Hey, new to the site!

Empyrian · Post by **Empyrian** » April 16th, 2012, 9:47 pm

Hey guys,

I came across the happierabroad.com website through funny circumstances. I typed in google search "starting to resent women". I felt like I was becoming a misogynist, which is not good because women are as diverse as we are. But anyway, what I realized was that I just have become very frustrated with my situation as a 25-year-old male in America. The truth is that there is
a vast space in me that longs to love an attractive and decent woman.

I've already known for a long time that I've wanted to experience cultures with women that would actually appreciate what I have to offer. I've couchsurfed in Europe and met some great girls. Also, when I was in Japan there were many girls that were interested in me and easy to talk to. I'm planning on teaching English abroad and maybe working on some organic farms to satisfy my love of travel and experiencing unfamiliar cultures and sights. I feel like I should have been born somewhere else and I do not fit into this horrible culture.

I hope to learn from the experiences of others who've traveled to better countries and share stories. Most of all I want to get some advice on where and how I should go about finding my woman in the future when I finish school and get wandering feet once again.

Ian

Post by **jamesbond** » April 16th, 2012, 10:11 pm

Welcome to the forum Empyrian. It's good to hear that you have found out at an early age that other cultures offer more to people than the US culture does.

What countries in Europe did you visit? Was there any countries you liked more than others?

colibri · Post by **colibri** » April 16th, 2012, 10:15 pm

welcome

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Empyrian · Post by **Empyrian** » April 17th, 2012, 12:56 am

I visited Denmark and Sweden, and I liked Denmark because of the atmosphere. It seemed like you could really be yourself there, and that would be fine... it seemed less dog-eat-dog and there was no pressure to constantly move yourself upwards to snag a bigger piece of the pie.

E_Irizarry · Post by **E_Irizarry** » April 17th, 2012, 3:57 pm

Empyrian wrote:I visited Denmark and Sweden, and I liked Denmark because of the atmosphere. It seemed like you could really be yourself there, and that would be fine... it seemed less dog-eat-dog and there was no pressure to constantly move yourself upwards to snag a bigger piece of the pie.

So which countries do you think (or know for a fact that you have been to) aren't dog-eat-dog? NYC in the USA is dog-eat-dog. Yucks.

Empyrian · Post by **Empyrian** » April 17th, 2012, 4:35 pm

Well, my international experience is very limited. I only spent 2 weeks in Japan, and most of my life(unfortunately) has been spent in the USA. I suspect that there are many more countries that aren't like this... since the first country I visited in Europe didn't seem like it was overly dog-eat-dog.

Also, after finding this forum and hearing it from multiple other sources, I don't think it's just confirmation bias.

Post by **Winston** » April 18th, 2012, 12:34 pm

Welcome Empyrian. Your posts have been so deep and insightful, like that of a kindred spirit. Boy did you come to the right place.

I guess maybe the law of attraction has some truth to it, in that like attracts like and birds of the same feather flock together.

But why does your user name sound like that of an Imperial Empire? lol

Empyrian · Post by **Empyrian** » April 18th, 2012, 1:24 pm

Thanks Winston. Yeah, I think it was meant to be that I came here. I'm interested in learning from you guys. I'm still pretty young but I have recently made moves to experience more of the world and non-American women and it's exciting to share stories and bounce ideas off like-minded people. I think I'll be making some good friends here.

So far I've learned about freelance writing opportunities to make money, possible ways to make money online, and other ideas to actually make things happen. It's all very daunting right now for me, but soon I'm planning on teaching English overseas. The more I learn, and the more contacts I can establish, the better. For all parties.

I'm definitely interested in talking to people that aren't just rolling around in hatred of women- yes, the majority of American women seem to suck- but I think it's just the culture. That's why I'm leaving. But the world(including the U.S.) is a really, big place. The real challenge to being a free-thinker is fighting closed-mindedness and avoiding stubborn conclusions as hard as you can. I'm admittedly idealistic at times though.

My username comes from the word "empyrean", which is the highest level of heaven as seen by some. It is described as a realm comprised entirely by pure light and flame. I changed the spelling to include my name! I just thought it was cool. It does have a bit of a commanding sound to it, though. When I was young and played video games I'd always use it to name characters that were warriors and leaders.