MarcosZeitola wrote: ↑January 14th, 2023, 12:59 am
Outcast9428 wrote: ↑January 14th, 2023, 12:12 am
I'm gonna cite @Winston on this one too because he still seems to naively support hookup culture.
In the end, hooking up does not seem to have brought @Winston all that much joy. He's turning fifty this year, has never married, and is no longer together with the mother of his only son, both of whom live in another country than him. That sounds kind of sad to me, to be alone at his age.
The kicker there is: I know some older men who are in their 60's and 70's who HAVE married, delusionally believing themselves to be "as monogamous as a Canada goose" (as one of them put it, during a sympathetic phone conversation)........ and not only are they now divorced by their homely, unattractive, angry old dissatisfied and overly-entitled shrew wives, those wives also cleaned their clocks in a divorce settlement, since these fools never even set up an enforceable prenuptial agreement, and also got betaized into combining funds and joint-ownership of financial assets. (By the way, I'm not being contemptuous when I called them "fools," but am "calling a spade a spade," since it was utter folly, even if they did it with well-intentioned motives and aren't worthy of contempt.)
As for the ruin of their TMM: The shrew wives were able to swipe all their assets after 1-2+ more decades more of supposed TMM than Winston's modest age of 50 years. So Winston will be fine, but as for the holders: The only "benefit" of TMM was for the ball-breaking shrews to spend those additional decades spending their cuckold TMM husbands' money before the final death-blow of cleaning his clock for most of the rest of it after the marriage failed miserably while he was even older with less of his own life left to live.
In some cases this was also accompanied by the shrew wife stealing at least half of his retirement savings, and also absconding with and/or alienating the man from his own children.
I think jamesbond posted a case study of this awhile ago (or was that
@publicduende?) where a nice old American gent in his 60's got his clock completely cleaned by one of these old harridan TMM wives who then stole all his $$'s and also his kids, then he had a triple-bypass nearly died, contemplated suicide, and then (fortunately) managed to get "Happier Abroad" with a cute under-valued Pinay village girl.
However, that happy ending just proves as the umpteenth zillionth case that TMM doesn't worth work !@#$.
Also, I point out that this is NOT a misogynist post, because women sometimes get totally screwed by trying to do TMM just as badly or worse (including sexual abuse and violence, sometimes even killed by angry men), yet all the stuff I said about the utter folly of blindly believing in the moral superiority and functionality of TMM is still true from the ruined men's POV as well.
I mentioned it mostly from the man's POV to point out that obviously Winston has done a lot better than that, however dissatisfied he may be that he hasn't bagged a full harem of New Age European "10's" capable of holding on hours of deep conversation, compared with the many cute Pinays he's been scoring with over the years.
MarcosZeitola wrote: ↑January 14th, 2023, 12:59 am
You're a lucky fellow, Outcast, because you found your special lady early in life. I'm not saying it is the ultimate recipe to happiness for all men to settle down and stay with one woman for life. But a lot of men have that inate desire and seem miserable when, for whatever reason, it doesn't materialize and they remain alone. The aging bachelor is sometimes admired by young men for his wealth, his disposable income allowing him to still "slay" beautiful women as he grows old. But when he comes home at night, who's there waiting for him? Nobody. I figure the man who comes home and can tell his wife about his day is probably a lot happier, like @MrMan.
I sincerely wish
@Outcast9428 and the latest Asian chick 100% happiness and success, however, sorry to point out that: No, he hasn't "found his special lady," he's just got another Asian chick, who he'll probably waste a bunch of money on while squawking at the rest of us that we're "degenerates," after which something else will happen and no more Asian chick like the other one he wasted $$$ on buying her cute outfits.
P.S. I buy my girlfriends lingerie and cute stuff too, but I don't give it to them like a chump obsessed with throwing away $$$ and then have to declare it all a total financial loss like he did: I just buy it and then they can put it on at my place or on my boat so we can have fun. (I don't send them a bill for the alcohol and food they consume though, and I'm more than generous when it comes to paying them a lot of attention physically, and also listening to them spend hours bitching about some other dominant-personality chick they currently had some high-drama squabble with, LOL.)
MarcosZeitola wrote: ↑January 14th, 2023, 12:59 am
I'll get married soon as well. Hoping and praying that two really is a charm. There's a great sense of peace that comes over me by having a wife, children, a legacy that materializes, grows, expands before my eyes. Little human beings made in my own image, God's greatest blessing. Nothing quite beats that experience to me. No amount of porn, video games, drugs or whores would ever compare.
Hahahha, I considered it myself recently...
Personally, I'm looking in great detail with research and interviewing of people who do the so-called 'Open Marriage' (not as a journalist, of course, but definitely researching it heavily). It turns out that a lot of the TMM that other people mistake for some of the seemingly happiest marriages actually ARE open marriages, but the couples keep that secret to keep up appearances. (And I'm not talking about gross stuff like "wife swapping" or "swinger" culture, which I personally find gross and anti-romantic myself, but "open" still means there's an understanding that both the husband and wife can see as many other "friends with benefits" types as they like on the side.)
I've looked into the alternative of actual polygamy (ancient China historically, Africa at the present time, not counting in theocracies), but in line with the interesting "faux-traditionalism" topic, it's usually rooted in whatever rather domineering men in the culture have managed to get away with classifying as "traditionalism," but seems to involve both high drama between numerous wives squabbling + the men actively trying to police one of 12 wives under the same roof to try to stop them from eloping with other men in the village, LOL.
Speaking as the forum's foremost "radical feminist," (as Cornfed termed me since I am actually in favor women's empowerment, even though I deny any connection to the 2nd wave female jew feminism that promoted homosexuality/transgenderism and the deliberate targeted destruction of the nuclear family), I'm against all this drama and trying to keep women down.
So personally, I'm either going for the "open marriage" in theory, or (more likely) go on happily with "Friends with benefits" relations with as many nice women as cross my path.
Damn, I've been on here for hours again.... popped back in because I heard by email that subversive trolls were trying to undermine
@Pixel--dude's authority or something, but I still haven't caught up on all the reading...
OK, if my muscles have shrunk into spaghetti noodles in the morning, it's all your guys' fault!!!
No........... actually, it's mine.... I seem to have discipline issues when it comes to limiting time spent on HA....