I'd like to be clear from the open that I strive for simpler ways and feel there are pluses and minuses to any place / people of the world.
This is not about saying some are more inferior to others. Rather, simple observations.
I've been doing a lot of reflecting and at times wonder if the high intelligence (IQ) of various western countries gets in the way of the social environment as there can just be an overall thinking too much about everything.
Over analyzing too much.
There just seems to be so much more judgement in western lands. This in itself can make it more uncomfortable going about the social environment.
Even in intimate exchanges, the people could be thinking too much about things (whether their life in general, or the person they're with) and therefore causing blocks to the nice natural flow.
While of course high intelligence can be a nice thing, such as the various inventions, creations, art, ideas, etc. that have come mostly from western lands, it can also have a negative side with the social aspect (obviously more important than those other things).
Interestingly enough, I have found that countries with high IQ (can be subjective I know, but just roll with it), then high wealth, have, high judgement, high social problems.
So I have been wondering about this and think there can a negative side to high intelligence and a connection to social disconnect issues.
Vehicles, electricity, electric lighting, refrigeration, telephones, computers, the internet, breath-taking art, etc., can all be nice, but on the other hand, I've spent times in very simple non-western places (that have been least hit by western ways), noticed they genuinely seemed more happier, had seemingly more love, the core things we all desire.
They had the true necessities, food & water (typically good healthy food), shelter and each other. So in ways, I thought they might be actually better off.
What good are all the other things, mostly material, if the core needs of a person are not being met.
Sure, the internet for example, is helping us at this forum to share experiences and thoughts on these issue we face. But we really don't NEED the net, or cars, or planes, etc.
Maybe if we lived simpler like days of long ago, or like some other cultures, we might not even be having these issues.
Now my thoughts are wandering, so on to the meat of the post.
That was a really long opening to get finally to my question.
I know for example in southeast Asia, the women can come across as more simple, sometimes even child-like.
Not saying at all that this is a bad thing, and not saying they are children!
Actually, for the reasons I've mentioned above, maybe things flow better both in everyday life and in the bed, because there is simply less analyzing, judgement, etc. More smiles, less stress, etc.
But there was a concern. Having only some brief experiences there, I can't speak with strong experience. I was imagining though that possible it might get frustrating dealing with the simple ways in the relationship.
Like the sort of frustrations an adult gets with a kid. Or less fulfilling of a relationship in that it might not go deep enough. I believe simplicity is nice, but also, when you can have real deep intellectual, spiritual relations, they are amazing when they work well.
Think of the older guy, say 40, and he happens to hook up with a college girl, back in his western land. You've heard the reports. She's hot, vibrant, youthful, fun, etc. But, he also gets annoyed by the negatives of the youthful side and prefers the 30-40 year old.
Is it like that when in relations there in southeast Asia for example?
The reason for making this post is that I don't know by experience of longer relationships in southeast Asia, just some shorter ones and general observations.
Therefore wondering what guys have to say who have more experience.
Are the girls/women, truly more simple, more youthful like. Is this good? Or does it become annoying after a while? Do you lack for the real deep connection even if she speaks great english?
Are you left eventually longing for the deeper relationship you might have in a successful western relationship? Or do you find you can relate enough and get deep enough in the relationship with a southeast Asian girl, or ones from some other lands who are sort of similar?
(There are also places in Latin America where I've observed somewhat the same type of thing, but more common in south east Asia).
Long post, but lots of details in this sort of stuff.
Ironically here I am overly thinking about things, analyzing to death, etc. Maybe I might be better served by a more simple female.
By more simple, I don't at all mean less of person. I'm sure you understand what I mean.
Thanks for your thoughts and sharing experiences.
I don't just write this post for myself, but also for other readers who may also be wondering.
