree since the daughter is over the hill, culturally, for marriage.

Look at my Avatar, that is my Korean bride, we married last week I'm 52 and she is 43. They are not as easy or humble as girls from SEA, but more educated and complex and sexy and stay attractive longer. There are a few hot Korean women on the market but most are divorced having had an alcoholic Korean husband or other past issue with them. Koreans can be very prejudice and have high standards. If I didn't meet my Korean wife I would have certainly continued to search in SEA and Thailand had the best prospects.

[Ghost]

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[MJay1978]

I think you need a coach and some moral support. Once you get started in the right direction you will figure it out. Just rip the BandAid off and stop thinking you can fill the void from the USA. Meet an awesome lady online, then take your daughter with you on a trip oversees , but don't tell anyone you plan to meet a lady there; inform your daughter on the plane. The prospect will be happy to meet your daughter if she is serious. Daughters love to travel.

Peru, Costa Rica, Thailand, Korea, Japan, and China are all plenty safe if you don't venture into the wrong place at the wrong time...stay in resorts that are highly rated and have the hotel pick you up at the airport. Philippines can be plenty safe if your lady friend meets you at the airport and escorts you around.

I just gave you a million dollars worth of advise Happy hunting!

Yeah. You're right man. In fact, the majority of you I read your feedbacks from are right. I already know when I say I could possibly find a foreign woman here in the US, even I know I'm just talking out of my ass. You guys know how it really is here. I know how it really is here. But my family does not understand me and do not understand why I want to do this. As for my daughter she cannot come with me. I don't have custody of her. ...You're right though. I don't have someone I can travel with. A coach and moral support is what I really need right now. I keep telling my family I don't want to date here, but they don't listen nor understand why I don't. My own family members keep telling me to keep trying here. ....And honestly, it's pissing me off. But that is not why I backed out on the Venezuelan woman I was connected with. During the 4 months I learned about her, I noticed serious red flags, which set alarms off into my head. I did the right thing to break it off with her.

I'll tell you something. You're a lucky man to have a foreign woman like that. It's the kind of woman I always dreamed of having. You guys already know what I need to do. Hell, even I know what I really need to do. I've already been looking in America on Badoo. It's been about only 5 days since I've been actively looking on there in the U.S. and already I want to quit. I know one thing is for certain. The women in my own country do not make me happy and I don't like more than enough of them at all. Maybe I should just keep looking out of my own homeland and stick with the pen pal deal. By the way, thank you for listing those countries for me. If you know of any other countries that are safe in South America, let me know. I'm not sure what I want to do yet. For now, I need to work on myself first and get my life straightened out

[IraqVet2003]

I think one of the best places to find foreign women in the U.S. would be Honolulu, Hawaii (on the island of Oahu). After all Hawaii is a year-round tourist mecca for people from all world to come to. Especially, Australians, New Zealanders, Canadians, Japanese (which make up nearly over half the tourists), and Europeans (mostly Germans). Also, you will find lots of foreign exchange students attending any of the universities on the island including the University of Hawaii (Moana), Hawaii Pacific University (HPU), or Chaminade University of Honolulu. Then there is also the University of Hawaii (Hilo) but that is located on the Big Island (Hawaii) which I have never been to. You may possibly meet some foreign young ladies working in the tourism industry or on the beach (either on the North Shore or Waikiki Beach) or at on of the shopping malls such as the Ala Moana Shopping Center. It was at this place I have seen some cute Israeli women trying to sell me some Dead Sea mineral cleansing solution, creams, and lotion.

[MrMan]

IraqVet2003, I've spent time in Hawaii. If you hung out in certain places in Waikiki during certain parts of the year or in the mall in neighboring Ala Moana, you could probably meet a lot of foreign women. But these are women there for a short time, usually. If you are looking for a one-off date, that might work. If you want to spend a lot of time together and get married, that might not work as well. It might have some advantages over meeting a woman online for the first time. You could meet her in person first, and then Skpe. So from that perspective, it makes sense.

I heard the number of Chinese tourist to Hawaii were growing. I think most foreign tourists are Japanese, with probably a fair number of Japanese. I saw a whole class of Chinese kids there once at the beach park in Ala Moana. But I don't know how many singles there are. I knew a single mother who used to go from Japan to Hawaii a lot. She was pretty, in her late 20's, but a bit high strung. One guy I know who worked in Hawaii had difficulty finding a wife. He said the women he worked with were overweight, cussed all the time, smoked, and had tattoos. There are lots of Filippinas, but you'd have to get them in their early 20's before they get married. And these are local Filippinas I'm talking about, so they'll be US influence.

There are pretty local women. I've been on the Manoa campus as well. It seems like I remembered more pretty girls in the Southeast in the US. A lot of local people are mixed ethnicity, mixed Asians, Asians mixed with white. Everyone is a minority, and mixed Asian with something else would be the largest ethnic group if you count it that way. People who look Caucasian are the minority. There are few blacks on much of the island of Oahu, when you get away from military facilities.

Hawaii has its own culture(s), but there is a lot of divorce like in the rest of the US. A woman growing up in a divorce-resistant culture is a plus for finding a wife overseas. I don't know about ethnic subcultures, though. The divorce rate could be lower for Filippinas than for the general population, but I don't know how to find that out.

[Lorenzo]

[But my family does not understand me and do not understand why I want to do this.

Mjay, take a couple of weeks and clear your head. You need to have an effective and focused plan to meet women in a foreign country. The chances of meeting one in the US is low and random, time on your life is ticking...tick tock...

I hope you are convinced now to continue dating abroad. It sounds like you are locked into LatAm. I would suggest the following rules to keep you away from problems girls and headed on the right track efficiently:

1. Stay Stealth - NEVER tell your family, friends, ex-wife, work colleagues or employer, or immigration that you are pursuing women in a foreign country. They will not support this endeavor. You will be perceived as either a loser who can't find a girl at home or a creep preying on disadvantaged women in a poor country. It carries a negative stigma, trust me, I've been down this road and I regret telling anyone. Funny thing is, once you are in a serious relationship and announce it, then suddenly there will be acceptance. Deep inside these people are jealous or feel like you have broken the "rule" of the dating game, doing an end run...but scoring of touchdown Come to this forum and others to converse and get advise from men who understand your situation and desires.

2. Find quality women. Have a plan to find quality girls, that means no women with kids, good education, no apparent baggage, not need to ask you for money. To optimize finding quality women you must be on a quality online dating site - period! Try LatinAmericanCupid.com.

3. Build a winning profile. These ladies went online to meet a foreigner not to immigrate, but because they are unhappy about the quality of men available in their country. Be decent, kind, respectful, sincere, charming, and honest. They all want a "nice guy". Get yourself high quality photos. The better the quality of your profile the better the quality of your interested prospects. Put in your profile explicitly that you will terminate communication with any lady who ever asks you for money. You don't need the headache.

4. Focus on one country at a time. I suggest Peru is your best chance in LatAm. Once you have searched those profiles, if you are left empty handed then move on to another country. I hear good things about Peruvian women.

5. Take a "Vacation" to that country. Yes, you will tell everyone you are simply taking a "vacation". If Peru, maybe your going to machu picchu LOL. Have the girl waiting to meet you. She must take off time from work to spend with you if she is serious.

Again all the prior posts about meeting women here or there are in the low probability category. I hope this was helpful?