Questions to weed out scammers in online dating

[Seekeruk]

Hi guys, What are good questions to ask to sort the wheat from the chaff on online dating sites.
I am looking for my future partner, not just playing games.
I know obvious things like asking for money, sick relative etc but what other things should I watch out for.
Any advice appreciated

[Winston]

Ask her to go on webcam with you so you can see her and gauge her face and body language. Look for red flags in her behavior and body language, or signs of sincerity. Then follow your gut instinct. Vibes don't lie. Tell her you are frugal and don't like to splurge lots of money. See how she takes it. If she really likes you, she won't mind such things. Look how she dresses and what her bedroom looks like. Little things like that can say a lot. Also gauge how well she keeps her promises to show up on webcam at a certain time, etc, and see if she's flaky or reliable.

[Seekeruk]

Thanks Winston.
What are good dating sites for Asians that are in the Uk?
As COVID is stopping travel everywhere at the mo.

[AveryGavin]

Online dating can be a tricky game, and it's crucial to weed out scammers and gold diggers. One effective approach is to ask potential partners to go on a webcam. It allows you to gauge their face and body language, looking out for any red flags or signs of sincerity. Trust your gut instincts, as vibes don't lie! It's also a good idea to discuss your frugal nature and see how they react. Pay attention to their appearance and their living environment, as these little details can reveal a lot about a person. Lastly, assess their reliability by observing if they keep their promises, like showing up on a webcam at specific times.Also, you can check if your potential second half is online somewhere. I recently stumbled across https://ehocams.com, which can be helpful in this.

[Taco]

Online dating can be a tricky game, and it's crucial to weed out scammers and goldiggers.

The scammerswill never offer to cook for you. In fact, you have a better chance of being struck by lightning.

[Winston]

Filipina Pea, who is a straight shooter and intelligent articulate Filipina, explains in these videos below how to detect online scammers on Filipina dating sites. She has some good info and tells you the red flags and bad signs to watch out for.



9 ways to spot a scammer

[Voyager1]

Wish @Tsar had read this thread before he sent that 21 y/o Ukrainian girl money then she dumped him.

What'd you lose Tsar, about $20?

[Yohan]

There are always scammers around, webcam alone is not enough.

The best to get rid of them is never send a girl any money until you meet her face to face in her country. Most scammers will disappear soon from your screen.

Useful is also to ask for her address and send her a nice letter, before you get on an airplane. Maybe she is refusing to tell you where exactly she is living. Or offers only a post-box number and maybe your registered letter will be sent back to you by the post office, unknown person, incorrect address...

Her direct phone number (and not LINE etc.) might also be helpful, to avoid internet scam.

Ask for many pictures of her, full size, not only pictures of her face and check them if you find any photoshop activity on them.

There is no real clear advice how to handle scammers, maybe everything is clear and you are visiting her in person, but at the airport after arrival nobody is showing up or a girl is approaching you who looks rather different from what you have seen on the screen.

[Voyager1]

Ask for many pictures of her, full size, not only pictures of her face and check them if you find any photoshop activity on them.

Yohan, good points. After you get the pictures run them through Google reverse image search. Bing has the same thing. Run them through both. You may find that you have been corresponding with some famous or not so famous model.

This may not always work however. There was one photographer going through Ukraine offering girls money to take their photos. These were just ordinary girl next door type girls. Of course he would target the most attractive ones. He would then use these photos to scam. You could not reverse image search them though because he made those himself.

[Tsar]

Wish @Tsar had read this thread before he sent that 21 y/o Ukrainian girl money then she dumped him.

What'd you lose Tsar, about $20?

I'm still talking with her. She just has a phone that didn't work and she's probably on the poor side. The amount was about a few hundred.

[Voyager1]

I'm still talking with her. She just has a phone that didn't work and she's probably on the poor side. The amount was about a few hundred.

No, no, no, no, no Tsar. She's only still talking to you because you sent money and needs more money.

Don't send any more. Tell her you will only meet her in person.

In one of my other posts I stated that this coming Winter most likely there will be no electricity, no running water or heat in homes in Ukraine. People will freeze or starve to death. If you are going to see her, make it this spring. Still I told you about that Central Asian army that's coming to BBQ you. They will eat your flesh like dogs.

If she's real see if you can meet her there then take the bitch to Europe.

[Voyager1]

Very rarely do you have a phone that doesn't work. That was just an excuse.

[Voyager1]

Let me tell you something. Every girl in Ukraine whether she's a scammer or not a scammer needs money.

The key is not to provide any type of financial support until you've met her in person and are in a relationship. That means you're getting it frequently.

She provides you with your physical needs and you provide her material support. That's the way it works.

If you're providing her financial support and not getting anything in return then you're a loser and getting what you deserve.

Tsar and others on this forum have been warned countless times NEVER SEND MONEY. Yet they still do because they think this will be their girlfriend.

There's that classic Beatles song, Can't Buy Me Love.

No matter how much money you give or send it's never going to buy you love.

Even Tsar having made this mistake, it's still going to make the same mistake over and over and over again.

Actually as I understand he's broke and can't travel to Ukraine which is actually a blessing to him because he can't get scammed anymore.

His best bet is to regroup and gather himself together. Get himself financially stabilized then give it a try again at some point. Either that or his ship has already sailed and he should give up this idea entirely.

[Tsar]

I haven't sent her anymore money. I'll be going to Ukraine this summer if I can manage to get things worked out in the US. I have been having bad luck for months now.

[Yohan]

Very rarely do you have a phone that doesn't work. That was just an excuse.

True, sounds like that, a cheap phone with a prepaid card you can buy just everywhere in this world, and nowadays even international calls, if you keep them short, are not so expensive anymore.

Likely she is now using TWO mobile phones, one for her real friends around her and another one for her 'online customers'.

I can only repeat, do not send money to women you know only by internet, even if you see them live on your monitor screen, even if you call to them using a real phone number and not an APPS like LINE...

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About Ukraine, - now it is surely not the best time to travel there, but Ukrainian women are not restricted to walk over the border to other countries, like Romania, Turkey, etc.

I can only say, what I would do, just my opinion if I were in the situation of Tsar -
I have the money to try it out as I am curious what might happen...

I would first of all think of myself and arrange 14 days vacation in a nice place of one of the neighbouring countries. Personally (as a native Austrian) I would choose maybe Hungary, Debrecen or Slovakia, Kosice (both are not far away from Ukrainian border with open border check points). I would tell her to show up and call me after she is passing the border and will pick her up.... if she is coming that's fine, nice vacation, no idea how it might develop in future, but I would compensate her AFTER ARRIVAL for her travel expenses - and if not and she does not show up despite her promise, I still have more money left and will enjoy myself and try to meet somebody else....and travel around, maybe rent a car, enjoy good food, hiking around... plenty of other things to do....

If she is really in such bad situation as she claims (and what I do not believe she is) and hopes to meet you in person, she will find some money to show up at the border point, believe me.