In America, it's considered greedy to keep in touch with long distance friends, including through social media.

[Mercury]

In America, not only are friendships a facade, but it's actually considered greedy to keep in touch with long-distance friends. It is considered very greedy to stay friends with someone on Facebook who moved long distance. This is especially real with people that have more than 1,000 or 3,000 friends. And Facebook only allows you to have a maximum of 5,000 friends per account. In America, when someone moves long distance, not only are you expected to be happy for them, but you are also expected to cut all ties with that person, unfriend them on Facebook, and have no more contact with them ever again, not even in 60 years. The person has moved on, the friendship is over, it's time for you to close the door and move on as well.

[WorldTraveler]

@Mercury please explain to me what Greedy means. I haven't heard that word since I left Ukraine. Ukrainian girls would say you're greedy if you didn't want to give them your money. It was a way for them to try to shame you into giving them money or gifts. I'd consider it the other way around, that they were greedy for trying to take my money.

In America and probably most countries there is a big difference between a friend and an acquaintance. Why would you want 1000, 3000, or 5000 "friends" on your Facebook? These people are not your friends. Do you really want to show you photos to 3000 people? Why would you want to attention whore your life to world? I decided a long time ago, that I'd rather have 10 good friends that I could depend on, than 5000 followers on Facebook.

I also don't understand what the difference is if the person lives near you or further away from you and not wanting to keep them on your Facebook. I have friends all over the world on my Facebook. Where people lives is of little importance to me.

[WisconsinMan82]

I don't use Facebook, but the premise of this thread reminds me of this school year (I just graduated from high school). I asked a female friend who was two grades behind me for her phone number or e-mail address so I could keep in touch with her after graduation. She refused and it seemed like she was offended I wanted to remain friends with her, and she and her 2 best friends then spent the last month until COVID hit just starting drama with me at every opportunity they could while I desperately tried to save my friendship. Turns out I was disposable to her and she is just a typical AW drama queen who probably never considered me a friend in the first place.

[gsjackson]

I don't use Facebook, but the premise of this thread reminds me of this school year (I just graduated from high school). I asked a female friend who was two grades behind me for her phone number or e-mail address so I could keep in touch with her after graduation. She refused and it seemed like she was offended I wanted to remain friends with her, and she and her 2 best friends then spent the last month until COVID hit just starting drama with me at every opportunity they could while I desperately tried to save my friendship. Turns out I was disposable to her and she is just a typical AW drama queen who probably never considered me a friend in the first place.

Just a silly sophomore who doesn't know up from down, barely an adolescent. Give her a couple years before she "matures" into "a typical AW drama queen." You should have just given her your contact information, and then forgotten about it. Lord knows, don't try "desperately" to save a friendship when the would-be "friend" is openly insulting you.

You seem to be remarkably intelligent for someone who just graduated from an American high school, but there are plenty of life lessons ahead. I'd love to be 17 again, unless I had to be as stupid as I was then. I'd take a pass rather than enduring all the life lessons again. But you'll probably learn them much more quickly.

[Mercury]

I also don't understand what the difference is if the person lives near you or further away from you and not wanting to keep them on your Facebook. I have friends all over the world on my Facebook. Where people lives is of little importance to me.

The difference is seeing them in person. If the person lives near you, it can take as little as 4 to 6 weeks to plan a get together for lunch or dinner. If the person lives far away, it can and will take as long as 60 years to plan and have a successful get-together. More often than not, long-distance friends never see each other for the rest of their lives, as if the long-distance moving friend had already died. It's no wonder even long-distance friends that do keep in touch, they only even talk with each other every 20 to 30 years, sometimes 50. When you look at those facts, what's the point of even staying friends with them on Facebook and social media if there is zero hope of ever seeing them face to face ever again and neither of you will hear from each other for at least the next 50 years? The distance is totally insurmountable.

[WorldTraveler]

I don't use Facebook, but the premise of this thread reminds me of this school year (I just graduated from high school). I asked a female friend who was two grades behind me for her phone number or e-mail address so I could keep in touch with her after graduation. She refused and it seemed like she was offended I wanted to remain friends with her, and she and her 2 best friends then spent the last month until COVID hit just starting drama with me at every opportunity they could while I desperately tried to save my friendship. Turns out I was disposable to her and she is just a typical AW drama queen who probably never considered me a friend in the first place.

Just a silly sophomore who doesn't know up from down, barely an adolescent. Give her a couple years before she "matures" into "a typical AW drama queen." You should have just given her your contact information, and then forgotten about it. Lord knows, don't try "desperately" to save a friendship when the would-be "friend" is openly insulting you.

You seem to be remarkably intelligent for someone who just graduated from an American high school, but there are plenty of life lessons ahead. I'd love to be 17 again, unless I had to be as stupid as I was then. I'd take a pass rather than enduring all the life lessons again. But you'll probably learn them much more quickly.

@WisconsinMan82 Like gsjackson said you're mature for your age. Do not worry about keeping some girl as your friend. Unfortunately it doesn't get better with age. Many men and women never mature. I was at a friends house for a small get together of just my friend, his live in girl-friend, and two attractive older women. My friend is always giving me shit for not dating older women. I have told him older women have no interest in me. I basically ignored them while they jockeyed to get my attention. I have met both of these women in the past but never gotten their contact info. So tonight so he couldn't say there are an abundance of older women to go date, at the end of the night I asked them both for their numbers and Facebooks. I messaged them both on FB and sent them a text the next day. The text was something like this, "Hi, it's WorldTraveler, nice to see you again at Jim's. I sent you a friend request on Facebook. I'm in Historicville now sitting outside at a cafe, but it's very dead." Neither woman ever texted me back or friended me on FB. So basically women don't get more mature with age and have no interest in men. In all ways women get worse. Most are still immature and petty. They have their own families, they lose their looks, and they don't need sex.

WisconsinMan82, just wait a couple of years and look at these hot girls from high school's photos and you'll just laugh. The girls that wouldn't go out with then, look like Sumo Wrestlers now! I've seen girls to went from hot to pig in one year.

[WisconsinMan82]

@gsjackson and @WorldTraveler thanks for the compliment and the advice! There are already some girls I went to school with whom I'd say are at or past their peak attractiveness actually, and there are others I'm sure would have been pretty if they lost some weight or had different tastes in hair colour and style and/or clothing.

[ElPajaro]

I've found that bonds with your friends can increase when you're a distance away. Acquaintances aren't meant to be kept that close.

[E Irizarry R&B Singer]

Social media seriously has done an Argentine Tango number on the world.
Brasil (do not correct my spelling of it) has really succumbed to this. They used to have Orkut. Semi slovenly guys used to get these women just on the strength of being interested and being a foreigner. Some reason it became defunct. All of the users had segued on over to FB, and now IG (the 'Gram/Instagram) and they are lividly arrogantly out of their minds - the garotas (i.e. Brazilian women) are out of the everloving minds now.

Yes American women fell for the social media realm hook. line, and sinkHER, but Brasil really had fallen harder. IMHO social media is the public part of the deep/dark Web because there are some sociopathic and unfortunately and direly some psychopaths on there too.

The good news is that you still can get 8s - 10s when it comes to Brazilian women, but you have to have the following:
(1) I CANNOT EMPHASISE THIS ENOUGH: SELF-IMPROVEMENT ON THE PHYSICAL LEVEL is what Brazilian women go ga-ga over the most.
They don't care about your education. Just like the way most men don't care about women's education background. They care they you are ripped,
got a tight haircut...well-groomed....and very amicable...and a good listener. Latinos (whether Hispanic or Brazilian) are really into the physical first and foremost because we are very overtly overzealous sexual people that loathe condoms (but are used in the w.horehouses - outside of there, it's fair game to bareback Latinas with no dire consequence (except if she has herpes or HIV but even then if you are healthy, not into screwing dry pssy then your chances as a man getting HIV are slim -no lie). Everything is about leading to the bedroom without mentioning it verbatim hence there's a prudish factor like North America, but feminism is easily combated by being in tight physical shape to lure these honey dew women in. Everything is about looking your best - yes Latinos are shallow - Fica mulhao! ....Haz/haga ejercicios! Asi es!!!!

(1.5) Machismo is dead. Western Feminism killed it but see No. 1 - there's still a chance to over"cum" it.

(2) O fin - really nothing else to it.

[Neo]

For me, I find being away from most people in my own private quarters to be priceless. I don't even seek to interact with people that much. Peace and quiet has great value.

Besides that, I don't need anyone bossing me, judging me, telling me my desires or way of life are incorrect, disclosing my business to others, or giving me bad advice, etc.

I also have no desire to talk about alcohol, sexual conquests, politics or football. I do have an interest in conspiracy theories, but most people cannot even believe they are true, so I mostly don't bother.

As for women, it amazes me how oftentimes they flirt and flirt, and then when it comes down to it, they were just looking to cause trouble rather than seeking to start a relationship. I could write a book on this topic.