christian arranged marriage india with foreigner

[69ixine]

First and foremost, to be an eligible and desired bachelor in India, you need to be a graduate (at a minimum, preferably from a good college) and have secure job (preferably a government job or in a reputed corporate company - businessman are a negative). It's a fantastic plus if you are working abroad.

So work on that.

Arranged marriages work on the concept of finding a compatible match between religious, cultural and personal values (in that order) of the couple and family. The more you don't fall within those bounds, or differ from the other, the more difficult it is to find a match.

Assuming you are a Christian, the two ways indian go about seeking an arranged marriage is by informing the priest and other church members and through online marriage portals.

You have a better chance of success through the online marriage portals, as some of the youth feels it makes them more involved in the process of finding their mate. While many parents post there too, many youths do too. If a parent is in control, they will vet for potential mates and then either ask the kid to talk with the potential match or they will directly talk with the potential mate and his / her family. If the youth is in charge of vetting, s/he will talk to many people and inform their parent on matches they liked who will then talk with you and your family.

In either case, the family does come to the picture. So you need to consider that.

Again, assuming you are a Christian, one other way of going about this is to involve your own Church. Get a letter from your priest attesting to your personality and qualification. Find out from him other churches in India of your denomination. And contact these priests in India by sending them a letter of introduction from you and your priest and requesting for an arranged marriage match with you. Most of the upper class and some of middle class may not consider you as a suitable match being snobby, but some middle class and poorer section os the society in the church will consider you as a good match. If you mention your criteria of your desired mate, the priests will also help with the vetting so you are not fooled by anyone. (In fact, if you go the Church route, you don't need to limit yourself to India and can consider many other asian countries too).

It is difficult for a foreigner to find an arranged marriage in India due to human trafficking concerns, but not impossible. Best of luck!



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[69ixine]

southern india tolerant of other faiths

https://thewire.in/communalism/south-in ... m-hindutva

north not so much,especially against muslims

[Cornfed]

First and foremost, to be an eligible and desired bachelor in India, you need to be a graduate (at a minimum, preferably from a good college) and have secure job (preferably a government job or in a reputed corporate company - businessman are a negative).

That's us out then. /thread

[MrMan]

I don't know how many clergymen from American culture would want to be involved in this. Maybe someone from a foreign country.

You could fly over there, go to church, invite the pastor, elder/priest, etc. to lunch, then talk about how you are single and don't want to be.

[Outcast9428]

I don't know how many clergymen from American culture would want to be involved in this. Maybe someone from a foreign country.

You could fly over there, go to church, invite the pastor, elder/priest, etc. to lunch, then talk about how you are single and don't want to be.

Well this is India so it’s a very different situation.

[EdwardMatthew]

Arranged marriages in India focus on finding compatibility based on religious, cultural, and personal values, in that order. Online marriage portals are a preferred method, where both parents and youths participate in the matchmaking process. Involving your own church and seeking assistance from priests can also be a viable option, especially if you are a Christian. It is essential to consider the involvement of the family in the process. However, as a foreigner, it can be challenging to find an arranged marriage in India due to concerns related to human trafficking. Nonetheless, it is not impossible.

[MrMan]

I don't know how many clergymen from American culture would want to be involved in this. Maybe someone from a foreign country.

You could fly over there, go to church, invite the pastor, elder/priest, etc. to lunch, then talk about how you are single and don't want to be.

Well this is India so it’s a very different situation.

I don't know how the plan would work for those in the US unless they found a clergyman from an arranged marriage culture.

I spoke to a man who said he mey his Korean wife after he told the pastor of a Korean church in the US he was looking for a wife and asked if there were any single women in the congregation looking for a husband.

I also wonder how picky men...for looks... would navigate this. "She needs to have a really beautiful face--delicate jaw and not a big nose, slim to hourglass builds but not stout or lanky, C-cup, ideally, with a thin waist, proportionate leg length to her body, and long hair."

If you could break down what you want for looks like that, are you going to tell a priest/preacher/pastor that, who asks the other clergy for thin pretty C cups.

You don't mention it what if they match you with the sack-of-potatoes shaped women they might match other men with in India.

If this is a Roman Catholic priest who gave up sex for life because he could handle celibacy without burning he might not have put as much effort thinking about what makes a woman pretty. If he's a married Protestant pastor you could see if his wife is/was pretty to gague how picky he is for looks. But not the other end. The looks conversations might go better in that case. But you still can't really say C-cup.

So then you go there meet the girl and she's not appealing, and you say 'no' and he's got someone else to meet you with. You reject a girl at the first meeting due to her looks, hurt her feelings, and ask for another. Her parents are probably there too. And if you are without your parents it is you who rejected her. And not taking parents might be strange to them when her parents are there. Maybe they can send photos to help prevent some of these issues so you just meet the ones that look good, but will they send full length photos?

[MrMan]

I don't know how many clergymen from American culture would want to be involved in this. Maybe someone from a foreign country.

You could fly over there, go to church, invite the pastor, elder/priest, etc. to lunch, then talk about how you are single and don't want to be.

Well this is India so it’s a very different situation.

I don't know how the plan would work for those in the US unless they found a clergyman from an arranged marriage culture.

I spoke to a man who said he mey his Korean wife after he told the pastor of a Korean church in the US he was looking for a wife and asked if there were any single women in the congregation looking for a husband.

I also wonder how picky men...for looks... would navigate this. "She needs to have a really beautiful face--delicate jaw and not a big nose, slim to hourglass builds but not stout or lanky, C-cup, ideally, with a thin waist, proportionate leg length to her body, and long hair."

If you could break down what you want for looks like that, are you going to tell a priest/preacher/pastor that, who asks the other clergy for thin pretty C cups.

You don't mention it what if they match you with the sack-of-potatoes shaped women they might match other men with in India.

If this is a Roman Catholic priest who gave up sex for life because he could handle celibacy without burning he might not have put as much effort thinking about what makes a woman pretty. If he's a married Protestant pastor you could see if his wife is/was pretty to gague how picky he is for looks. But not the other end. The looks conversations might go better in that case. But you still can't really say C-cup.

So then you go there meet the girl and she's not appealing, and you say 'no' and he's got someone else to meet you with. You reject a girl at the first meeting due to her looks, hurt her feelings, and ask for another. Her parents are probably there too. And if you are without your parents it is you who rejected her. And not taking parents might be strange to them when her parents are there. Maybe they can send photos to help prevent some of these issues so you just meet the ones that look good, but will they send full length photos?

[Outcast9428]

I don't know how many clergymen from American culture would want to be involved in this. Maybe someone from a foreign country.

You could fly over there, go to church, invite the pastor, elder/priest, etc. to lunch, then talk about how you are single and don't want to be.

Well this is India so it’s a very different situation.

I don't know how the plan would work for those in the US unless they found a clergyman from an arranged marriage culture.

I spoke to a man who said he mey his Korean wife after he told the pastor of a Korean church in the US he was looking for a wife and asked if there were any single women in the congregation looking for a husband.

I also wonder how picky men...for looks... would navigate this. "She needs to have a really beautiful face--delicate jaw and not a big nose, slim to hourglass builds but not stout or lanky, C-cup, ideally, with a thin waist, proportionate leg length to her body, and long hair."

If you could break down what you want for looks like that, are you going to tell a priest/preacher/pastor that, who asks the other clergy for thin pretty C cups.

You don't mention it what if they match you with the sack-of-potatoes shaped women they might match other men with in India.

If this is a Roman Catholic priest who gave up sex for life because he could handle celibacy without burning he might not have put as much effort thinking about what makes a woman pretty. If he's a married Protestant pastor you could see if his wife is/was pretty to gague how picky he is for looks. But not the other end. The looks conversations might go better in that case. But you still can't really say C-cup.

So then you go there meet the girl and she's not appealing, and you say 'no' and he's got someone else to meet you with. You reject a girl at the first meeting due to her looks, hurt her feelings, and ask for another. Her parents are probably there too. And if you are without your parents it is you who rejected her. And not taking parents might be strange to them when her parents are there. Maybe they can send photos to help prevent some of these issues so you just meet the ones that look good, but will they send full length photos?

In an arranged marriage type culture, I would probably just not try very hard on the date to get along and then later say that I didn't feel we were that compatible.

[willymonfrete]

Going to be doing this by the end of next year,as by then with my CNA job I'd have some money saved up.

I think it would be best to go for poor sections of society.You can also go for orphans if you're catholic,I was catholic in 2017 and contacted a priest that ran an orphanage from kerala,who was open to help find me a wife among the orphans.

as for looks,I'm fine with a 6,dark skin,and normal body etc South indian women can be very beautiful if they're not aunties that let their looks go.

[MrMan]

Going to be doing this by the end of next year,as by then with my CNA job I'd have some money saved up.

I think it would be best to go for poor sections of society.You can also go for orphans if you're catholic,I was catholic in 2017 and contacted a priest that ran an orphanage from kerala,who was open to help find me a wife among the orphans.

as for looks,I'm fine with a 6,dark skin,and normal body etc South indian women can be very beautiful if they're not aunties that let their looks go.

Be fair about it. Don't marry a Christian girl who wants to marry a Christian if you are not sincere about your faith.

If she is marrying for life, don't marry with a plan to cast her aside when she gets old and wrinkly. Just dim the lights if you have to, close your eyes and remember what she looked like when she was young. If you marry one younger than yourself, you might get to enjoy more years of her youth and beauty.

[willymonfrete]

Going to be doing this by the end of next year,as by then with my CNA job I'd have some money saved up.

I think it would be best to go for poor sections of society.You can also go for orphans if you're catholic,I was catholic in 2017 and contacted a priest that ran an orphanage from kerala,who was open to help find me a wife among the orphans.

as for looks,I'm fine with a 6,dark skin,and normal body etc South indian women can be very beautiful if they're not aunties that let their looks go.

Be fair about it. Don't marry a Christian girl who wants to marry a Christian if you are not sincere about your faith.

If she is marrying for life, don't marry with a plan to cast her aside when she gets old and wrinkly. Just dim the lights if you have to, close your eyes and remember what she looked like when she was young. If you marry one younger than yourself, you might get to enjoy more years of her youth and beauty.

Worry about your own self and don't tell me what do,Capiche?

[MrMan]

@willymonfrete so are you planning on scamming the girl with promises of life-long marriage only to cast her aside when she's an old lady?

Lot's of western women do that to the men around here.

[MrMan]

@willymonfrete so are you planning on scamming the girl with promises of life-long marriage only to cast her aside when she's an old lady?

Lot's of western women do that to the men around here.

[willymonfrete]

@willymonfrete so are you planning on scamming the girl with promises of life-long marriage only to cast her aside when she's an old lady?

Lot's of western women do that to the men around here.

No,but it's about the principle,you should mind your own business and not pretend you're my father or something.