How do I get a motor for life?

[Rygar1]

Hey everyone,

I've alluded to this in another thread, but I want an entire topic devoted to this issue and get others perspectives.

Basically, most of my adult life, maybe even before, I've lacked what could best be described as a 'motor' for many aspects of life. This problem only seems to be getting worse with age, and I don't want this to be the rest of my life. I feel like others have this internal, ongoing sense of fuel or drive for pursuing the things they want in life, while I just sit passively and hope they come to me(they dont) counseling hasn't really seemed to help, and I'm not sure what will.

It's like, how do you have this 'drive'for things? If you don't have it, how do you acquire it. I mean, physically, I want sex, for example, but mentally I just can't ever seem to muster up enough willpower to 'actually take action and meet real women. I just don't have this emotional drive for some reason. How doni get it? What thoughts should I think? What baby steps can I take? I wanna get laid dammit!

[MrMan]

Well maybe you should just work hard to scrape up the emotional energy to find a woman to marry. Then she can help with the drive. Especially if you have children, you will need more money. Hopefully that produces some motivation.

Don't have any curtains? You can just turn the light off, but if you have a wife, she'll say, "We should get some curtains. Do you want to go curtain shopping? How about if i just go buy some curtains.

So instead of hiding on the coach in your underpants hoping that the neighbors don't peak at you while you watch TV, you are on a ladder, hanging curtains, and then you have curtains.

Then she says, why don't we get a house? You think, "I'll have to earn some extra money if I do that" so you work overtime or get a side gig.

[yick]

That is your problem - you will die a virgin and nobody will care - so you have to find the energy for the journey.

In Thailand or the Philippines, you can have sex the day you land. Sex isn't hard to get hold of if you spread your net out wide. If you mean 'I don't want to be happier abroad, I want to find a hot woman in buttfuck hill Arkansas' well, you have to be competitive with the men around the ville, get in shape, dress better, smell better, be more interesting - a long project for some men but it can be done.

[Shemp]

Desire is the motive power of the universe. In Astrology/Tarot, desire is symbolized by the element Fire, which manifests as action in the material world or element Earth, and perceptions by the mind or spiritual world symbolized by element Air, giving rise to pleasure/pain and inner change (element Water), thereby creating new desires. As we grow old, the inner fire weakens but it is always there in some form until we die. Even those near death still want to breathe, among other basic desires, until they actually are dead.

Because the mind is a labyrinth of distorting mirrors, it is common to confuse real versus false or implanted desires. There is no easy way to tell true from false. Often we only recognize desires as false after putting great effort into satisfying them. Christians like MrMan engage in magic ceremonies (reciting incantations, laying on hands, etc) at their churches to exorcize false desires and uncover true desires. Magic is very effective with primitive minded people. Study of Astrology and Tarot is better than magic for more developed minds.

You wrote that you want sex. So that is some Fire, unless it is a false desire.This desire should lead to action in the material world.