celery2010 wrote:The dorky/nerdy guys that they are with HAVE CASH or a good job. Or they just know culturally what to do to get the girls since they grew up in the culture.
The reason why you look like a mainlander is the buzz cut. People in Taiwan tend to have different haircuts and dress differently. But you'll fit in just fine in mainland.
You already qualify as "rich" as an overseas American Chinese.
It will take another 10 years for you to finally figure out how to culturally get Chinese girls. But by then you'll just blame Murphy's Law and say that by the time you finally figure things out, that you're too old to use it!
That's why dorky 1.5 gen guys are still able to get great girlfriends, they understand the culture. You have an inherent disadvantage being foreign, which you need a compensating factor for: money, looks, personality, or style. Think about it, why should they risk the familiar for something unknown without a big advantage.
That's why you will have better luck in the interior of China. But don't go too rural. But you would simply do much better if you simply adapted culturally, lost some of your stubbornness/lack of flexibility, grew some hair, lost a bit of weight and dressed more stylishly or more authoritatively. Or go back to the PI if that suits you more.
No man. Celery, dude, your view are very warped, superficial and shallow. You certainly don't have much experience with women or in life, hence you have no wisdom either. I can tell.
Sorry but you can't assume that all dorky or nerdy guys with hot girls in China or Taiwan must be rich. That's a baseless assumption. Relationships based on money only last a few days. Without chemistry, connection, comfort and compatibility, it cannot continue on. Asian women place a lot of emphasis on COMFORT and FAMILIARITY with a guy. They'd rather date an ugly guy they know than a handsome stranger. They aren't into novelty or new people at all.
Also, clothes is not a factor here. If a girl likes you, then she likes you. If not, then she doesn't. You are trying to control little things and expecting to change big things. Wishful thinking and PUA type of logic. But ultimately it fails, because real life and real women don't work that way. People do not operate according to formulas, especially women. Women are very emotional and subjective. They go by their feelings a lot. If you have money and nice clothes, you may get stares, but a girl isn't going to be your real girlfriend if the FEELING isn't there.
Anyone with life experience and wisdom knows all this. You are most likely just an armchair quarterback.
The reason I look like a mainlander is probably due to my facial expression and body language. Mainland Chinese are more real, more direct, more open and honest. They make eye contact and express their personality freely. They are not as reserved or indirect as Taiwanese or Japanese. That's how I am too. I am very upfront and direct and honest and straightforward. I look at people directly. I am not reserved or indirect or shy. I express my personality and emotions freely. That's why I act like a mainlander probably. Not because of my buzz cut. In fact, when I was in Taipei, my hair was longer and growing out. I didn't have a buzzcut. So again, you are wrong and not insightful.
You do not "figure out" how to get girls. There is no formula for getting girls. They either like who you are or they don't. Control is an illusion. Anyone who found their soulmate will tell you that it just happened NATURALLY, like the flow of a river. They didn't follow any formula or method. Duh! You are so dumb man. Like a child with no experience!
Women look at the whole package and go with their gut feeling and emotions. They don't follow formulas. You cannot "figure out" how to get them. It's not in your control. You are delusional.
I understand Chinese culture of course. Culture is not hard to understand. Many books will explain a culture. It's all about whether you FIT into a culture, not whether you understand it. I understand American culture too, but I don't fit into it or thrive in it. It doesn't fit my soul or personality or vibe.
I don't agree that the interior of China is better for me. I went to Chengdu and Xi'an. The interior parts have less educated Chinese and hence more closed minded and backward. Their social skills aren't as good. But in the bigger more modern cities like Shenzhen and Guangzhou, the women are more educated with better communication and social skills. Most of my best connections are from the coastal areas, not the interior areas.
Man you are just full of inaccuracies aren't you? lol. I'll remember NOT to ask you if I ever need advice on anything. I don't like inaccurate people who don't understand women or life or psychology, and don't have any wisdom.
Next time, just look at the photos above and comment on them. You are shallow so that's what you should do. Not give any bogus advice.
