
Among other obnoxious things, these people constantly gossip and everyone here has a big mouth. Given that they're passive aggressive, they never do it to your face. Like they will always talk all this shit behind your back or when you're away, but they will NEVER have the balls to say anything to your face. And to me this speaks volumes. Why hide your emotions and be fake? You are not going to like everybody in the world and not everybody is going to like you. It's okay to have differences and biases. Why always hide your emotions?
So how exactly do you guys deal with people talking shit when you have your back to them? Do you call them out on it? Do you get in a verbal contest with them? I don't think ignoring them would solve the problem. It would just give them the fuel to do it even more, because ignoring is pretty much showing them that you're weak and that you're okay with it. I don't understand why every single thing out there tells people to ignore others when they make arrogant comments about them. In high school I dealt with it by grabbing on their face or their neck and causing a fight that way. But then after getting in trouble and getting fines for it, I figured it wasn't worth it. Besides, now I'm an adult and putting your hands on someone will land you in jail in this police state of a country. And I can't be getting a misdemeanor conviction on my record every time someone says something stupid to me.
How EXACTLY do you deal with this? Do you report it? What are some good quirky phrases/ways (non-violent) to put someone in their place or make them look bad?
Educate me..