People competed to party more then everybody else, have more followers on social media then everybody else, have more friends, hang out with their "friends" more frequently, never spending any time alone for fear it would make them look unsocial, they competed to see who could drink the most alcohol, without vomiting, but still occasionally vomiting because going overboard every once in awhile is cool
, they competed to rack up sexual partners, sleep with as many people as they could, both guys and girls.Nothing at all was done authentically. It seemed like nobody was doing anything for their own personal enjoyment. Every single action and behavior was part of this competitive ritual of beating everybody else at "the college experience" which was basically defined as being the drunkest, most social, most extroverted, most promiscuous person on campus.
One of the biggest reasons why I hate hookup culture is because I realized from my college experience that hookup culture provides absolutely zero net positive whatsoever. There is no extra pleasure to promiscuity, it is actually less pleasurable then a relationship is, and yet promiscuity and casual sex dominates the landscape of American colleges and cities. Why? Because normies are obsessed with impressing other people. Having one person have sex with you doesn't sound very impressive. Most people can find somebody willing to sleep with them eventually. But most people can't get 50 people to sleep with them. So now, the normies are obsessed with proving to one another that they are one of the people who can convince 50 different people to sleep with them.
Once again, nothing is done authentically. Instead of pursuing relationships for the pleasure of sharing a close, intimate bond with the opposite sex, they opt instead for obsessively racking up "points" in their stupid little game in the form of accumulating as many hookups as possible. Instead of drinking alcohol to enjoy their buzz, they have to prove they can drink obscene amounts of alcohol while not appearing drunk (then what's the point of drinking?). Instead of wanting money in order to enjoy richer experiences or a more comfortable living situation, most people seem to seek out wealth just because it gives them higher social status. A long time ago back in high school I told a friend of mine that it was stupid that women are so obsessed with men's social status and he said to me "you do the same thing." And I asked him why he said that, he told me "you have a crush on Britney Spears because she's the most dominant person in the room."
I was absolutely puzzled, why the f**k would anybody think I was into Britney Spears because of her dominance or status? I liked her because she is insanely beautiful, seemed like a sweet person, and has a cute voice. Her position in life as a musician with great wealth is just happenstance as far as I'm concerned. If she was poor and hated by everyone but her looks and personality were exactly the same, I'd feel exactly the same way about her.
What astonished me though was realizing that my friend from high school seemed to be experiencing a major reward from the idea that pretty girls have high social status and thus wanting to sleep with them in order to obtain social status. This is utterly bizarre to me. The reason I want to sleep with a pretty girl is because her features are significantly more pleasurable for me to look at and touch then the features of an ugly or plain looking girl are.
I personally just hate this mindset of living life for the purpose of proving to everybody else that you are better then them. I live life only for my personal enjoyment. I do things because they make me happy and doing them is pleasurable. I don't give a rat's ass if anybody's impressed with it or not. I do want people to admire my personal values and philosophy, but that has more to do with thinking my personal values and philosophy would make the world a better place if more people shared my views and thereby hoping my personal philosophy will spread to other people.
