I'm not a careerist, nor do I aspire to be one. It's a pointless waste of life unless you are exceptionally talented, which most are not. Why not live a simpler life? I feel bad for anyone, man or woman, who wants a career for the sake of sit and dedicates much of their life to it. Careerism is like Stage IV cancer, and I'm firmly against it for both men and women. Do whatever makes you guys happy, but I'm never going to have career. I''m going to go ahead and find my happiness, and I know I will. Anyone who advises me to pursue a career above something else, I won't take seriously. Sorry. And by the way I didn't go to college in the US. I grew up in Canada (Richmond BC), returned to China for middle school and high school, saw the light, now back in Camada for college, hating it but almost done. The whole formal education system is deeply flawed, but I'll leave that discussion for another day. Unless you're a man that is exceptionally talented and successful at doing something good for yourself and for others, there's no reason to put off finding the right woman and settling down. People may change, but allowing yourself to be consumes by changes, to be like the wind, is a sign of weakness. Keep true to yourself, there must always be something you defend at all costs.