Is Winston a good lay?

[Rygar1]

What is the consensus here? He's got a lot of practice, I can assume? According to a response he gave to a fan, when asked, he slept with 'quite a few'. Has he learned how to lay down the pipe good over the years? Can he give us some pointers? Insights are valuable and welcome. Thank you.

[MrMan]

What is the consensus here? He's got a lot of practice, I can assume? According to a response he gave to a fan, when asked, he slept with 'quite a few'. Has he learned how to lay down the pipe good over the years? Can he give us some pointers? Insights are valuable and welcome. Thank you.

Hasn't Winston been single for much of his life? Do you mean experience picking up chicks, or experience as in technique with doing the deed.

I posted on here long ago that I had had sex over 1000 times. It's probably closer to 2000. I figured every other non-period day (just the intercourse) for the first two and a half years of marriage, minus a couple of weeks of illness and a trip or two sleeping on floors at an in-laws house, then x times a week on non-period weeks. Maybe 1500 times throughout the years. It could be over 2000. I didn't carve notches on a belt or bedpost. But mine are with one beautiful woman.

[Rygar1]

Both. More the latter rather than the former, however.

Geez, I can't even fathom getting laid 1000 times, I mean 1000s of times. I mean there is a difference between 1000 girls once and one girl 1000 times, but still. Is this why people get married? Where do you find the time? Do most people f**k this much? Man, I dunno, I'm getting older and I just...like...never really had a lot of motivation/skill in this area. I'm well behind my peers. It's starting to get uneasy. As the saying goes, "why can't I be normal?". What's wrong with me? What are the deeper underlying issues here? Where do I start?

[my life is trash]

Both. More the latter rather than the former, however.

Geez, I can't even fathom getting laid 1000 times, I mean 1000s of times. I mean there is a difference between 1000 girls once and one girl 1000 times, but still. Is this why people get married? Where do you find the time? Do most people f**k this much? Man, I dunno, I'm getting older and I just...like...never really had a lot of motivation/skill in this area. I'm well behind my peers. It's starting to get uneasy. As the saying goes, "why can't I be normal?". What's wrong with me? What are the deeper underlying issues here? Where do I start?

I'm a lonely virgin who spent 30 minutes tonight crying. Take the black pill, you need to know why you have been treated this way your whole life.

[Rygar1]

I'm a lonely virgin who spent 30 minutes tonight crying. Take the black pill, you need to know why you have been treated this way your whole life.
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I'm really sorry to hear that, man, I really am. I think its important to remind yourself that people often exaggerate, if not outright lie, a good deal of time. I've been laid, bjs,, but not alot. Like, less than 10, I still can't fathom 1000 times of intercourse, though. Did our parents F that much? Again, banging 1 girl 1000 times doesn't take as much skill as 1000 girls once, if that makes any sense. Still, hats off to the above poster. There are many factors that play a part in these issues. Social factors, as Winston often states are HUGE. Looks, money, and even energy levels as well. It's very complex. I think a good counselor or psych, emphasize a GOOD one, will really help these issues.

What is the black pill? Is it like the red pill?

[Rygar1]

What is the consensus here? He's got a lot of practice, I can assume? According to a response he gave to a fan, when asked, he slept with 'quite a few'. Has he learned how to lay down the pipe good over the years? Can he give us some pointers? Insights are valuable and welcome. Thank you.

Hasn't Winston been single for much of his life? Do you mean experience picking up chicks, or experience as in technique with doing the deed.

I posted on here long ago that I had had sex over 1000 times. It's probably closer to 2000. I figured every other non-period day (just the intercourse) for the first two and a half years of marriage, minus a couple of weeks of illness and a trip or two sleeping on floors at an in-laws house, then x times a week on non-period weeks. Maybe 1500 times throughout the years. It could be over 2000. I didn't carve notches on a belt or bedpost. But mine are with one beautiful woman.

Oh, it's 2000. 2000!

[Shemp]

2000 incidents of sex is pretty standard for people in long term relationships. That's like daily sex for 6 years. I lived with a woman for 4 years in the early 1990's and had sex at least 1000 times just with her. Then maybe another 1000 times with various girlfriends and whores over the next 20 years. Then recently 180 meetings with that girl in Ukraine over the course of 6 summers (i know the exact number because i was paying per meeting and kept track of money spent), and most of those meetings involved two rounds of sex. So I'm easily over 2000, even though I've been alone most of my life. 2000 or 1000 different women is unusual, on the other hand. But there are men/women who go to nightclubs every night and pick up a new sex partner most nights for a one night stand. So they get to 2000 different sex partners after like 10 years of this lifestyle.

[Rygar1]

2000 incidents of sex is pretty standard for people in long term relationships. That's like daily sex for 6 years. I lived with a woman for 4 years in the early 1990's and had sex at least 1000 times just with her. Then maybe another 1000 times with various girlfriends and whores over the next 20 years. Then recently 180 meetings with that girl in Ukraine over the course of 6 summers (i know the exact number because i was paying per meeting and kept track of money spent), and most of those meetings involved two rounds of sex. So I'm easily over 2000, even though I've been alone most of my life. 2000 or 1000 different women is unusual, on the other hand. But there are men/women who go to nightclubs every night and pick up a new sex partner most nights for a one night stand. So they get to 2000 different sex partners after like 10 years of this lifestyle.

I dont dispute it, man. Married 10 years equals 3650 days, minus, I dunno, 1500 or so she's on her period would indeed equal 2000. But most of the studies I've read suggest that married couples, ltr's etc, aren't having daily sex, far fewer in fact. I mean, I don't know if there reliable or not, but most stated it was only 150 or so days a year. That's less than half.

Imaging someone penetrating a vagina 2000 times, again, is just unfathomable. Reading that made me physically unwell. I've penetarated 3 or 4 , handful of blowies. I mean, all joking aside, and I mean this sincerely, IS THERE SOMETHING WRONG WITH ME? Are there just dramatic individual differences in sex drive? Where does the motivation come from? I'm really interested in the psychological dynamics. I think it's clear that a 38 yr old man whose never had a girlfriend, a paltry amount of sex, and perhaps little motivation to actively seek these things out, isn't 'normal'. Really, I'd like to change, but just don't know how or where to start. Any advices is HUGELY appreciated.

Again, what is the black pill?

[Shemp]

Imaging someone penetrating a vagina 2000 times, again, is just unfathomable. Reading that made me physically unwell. I've penetarated 3 or 4 , handful of blowies. I mean, all joking aside, and I mean this sincerely, IS THERE SOMETHING WRONG WITH ME? Are there just dramatic individual differences in sex drive? Where does the motivation come from? I'm really interested in the psychological dynamics. I think it's clear that a 38 yr old man whose never had a girlfriend, a paltry amount of sex, and perhaps little motivation to actively seek these things out, isn't 'normal'. Really, I'd like to change, but just don't know how or where to start. Any advices is HUGELY appreciated.

Everyone is different. I was never interested in picking up women in bars or one night stands, for example, but I've known guys who couldn't stand being alone in the evening, so they went to bars and picked up girls like themselves, and thus the 1000+ notch counts for both sexes. These guys were very unhappy, and typically had drug/alcohol/gambling addictions in addition to sex addiction. Nothing about their life to be envious of.

Ive had dry spells of 5 years and it never really bothered me. Then when I get a girlfriend, it's daily sex if living together or 2-3 times/week if living apart, including her period (other than mess and possibly some tender the vagina, no reason not to have sex during period). Other guys have dry spells of 20+ years then become sex maniacs in old age. No one is right or wrong. If you are unhappy alone, you'll probably eventually lower standards and find a girlfriend. If happy enough alone, then you might not lower standards and so never meet anyone. Follow your own desires, not what someone else says you should be doing with your life.

Everyone gets 24 hours/day while alive. Whether you enjoy your 24 hours is the only "winning" criterion that matters, regardless of how you spend those hours. (Living longer might also constitute winning the game of life, but I'm not sure about that. It might be a booby prize to live too long.)

[Rygar1]

Imaging someone penetrating a vagina 2000 times, again, is just unfathomable. Reading that made me physically unwell. I've penetarated 3 or 4 , handful of blowies. I mean, all joking aside, and I mean this sincerely, IS THERE SOMETHING WRONG WITH ME? Are there just dramatic individual differences in sex drive? Where does the motivation come from? I'm really interested in the psychological dynamics. I think it's clear that a 38 yr old man whose never had a girlfriend, a paltry amount of sex, and perhaps little motivation to actively seek these things out, isn't 'normal'. Really, I'd like to change, but just don't know how or where to start. Any advices is HUGELY appreciated.

Everyone is different. I was never interested in picking up women in bars or one night stands, for example, but I've known guys who couldn't stand being alone in the evening, so they went to bars and picked up girls like themselves, and thus the 1000+ notch counts for both sexes. These guys were very unhappy, and typically had drug/alcohol/gambling addictions in addition to sex addiction. Nothing about their life to be envious of.

Ive had dry spells of 5 years and it never really bothered me. Then when I get a girlfriend, it's daily sex if living together or 2-3 times/week if living apart, including her period (other than mess and possibly some tender the vagina, no reason not to have sex during period). Other guys have dry spells of 20+ years then become sex maniacs in old age. No one is right or wrong. If you are unhappy alone, you'll probably eventually lower standards and find a girlfriend. If happy enough alone, then you might not lower standards and so never meet anyone. Follow your own desires, not what someone else says you should be doing with your life.

Everyone gets 24 hours/day while alive. Whether you enjoy your 24 hours is the only "winning" criterion that matters, regardless of how you spend those hours. (Living longer might also constitute winning the game of life, but I'm not sure about that. It might be a booby prize to live too long.)

I never gave a hoot in my teens or 20s for example. I, like you, never went to bars and clubs to pick up girls as well. When I say never, I mean NEVER. at 38, i have been to a bar twice. TWICE! My peers, many of them, went frequently and achieved a moderate amount of success, I suppose. But it just wasn't "my thing". I can't deny, however, at this point in my life, it's getting mighty uncomfortable, both the lack of experience and the motivation to something. I mean, again, like 2000 effing times having sex, it's hard to fathom. Really. I just...I dunno...there is probably a lot of mental weight that goes along with this self sabotage. I don't have a lot of money, for example, ergo, no home, no place to bring her to, ergo no sex...Do you see the train of thoughts? I think guys who have alot of success don't worry about these things and just live in the moment. I known guys, who claim, at least, to be 30 or 40 somethings living at home, and pulling ass left and right. It's weird. I really don't know what causes these issues.

The past few years, I've had a few women, both I'm and explicitly give me green light. But, man, they just weren't attractive at all. I'm not gorgeous, but I am kinda handsome. I dunno, should I just lower my standards? Where do I start? Why can't I just be normal?

Thank you.

Again, what is the black pill?

[Voyager1]

Then recently 180 meetings with that girl in Ukraine over the course of 6 summers (i know the exact number because i was paying per meeting and kept track of money spent)

Penny pincher

[Traveler]

I guess the bar girls of AC would know.

[MrMan]

I dont dispute it, man. Married 10 years equals 3650 days, minus, I dunno, 1500 or so she's on her period would indeed equal 2000. But most of the studies I've read suggest that married couples, ltr's etc, aren't having daily sex, far fewer in fact. I mean, I don't know if there reliable or not, but most stated it was only 150 or so days a year. That's less than half.

Imaging someone penetrating a vagina 2000 times, again, is just unfathomable. Reading that made me physically unwell. I've penetarated 3 or 4 , handful of blowies. I mean, all joking aside, and I mean this sincerely, IS THERE SOMETHING WRONG WITH ME? Are there just dramatic individual differences in sex drive? Where does the motivation come from? I'm really interested in the psychological dynamics. I think it's clear that a 38 yr old man whose never had a girlfriend, a paltry amount of sex, and perhaps little motivation to actively seek these things out, isn't 'normal'. Really, I'd like to change, but just don't know how or where to start. Any advices is HUGELY appreciated.

My wife and I are both Christians and don't believe in sex outside of marriage to have sex. My wife is really beautiful, too. I just wanted it every day or night, especially as a newly wed. It feels really good, especially when you learn your partner and get into the rhythm of it. But yeah, periods. Most of the time I was getting 'release' every day and intercourse every other day as part of that for two years, or more than that until my wife got late into the pregnancy of our first child. Then she had the hormonal issues with post partum, breast feeding, and the tiredness, oxytocin overload from the baby, and after she healed up, maybe a mere two or three times a week, with some non-intercourse release thrown in. But it depends on what age we are talking about, too. There were times it was more frequent than others. I could still go for every night, but as they age, women can have various health issues and periods can become erratic. They also get sore, can get sore, even if they are young, if they get jack hammered towards the end of it, and her muscles can get sore if you coax her into accepting multiple releases until she's kind of worn out, and she may need a day to recover, and as you get older a session can take a while for a man, and that can wear a woman out. My thinking is lots of sex is good for a marriage.

But, somewhere between one or two thousand (or more) over decades... not sure why that would be nauseating. Sex every night still sounds fun to me in my 50's, and something I could do at this point if I have the time, though my body doesn't feel like it 'demands' it that much these days.

Again, what is the black pill?

I think that is the incel version of the 'red pill.' Red pill is this ideology about women. It's hard to articulate, but it is something along the ideas that civilization being set up in a gynocentric way. Women are hypergamous, and like men that other women find attractive. Some of it may have to do with pick up artist philosphy about how women treat men who treat them negatively, and all kinds of other stuff about women. A lot of women dump men and take half their stuff. The metaphor is from Alice in Wonderland, and more recently the Matrix, where taking the red pill opens one up to reality or wonderland, and the blue pill is status quo. Blue pill men in this metaphor accept ideas from feminism.

If I understand correctly the Black pill is the idea that it is hopeless for the individual who swallows it. Women will never like him. He can't get ahead. All women are bad. It's kind of like MGTOW, except a bit darker. Incel means involuntary celibate, but it is also a term used for this black pill ideology that no matter what happens a woman will not be attracted to you as a man, if you aren't a 'Chad' or a 'Tyrone' who gets all the girls.

[Rygar1]

I dont dispute it, man. Married 10 years equals 3650 days, minus, I dunno, 1500 or so she's on her period would indeed equal 2000. But most of the studies I've read suggest that married couples, ltr's etc, aren't having daily sex, far fewer in fact. I mean, I don't know if there reliable or not, but most stated it was only 150 or so days a year. That's less than half.

Imaging someone penetrating a vagina 2000 times, again, is just unfathomable. Reading that made me physically unwell. I've penetarated 3 or 4 , handful of blowies. I mean, all joking aside, and I mean this sincerely, IS THERE SOMETHING WRONG WITH ME? Are there just dramatic individual differences in sex drive? Where does the motivation come from? I'm really interested in the psychological dynamics. I think it's clear that a 38 yr old man whose never had a girlfriend, a paltry amount of sex, and perhaps little motivation to actively seek these things out, isn't 'normal'. Really, I'd like to change, but just don't know how or where to start. Any advices is HUGELY appreciated.

My wife and I are both Christians and don't believe in sex outside of marriage to have sex. My wife is really beautiful, too. I just wanted it every day or night, especially as a newly wed. It feels really good, especially when you learn your partner and get into the rhythm of it. But yeah, periods. Most of the time I was getting 'release' every day and intercourse every other day as part of that for two years, or more than that until my wife got late into the pregnancy of our first child. Then she had the hormonal issues with post partum, breast feeding, and the tiredness, oxytocin overload from the baby, and after she healed up, maybe a mere two or three times a week, with some non-intercourse release thrown in. But it depends on what age we are talking about, too. There were times it was more frequent than others. I could still go for every night, but as they age, women can have various health issues and periods can become erratic. They also get sore, can get sore, even if they are young, if they get jack hammered towards the end of it, and her muscles can get sore if you coax her into accepting multiple releases until she's kind of worn out, and she may need a day to recover, and as you get older a session can take a while for a man, and that can wear a woman out. My thinking is lots of sex is good for a marriage.

But, somewhere between one or two thousand (or more) over decades... not sure why that would be nauseating. Sex every night still sounds fun to me in my 50's, and something I could do at this point if I have the time, though my body doesn't feel like it 'demands' it that much these days.

Again, what is the black pill?

I think that is the incel version of the 'red pill.' Red pill is this ideology about women. It's hard to articulate, but it is something along the ideas that civilization being set up in a gynocentric way. Women are hypergamous, and like men that other women find attractive. Some of it may have to do with pick up artist philosphy about how women treat men who treat them negatively, and all kinds of other stuff about women. A lot of women dump men and take half their stuff. The metaphor is from Alice in Wonderland, and more recently the Matrix, where taking the red pill opens one up to reality or wonderland, and the blue pill is status quo. Blue pill men in this metaphor accept ideas from feminism.

If I understand correctly the Black pill is the idea that it is hopeless for the individual who swallows it. Women will never like him. He can't get ahead. All women are bad. It's kind of like MGTOW, except a bit darker. Incel means involuntary celibate, but it is also a term used for this black pill ideology that no matter what happens a woman will not be attracted to you as a man, if you aren't a 'Chad' or a 'Tyrone' who gets all the girls.

Thank you for that detailed reply. I think it just boils down to a biological clock that's ticking, as well as other factors Wu has stated, making me question all this. I think, especially people my age, with all this social media hyperconnectivity plays a part as well. Comparing yourself to others, keeping up with the joneses etc..I mean EVERYBODY is married. A 38 year old with a handful of experience is a effing joke. Women are gonna think there's something wrong with you. I just never seemed to have a lot of 'get up and go'. Can you relate? Do you ever just want to be alone? You can masturbate and have orgasms.

I think I'm just a lazy person, tbh. I mean I'm just lazy. Shit, I've gotten numbers galore, and most of the time, I don't call because I'm too damn lazy and unmotivated to do so. I live inside my head alot. It's hard to get yourself out of a rut.

This blackpill stuff seems like a lot of vague nonsense. I mean, there may be SOME truth to it, but, like a lot things, it gets exaggerated. I think a lot these dudes have serious mental health issues only a professional would be able help. I have some hang up, though. I don't really trust a lot of people, especially women, I don't know why, I just don't trust them. There's prob some unconscious stuff going on there.

I would be interested in any tips or hacks to improve though(location, language, etc.)

[MrMan]

I dont dispute it, man. Married 10 years equals 3650 days, minus, I dunno, 1500 or so she's on her period would indeed equal 2000. But most of the studies I've read suggest that married couples, ltr's etc, aren't having daily sex, far fewer in fact. I mean, I don't know if there reliable or not, but most stated it was only 150 or so days a year. That's less than half.

Imaging someone penetrating a vagina 2000 times, again, is just unfathomable. Reading that made me physically unwell. I've penetarated 3 or 4 , handful of blowies. I mean, all joking aside, and I mean this sincerely, IS THERE SOMETHING WRONG WITH ME? Are there just dramatic individual differences in sex drive? Where does the motivation come from? I'm really interested in the psychological dynamics. I think it's clear that a 38 yr old man whose never had a girlfriend, a paltry amount of sex, and perhaps little motivation to actively seek these things out, isn't 'normal'. Really, I'd like to change, but just don't know how or where to start. Any advices is HUGELY appreciated.

My wife and I are both Christians and don't believe in sex outside of marriage to have sex. My wife is really beautiful, too. I just wanted it every day or night, especially as a newly wed. It feels really good, especially when you learn your partner and get into the rhythm of it. But yeah, periods. Most of the time I was getting 'release' every day and intercourse every other day as part of that for two years, or more than that until my wife got late into the pregnancy of our first child. Then she had the hormonal issues with post partum, breast feeding, and the tiredness, oxytocin overload from the baby, and after she healed up, maybe a mere two or three times a week, with some non-intercourse release thrown in. But it depends on what age we are talking about, too. There were times it was more frequent than others. I could still go for every night, but as they age, women can have various health issues and periods can become erratic. They also get sore, can get sore, even if they are young, if they get jack hammered towards the end of it, and her muscles can get sore if you coax her into accepting multiple releases until she's kind of worn out, and she may need a day to recover, and as you get older a session can take a while for a man, and that can wear a woman out. My thinking is lots of sex is good for a marriage.

But, somewhere between one or two thousand (or more) over decades... not sure why that would be nauseating. Sex every night still sounds fun to me in my 50's, and something I could do at this point if I have the time, though my body doesn't feel like it 'demands' it that much these days.

Again, what is the black pill?

I think that is the incel version of the 'red pill.' Red pill is this ideology about women. It's hard to articulate, but it is something along the ideas that civilization being set up in a gynocentric way. Women are hypergamous, and like men that other women find attractive. Some of it may have to do with pick up artist philosphy about how women treat men who treat them negatively, and all kinds of other stuff about women. A lot of women dump men and take half their stuff. The metaphor is from Alice in Wonderland, and more recently the Matrix, where taking the red pill opens one up to reality or wonderland, and the blue pill is status quo. Blue pill men in this metaphor accept ideas from feminism.

If I understand correctly the Black pill is the idea that it is hopeless for the individual who swallows it. Women will never like him. He can't get ahead. All women are bad. It's kind of like MGTOW, except a bit darker. Incel means involuntary celibate, but it is also a term used for this black pill ideology that no matter what happens a woman will not be attracted to you as a man, if you aren't a 'Chad' or a 'Tyrone' who gets all the girls.

Thank you for that detailed reply. I think it just boils down to a biological clock that's ticking, as well as other factors Wu has stated, making me question all this. I think, especially people my age, with all this social media hyperconnectivity plays a part as well. Comparing yourself to others, keeping up with the joneses etc..I mean EVERYBODY is married. A 38 year old with a handful of experience is a effing joke. Women are gonna think there's something wrong with you. I just never seemed to have a lot of 'get up and go'. Can you relate? Do you ever just want to be alone? You can masturbate and have orgasms.

I think I'm just a lazy person, tbh. I mean I'm just lazy. Shit, I've gotten numbers galore, and most of the time, I don't call because I'm too damn lazy and unmotivated to do so. I live inside my head alot. It's hard to get yourself out of a rut.

This blackpill stuff seems like a lot of vague nonsense. I mean, there may be SOME truth to it, but, like a lot things, it gets exaggerated. I think a lot these dudes have serious mental health issues only a professional would be able help. I have some hang up, though. I don't really trust a lot of people, especially women, I don't know why, I just don't trust them. There's prob some unconscious stuff going on there.

I would be interested in any tips or hacks to improve though(location, language, etc.)

If your mom and your grandma aren't on the forum, you probably won't get any pressure here to get married. And 38 isn't a bad age for a man to marry. Depending on your looks, accomplishments, and charm, a man your age could date and marry from 18 up to past your own age. There are also plenty of women who might be content with a man who doesn't chase them around the bedroom who save sex for special occasions. But you need to go into marriage with a mindset that you will meet her needs if they are more demanding than your own.. You know, "It's a tough job, but someone has to do it."

Women single at 38? That's a different story. Some of them still have their young looks at that age, but the wall is approaching. Getting pregnant is harder. If a man wants kids, that's not a very appealing age for a woman to be.